Why is blind date always unsuccessful (the blind date success rate is only 10%)?

According to the statistics of dating websites, the comprehensive success rate of workplace blind date is only 10%.

Why is the blind date success rate low? There are three reasons:

The first reason for the failure of blind date: most people in the workplace don't pay attention to blind date.

(1) Love is an emotional behavior, which happens in an instant and has strong uncertainty and randomness.

When talking about love, you must look at your eyes. Keep your eyes open and you can continue to go down.

(2) Blind date is a rational behavior. After careful consideration, with a standard and evaluation system in mind, you can go to the evaluation desk to find the target.

Love itself is full of fun and surprises.

Blind date itself is full of affectation and trading.

So, we usually see the scene is:

A man who is usually glib and can get married suddenly becomes nervous and embarrassed, even incoherent and licks the dog when he accidentally meets the woman he likes on a casual occasion.

And a man who doesn't talk much at ordinary times will also talk about his life experience with Kan Kan on a blind date, with an ideal goal and a strong aura, and he will look like a reprimand to Fang Qiu.

Why is there such a scene?

Because of blind date, most people don't care much. Both sides of the blind date have their own chips and take what they need. Most blind date people actually go with an indifferent attitude. In the current blind date market, there are still quite a few young people who are forced to go on blind dates by their parents. They are not only unwilling to go on blind dates with young people who are forced to get married by high pressure, but also have conflicts with each other.

It is conceivable that what is the success rate of a casual encounter?

The second reason for the failure of blind date is that people in the workplace go blind date with the mentality of talking about business, which magnifies the shallowness and sophistication of blind date.

Unknown, thin-skinned, hypocritical people are expected to converge on blind date occasions.

Some people are honest, others are honest, and there is a high probability of dating. The core topics are: house, car, seat.

At the blind date scene, the proportion of rushing to fall in love accounts for at most 10%. What everyone cares about is each other's hard power. This is a bit like a military exercise, especially for the man, in order to achieve the "shock" effect of "defeating the enemy without fighting", he can't wait to triple his family wealth and inform the other party.

For many women, they rarely shy away, especially for men who don't take the initiative to talk about work and family conditions, they will take the initiative to attack, go straight to the subject and ask the key points.

Only when both men and women know each other's general family background and the current coordinate position of each other will they plan in their minds whether to continue the next communication.

Therefore, the next interaction between the blind date and the blind date is likely to follow the "hard" conditions of the other party, not because the two sides have the right eyes. The basis of the next communication is definitely not feelings, but interests.

The exchange of interests is essentially a business. Looking around the world, where can there be a business that only earns money? Where can I find sustainable enterprises in the world?

Therefore, long-term business-based blind date is really difficult.

There are three reasons for the failure of blind date: high-quality men and women, normal men and women are ashamed of blind date.

As we all know, when the accessibility of sex is getting lower and lower.

The courtship instinct driven by sexual needs has become as easy as eating.

There is a joke that all girls in Chu are looking for junior high school and below. This sentence also means that most men and women who are about to grow up and have grown up have already stolen the so-called "forbidden fruit".

If "sitting at the table" is used as a metaphor for courtship,

Then there is an obvious phenomenon:

Most people can sit at the table early, thus occupying their place at the table.

A small number of people not only sat down early, but also occupied a place in many seats. The so-called "reading countless people" and "tasting a hundred herbs".

However, only a few people, who are very old, have not sat down for a round of seats. They can only watch from a distance, and dare not approach or try. For various reasons, they can't cross the first step of sitting at the table.

There are about five situations that will cause people who eat seats to be bustling and people who look at seats to be empty:

(1) lacks charm and attraction to the opposite sex.

(2) Lack of initiative and personality defects.

(3) Poor self-conditions, such as ugliness, disability, poor family, unsatisfactory work or unemployment.

(4) frigidity, sexism and homosexuality, but it's hard to say.

(5) Workaholics, career maniacs and learning maniacs are not interested in courtship.

No matter which of these five reasons is involved, it will inevitably be excluded from courtship.

In other words, on the courtship platform, the uneven drought and flood is very prominent, and the gap between the rich and the poor is obvious. People who are too old to sit at the table are actually losers, people who are forced to stay.

They are the leftover women and men who completely missed the three golden stages of junior high school and high school. He is also an older youth with an average age of over 28.

This kind of person, to be honest, don't believe him if he says how smart he is in both sexes and how high his emotional intelligence is!

Love field is a competition field, and only those with poor skills will be forced to stay away from the mainstream rivers and lakes and seek a small folk arena.

And this small folk arena is all kinds of "dating corners", all kinds of "dating programs" and all kinds of "dating conferences".

Wulin experts and high-quality resources have fought in mainstream rivers and lakes, but in fact, only a few have fallen into small folk arenas.

Since they are a minority, their choice space is already very narrow, and their own understanding of emotions, enthusiasm for emotions, and emotional intelligence in dealing with emotional stress are all more or less problematic. Therefore, anyone who wants to say that the success rate of blind date is high and the satisfaction of blind date is high is a lie!

This can be reversed:

If blind date is a fast dating, fast food, fast pace, high satisfaction and success rate, then who is willing to invest time and emotional costs in free love? Who wants to persist in suppressing lonely long-distance love and finally make it a positive result? Who wants to persist in long-distance running for many years before finally entering the marriage hall? !

No matter how compared, blind date is essentially different from the previous matchmaker.

In any case, once the blind date market becomes more popular, it means that the emotional society is getting worse and worse.

Taking orders has always been instinct-driven, and suddenly it has become a technical job. I really don't know whether it's funny or sad!

Love depends on vision, marriage depends on strength.

People who really want to get married, don't pin their hopes on blind date, it's really unreliable.