Why do many people now choose not to get married and have children?

Unmarriage and infertility will become a mainstream trend

I remember when we were young, how many adults around us were unmarried and had several children? Even if there were so many in every village, A few old bachelors are also pitied by the people around them for a lifetime. Not getting married or having children. In those days, not many people dared to think about it. If they tried, they would have to endure half a lifetime of gossip and even look-downs.

Nowadays, when people reach middle age, there are many people around them who choose not to get married or have children.

As for society as a whole, the marriage rate and birth rate have hit record lows. For example, in January 2019, there were only more than 9.47 million registered marriage couples in the country, and the number of singles has exceeded 260 million.

Looking at the reasons, I think there are three main points:

1. The cost of getting married and having children is too high.

In Chinese people’s minds, most people believe that getting married requires buying a house, with the man giving a gift or a down payment, the woman giving a dowry, etc. However, when buying a house alone, housing prices remain high. For ordinary families, it is already expensive. It emptied six wallets of three families, and the mortgages occupied the wallets for the next two to thirty years.

Not to mention the financial and energy costs of having and raising children.

2. People’s ideas are changing, and they no longer want to make do with marriage.

More and more people realize that an unhappy marriage is more terrifying than being single, so if they don’t meet another suitable or exciting person, they are willing to be single rather than settle for nothing.

For many people, marriage is no longer a necessity, but a choice.

3. The responsibilities of getting married and having children are too great, and marriage is far from being as good as imagined. On the one hand, marriage means the union of two or three families.

Human relationships, marriage, responsibilities and obligations of having children, etc.

They are all too heavy, and some people think that they are not enough to bear their responsibilities:

On the other hand, married life is too trivial. Many people regard marriage as the tomb of love, and happiness is far away. Below expectations.

In short, there are reasons to get married, and there are reasons to say no to not getting married. I think that each of us, when faced with the issues of marriage or not, and life or not, should respect other people’s choices, but don’t judge too much, and don’t laugh at anyone. That’s all!