Attitude can determine a person's fate.

Margaret Thatcher, Britain's first female prime minister, has such a classic saying:

Pay attention to your thoughts, because it can determine your words and deeds;

Pay attention to your words and deeds, because they can dominate your behavior;

Pay attention to your behavior, because it will become your habit;

Pay attention to your habit, because it can shape your character;

Pay attention to your character, because it can determine your fate.

From this classic passage, we can see that our thoughts will ultimately determine our destiny, so what determines our thoughts?

The answer is attitude. What determines our thoughts is our attitude towards one thing. Different attitudes will divide people with similar starting points, thus widening the gap of fate.

For example, Xiao A and Xiao B, who graduated from our company last year, had similar starting points, but after working this year, they embarked on a completely different path. After a year's work and study, Xiao A was rated as A in this year's year-end assessment, while Xiao B passively chose to leave his job two months ago.

Why did two people who joined the company together end up with such a big gap? In fact, the most fundamental reason is that two people have different attitudes towards work.

In the year when Xiao Ah entered the company after graduation, he has been very diligent, studying all kinds of work norms and design principles seriously, and being good at summing up his mistakes. As long as he has made a mistake once, he won't make it again. Through hard study, the drawings designed by Xiao A can not only be submitted on time, but also have excellent quality, which makes customers very satisfied every time. Therefore, the year-end assessment was recognized by the leaders and was rated as A-level.

On the other hand, Xiao B, since he entered the company after graduation, has been careless about his work, secretly playing with his mobile phone during working hours, and the design drawings are not submitted on time, and the quality of the drawings is also in a mess. Every time the leader asks, he always answers that he has just entered the company and doesn't understand many regulations, so he will make mistakes and has worked overtime every day. His implication is that I have done a lot for the company, and you can't blame me for not doing well.

Then, he treated his work with this attitude, which led to worse and worse. None of the projects that should be completed by him were completed, so that the leader no longer assigned him tasks, and finally he chose to leave. But I think if he doesn't change his attitude, his next job won't last long.

Due to different attitudes towards work, the gap between two people who started from one place is getting bigger and bigger after a period of time. Sometimes attitude really determines our fate and success.

What attitude should we have in our work and life? Teacher Wu Jun's book Attitude will give us some answers.

Attitude is a letter written by Wu Jun to her daughter who is studying in college and high school. Sincere suggestions are given on dealing with interpersonal relationships, understanding and earning wealth, insight into the world, philosophy of life and other specific problems that young people will encounter during their growth. These suggestions, either from the author's personal experience or from the successful experience of the wise men admired by the author, are of great reference value to those who are eager to improve themselves and accelerate their growth.

The following is a systematic interpretation of this book from three aspects: philosophy of life, dealing with interpersonal relationships and understanding to earn wealth.

0 1 philosophy of life

There is a lot about the philosophy of life in the book, and I mainly choose a few viewpoints that are different or particularly important from our usual cognition.

First of all, we should always keep an optimistic attitude towards life. This is the advice that Wu Jun's eldest daughter, Hua Meng, got when she left home for MIT. He hopes that his daughter can maintain an optimistic attitude towards life at any time, because only by facing life optimistically and positively can she go further.

He gave three optimistic suggestions:

1. Continue to receive education and keep pace with the times. He feels that it is a happy thing to learn, acquire new knowledge and understand the development of the world itself.

Have an ideal and work hard to realize it. This is the source of happiness, and the happiness gained by realizing the ideal is much more than that gained by any other entertainment, and this kind of happiness is more lasting.

3. Get along with others and respect and tolerate each other as much as possible. Only when we live in harmony with others can we get happiness easily.

Only when a person faces life positively and optimistically can he get the feedback from life. An optimistic attitude towards life is more important than anything else.

Another philosophy of life mentioned in this book is that success is the mother of success. This is a relatively novel statement, because we have often heard from childhood that failure is the mother of success, and no one has ever said that success is the mother of success. Why did Teacher Wu Jun say that?

This sentence was said by Teacher wujun when Meng Xin, the youngest daughter of Teacher wujun, wanted to give up learning piano. Teacher Wu Jun believes that people need to accomplish several things when they are young, and learn the successful methods through these successful processes.

He believes that if a person fails to do something, although he can sum up experience and learn lessons, even if he is closer to success, he may fall short at the last minute. Just like his little daughter, she has passed Grade 8, and now she wants to give up. It is easy to give up this time. Without successful experience, it is easy for her to give up next time she meets other problems.

Therefore, people need to succeed. Only after success once, it is easier to succeed the second and third time. So failure is not the mother of success, but success is the mother of success.

You can't give up easily on the grounds that failure is the mother of success. Only when we taste the taste of success can we know the fun and conceive the next success.

There is another view that is different from our common sense: it is better to be a better enemy. Many times, the education we receive is either not to do it or to do it, and we must do our best. However, people's ability is limited, and it is difficult for us to do one thing best at once.

Teacher Wu Jun thinks that many times, some people do nothing not because they don't want to do it, but because they blindly pursue the best and finally get nothing.

Do something, don't stop doing it because you are afraid of doing it badly. You must know that the world is not perfect. In any case, only by starting to do it can we get closer to perfection. We are not afraid of doing things slowly, but we are afraid of stopping.

It's like learning to write. At first, I'm afraid I can't write well. I thought that no one would be laughed at after reading it, so I didn't put it into action and kept watching and admiring others.

Until later, I attended a writing class, and the teacher often said that completion is more important than perfection. We can't pursue perfection from the beginning, which will only hurt our self-confidence and make us unable to persist. When we begin to do something, we must first pursue completion, no matter how difficult it is, we must finish it first, and then constantly improve, update and approach perfection.

So, now I stop watching and start to act. No matter how busy I am at work, I insist on writing something every week. Even if it's still not good, it's much better than nothing I've done. As long as I keep doing it, I will keep summarizing and updating, and I believe my article will get better and better.

Remember, completion is more important than perfection.

02 interpersonal communication

We can't avoid communication in the process of interpersonal communication, and we must ensure effective communication when communicating.

In the course of work, we sometimes see such a scene. Zhang San asked Li Si to finish one thing through WeChat. Li Si didn't look at his mobile phone because of his busy work. After time, Zhang San found that Li Si didn't start doing it at all. So Zhang San was angry because Li Si didn't finish the work, and Li Si was also very wronged. He didn't mean it. He didn't see the mobile phone WeChat because he was busy with other things.

This is because there is no effective communication. Effective communication means that we accurately convey things to each other, and make sure that the other party understands what we mean, and then determine whether the other party agrees or refuses. No matter what the result is, we must draw a conclusion, and the communication will be over. Only effective communication can avoid misunderstandings in work and life.

Therefore, in the process of communicating with people, we must first communicate effectively. On the premise that the other party really thinks, we can't take it for granted that if we say it, others will certainly receive our message.

Secondly, when we communicate, we must communicate with what the other person understands, and avoid showing off our knowledge and complicating simple problems.

Third, communication should be concise and to the point, and learn to concentrate. Don't explain a thing without focus.

Finally, remember that eloquence does not mean good communication. The purpose of communication is to make the other party accept their own ideas, not refute them. When persuading others, rhetoric and eloquence can never compare with some facts.

We will face another problem in the process of interacting with others, that is, we don't know how to refuse others, especially at work. In the face of colleagues' requests, we usually can't refuse directly, but sometimes we are at a loss, which eventually leads to a thankless situation.

In the face of other people's requirements, we must first divide each other's requirements into four categories:

1. Can't help. We will immediately politely refuse such a request, and we must tell the other party the reason. In general, as long as we sincerely tell each other the reasons, the other party will understand us.

I can help, but I don't want to help, because my price is too high and I spend too much energy. In this way, if you don't want to do it, don't force yourself, because what you force yourself to make won't be very good, but in the end both sides will be unhappy. In the face of this situation, we should also inform each other at the first time and make our difficulties clear.

No matter how difficult it is, you are willing to help, and you are likely to do it. At this time, you will promise each other and then go all out to do it.

Although willing to help, it may not help. At this time, you should tell the other party your actual situation, and don't promise easily, and don't clap your chest.

In the process of getting along with others, sincerity is the most important. As long as you keep this, people will not blame you and stay away from you because you didn't help what you couldn't do.

In the process of helping others, we should also avoid the following four things:

1. In order to show their ability to brag, sometimes they brag for the sake of face, but they can't cash it, and eventually they hurt others and themselves.

2. Provide cheap compensation for what people can't do. This kind of proposal is only to alleviate the embarrassment caused by our helplessness, but it is not a good choice for others.

3. Help and expect returns. Sometimes, when we help others, we always think that they will help us when we need it, but once they don't come back to help us, we will feel uneasy and lead to cracks in our feelings. So since you choose to help, don't expect anything in return.

4. Help those who violate the principle. At any time, we should set our own bottom line, stick to our principles and resolutely refuse to help those who violate them.

03? About money

Money is an indispensable thing in our life. As the saying goes, money is not everything, but it is absolutely impossible without money. Therefore, how to treat money correctly and how to invest is also a course that everyone should learn.

Nowadays, due to the rapid development of society, many people want to make "big money" and get rich overnight, and they are dismissive of making "small money". Therefore, many people blindly resign and start businesses without seeing the truth, and eventually fail.

J.P. Morgan said, "People who let small money slip away at will can't keep big money." If you want to make "big money", you must start with "small money". Don't dream of getting rich overnight, try to improve yourself. When you strive to improve yourself, money will keep coming to you.

When we are working to earn money, we should not spend money indiscriminately and should not be a moonlight family. At the same time, we can't be stingy and save money blindly. If one thing can solve the problem better by spending money, then don't be stingy and spend generously. The money spent at this time may be returned several times in the future.

For example, if we want to learn a new skill, then don't be afraid to spend money and think for ourselves. Paying to learn from professionals will be a hundred times stronger than our own exploration. This kind of expense will enable us to learn and understand the skills we want to learn quickly, so as to avoid detours and improve ourselves quickly.

In this book, Mr. Wu Jun also gives some advice about the first investment. First of all, Mr. Wu Jun is very much in favor of his daughter Hua Meng's investment in the stock market, but at the same time he also gives four basic suggestions:

1. Never think that you can beat the market. That means no sleep? I think my performance will be better than that of index funds.

? 2. Have confidence in the market. Objectively speaking, the stock market has been online for a long time.

Although the stock market will always rise back when it falls, a single stock may not necessarily. Because there are only immortal enterprises in the world, and there are no immortal companies.

Time is your friend, but timing is not. Smart investors always invest in the stock market instead of trying to speculate on the lowest and highest points. The key to getting rid of bad luck is patience and making time our friend.

Therefore, based on the above four points, the best way to invest for the first time is to invest in index funds.

The last thing to note is that once you invest in stocks, don't stare at the price every day, which will make you suffer. People who operate stocks every day are sending money to the stock market. Only those who can swallow their pride can make money.

And when we invest, don't touch three red lines:

1. Don't make an investment that is too risky and will lead to disaster. For example, shorting stocks and leveraging investments.

2. Don't make investments you don't understand. On the one hand, comparing your own shortcomings with others' strengths, the chances of winning are very small. On the other hand, there are often many traps in investment that you don't understand.

Finally, don't be jealous that others have seized fleeting investment opportunities or speculative opportunities, and don't lose your mind. Don't try to grasp the so-called time point when investing.

These three suggestions are like three red lines of high-voltage electricity, so investors should not cross them easily.

Although this book's attitude is much simpler than Wu Jun's other books, it is Wu Jun's full love for his two daughters. This book is very suitable for college students and high school students to read, from which many successful experiences can be gained.

A person's attitude towards things can make people do simple things unexpectedly brilliantly. A person's attitude determines his fate.

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