Why can’t jokes be taken too far?

When a few good friends get together, they joke around, entertain each other, and talk without restraint, which is a joyful thing. However, everything has its advantages and disadvantages. Extreme joy brings sorrow, and things that make friends unhappy because of jokes are often encountered. Therefore, some people even think that joking during conversations should be avoided. This is unnecessary. If good friends are not allowed to even joke when they meet, then life would be too boring. Therefore, what we really need to pay attention to in life is the way to joke, that is, not to overdo the joke.

So, before making a joke, you must first pay attention to whether the person you are facing can bear your joke. Generally speaking, people can be divided into three categories: The first type of people are cunning and smart. The second type of person is honest and honest. The third type is somewhere in between. If you make fun of the first type of person, that is, the cunning and clever person, he will not let you take advantage of him. The second type, the honest and honest person, has no way to fight back and no resistance. This kind of person likes to laugh with everyone and let you make fun of him. He has a good temper and will not get angry. For the first and second types of people, you can look at the other person's situation and know whether they can joke or not. Only the kind of people in between should be taken seriously. This kind of person probably likes to laugh with others, but when others make fun of him, he has neither the intelligence nor the wit to retaliate immediately, nor the tolerance to accept other people's jokes. If he is a man, he will become angry and resentful, and if he is a woman, he will become angry and resentful. Then he cried bitterly alone, saying that he was bullied. So before joking, you need to get to know the person first. Secondly, enough is enough. When joking, just say one or two sentences and that's it. Don't make jokes about one person all the time, nor make jokes about several people in a row, otherwise you will definitely attract unwelcome attention.

Joking is a good way to adjust the atmosphere of the conversation, but it embarrasses the other party and is not the way to joke. You laugh at your classmate who failed the exam, you laugh at your friend who is afraid of his wife, you laugh at your relative who was cheated and lost money in business, you laugh at your companion who fell while walking... These are all events that require sympathy. , but you use it to make fun of, which not only makes it difficult for the other party to step down, but also shows your coldness. Similarly, you should not use other people's physical defects as material for your jokes, such as squinting eyes, pockmarks, lameness, hunchback, etc. You should sympathize with others who are unfortunate. If one of the people you are talking to has a physical disability, it is most important to avoid jokes that are likely to remind people of the disability.

For example: One day, several colleagues were chatting in the office. One of them, Ms. Li, mentioned that she got a pair of glasses yesterday, so she took them out to let everyone see if she looked good wearing them. Everyone didn't want to spoil her fun and said it was very good. At this time, my colleague Lao Wang remembered a joke about this incident and immediately said it: "An old lady walked into a leather shoe store and tried on several pairs of shoes. When the shoe store owner knelt down to measure her feet, this An old lady was short-sighted. When she saw the shop owner's bald head, she thought it was her own knees that were exposed, so she quickly covered them with her skirt. Immediately she heard a muffled cry - "Asshole!" the shop owner yelled. He asked, "The fuse is broken again?"

There was a burst of laughter. Unexpectedly, she never saw Miss Li wearing glasses afterwards, and she never said hello to Lao Wang again when she met him.

The reason is self-evident. The speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional. When Lao Wang thinks about it, he only thinks of a short-sighted joke. However, Miss Li may think this way: others laugh. It doesn’t matter that I wear glasses, it also implies that I am an old lady.

So, before you tell a joke, you should first think about who you are telling it to, and first think about whether it will cause serious misunderstanding by others. Like Lao Wang in the above example. It hurts a person's self-esteem in a way he didn't expect.