We have been together for two years, and you still ask me for a bride price of 30 thousand. How does it feel?

I heard a joke before, although it is true, but it makes people feel very sad after reading it.

This joke probably means something like this. You spent100000 on a dress, even if you don't like it, you can't bear to throw it away because you bought it at a high price.

But if a piece of clothing has been worn for two years and someone suddenly asks you for100000, you will definitely not choose to give money, but throw it away.

Yes, the clothes in the paragraph probably refer to women. Comparing women to clothes is a bit excessive, but we have to admit that this metaphor is actually very close to reality.

Men always think that girls should not ask for a bride price after they are with themselves. Now that they've got it, why pay for it? Such efforts will make them unwilling.

This is why we often see such cases in real life. A man would rather spend 10 million to marry a blind date than find a girlfriend who has been with him for many years.

He feels that after being with his girlfriend for many years, the other party should not ask for a bride price, but need money to get home. He felt very uncomfortable, but if he met other girls through blind date, no matter how much bride price they wanted, he would probably agree. This is probably a psychological feature.

Just such psychological characteristics are actually ridiculous. They thought they had chosen a good result, but they were completely wrong.

One is affection, and the other is a stranger. They would rather get in touch with a stranger than respect their girlfriends, perhaps because they have never loved each other.

Luo Jun is 29 years old and is planning to marry his girlfriend. As for his marriage, his family is at a loss. After all, he is old enough to talk about marriage, and his parents hope that he can enter the marriage hall as soon as possible.

Two years ago, he made a girlfriend. After two years of getting along, they decided to step into the marriage hall together, but when talking about marriage, they had a very serious quarrel over the bride price.

Luo Jun took his girlfriend to meet his parents, and then he went to meet other parents. Both parents have no opinion about their marriage, so they discuss getting married.

Because they are not young and have saved a lot of money, it is not a problem to pay a down payment in their local small county, so they discuss getting married, not relying on their parents, as long as they can buy a house, which they just have the ability.

Luo Jun was immersed in joy, but at this moment his girlfriend told him that it was a custom to give her a bride price of 30,000 yuan when she got married.

Girlfriend means that according to their local customs, the bride price is generally 80 thousand, but they have been together for two years and are going to buy a house, so there is not so much bride price, so just go through the motions for 30 thousand.

I have to admit that from the perspective of others, his girlfriend is really a very sensible girl, and a bride price of 30 thousand yuan is rare in the local area. Most families need 80 thousand yuan, and some families may need more than100 thousand yuan.

I thought Luo Jun would be very moved, but I didn't expect his response to make my girlfriend particularly sad.

He said, "What? Do you want a bride price? We have been together for two years, and you still ask me for a bride price of 30 thousand yuan. Where do you put our feelings? "

Luo Junjie's girlfriend's request is simply unreasonable. In his view, it is impossible. They have been together for two years, not through blind date. When it comes to marriage, they buy a house together, then live together and give a bride price. This is just a business deal.

Luo Jun thought so and said so, but his words hurt his girlfriend's heart. You know, in the past two years, my girlfriend has always been very sensible.

Boyfriends who fall in love with others send red envelopes, buy things and spend all kinds of money. In fact, he has not spent much money in the past two years. Even if the money is spent, he will be rewarded accordingly.

For example, he gives money almost every time he goes out to eat, so his girlfriend will make up the money in other ways, such as buying him some gifts. In short, he has never lost money in the past two years.

In the eyes of others, he is really lucky. He met a nice girl, but he didn't mean to. Maybe it's because he has it that he doesn't know how to cherish it.

Or maybe he was in it without realizing it. He always thought this was what his girlfriend should do. Now when it comes to marriage, he insists on not giving the bride price.

My girlfriend has always been considerate before, arguing about everything, but she will never compromise on the bride price.

She replied: "You ask where our feelings are? I want to ask you where you respect me. Other people's bride price is at least 80 thousand, and I only want 30 thousand You still don't like it. Where did you put our two-year relationship? "

They had a big fight about it. Luo Jun insisted that there was nothing wrong with him, but there was something wrong with his girlfriend. In this way, they have been in a state of cold war.

A month after their cold war, he found that his girlfriend had actually made a new boyfriend, a man he used to know. He had always had a crush on his girlfriend, but because of his existence, he didn't pursue it. Now he can take advantage of people's danger, but all this is caused by Luo Jun himself.

When Luo Jun questioned his girlfriend on the phone, she said that they had broken up, but Luo Jun felt that they were just in the cold war and didn't break up at all.

Anyway, now that my girlfriend has decided to be with someone else, that man is going to give120 thousand a bride price.

Luo Jun suddenly didn't know what to do. He missed a good girl, a girl who was willing to buy a house with him and only wanted a bride price of 30,000 yuan, but he didn't know how to cherish it.

Maybe he doesn't know that whenever he goes on a blind date in the future, he will definitely meet different requirements, such as adding a name to the house and giving a bride price of more than 80 thousand, otherwise he won't marry a girl at all.

Maybe at that time, he will regret it and understand how big a mistake he has made now.

Excessive bride price is not desirable, and appropriate bride price is a custom.

As long as it is not a high bride price,100,000 or 200,000, or it causes a very serious burden to the man's family, then the bride price should be given, because it symbolizes the man's respect for the woman.

Generally speaking, starting from 20 1 1 year, the state stipulates that bride price is not allowed. In fact, this is taken out of context. The state has never stipulated that the bride price should be cancelled, only that it should not be a burden to the man's family.

Many girls care about this. If the man does not give the bride price, the girls will feel very sad and always feel that the man's family intends to look down on themselves.

If the girl's request is reasonable, the man should pay the bride price within an appropriate range to show his respect for the woman.

If the woman's family only asks for tens of thousands of bride price, the man's family is not poor. In fact, the money should be paid, but the woman should also give the corresponding dowry when she gets the bride price. This has been the case since ancient times. Bride price and dowry always appear at the same time.

Anyway, getting married is actually good for everyone. Based on this, everyone should look on the bright side, and never let a relationship end completely because of the bride price, which is very unworthy.

Sometimes you can see through a person through a bride price. If a man doesn't even want to pay tens of thousands of dollars for a bride price, then this marriage is actually not that important to everyone, or you are not that important in his mind. I hope all girls can meet people who really love themselves.