How to master the discretion when joking?

In interpersonal communication, an appropriate joke can relax the nerves, activate the atmosphere and create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere suitable for communication, so humorous people can often be welcomed and loved by people. However, if you joke badly, it will be counterproductive, embarrassing and even hurt your feelings. Therefore, it is necessary to master the discretion when joking.

The content should be elegant The content of a joke depends on the thought and cultural accomplishment of the joker. The jokes with healthy content and elegant style not only inspire each other and enjoy the spirit, but also effectively shape their own beautiful image. Pianist Pochi once found that half of the seats were empty when playing. He said to the audience, "Friends, I find that people in this city are very rich. I see that each of you bought tickets for two or three seats. " Then, the audience in this half room burst into laughter. Bocci's harmless jokes left a deep impression on the city and achieved the effect of turning defeat into victory.

Being kind to others is a principle of joking. The process of joking is the process of communicating with each other and conveying feelings. If you laugh at others through jokes and vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction, you will never know unless you are a fool. Maybe some people are as glib as you. On the surface, you have the upper hand, but others will think that you don't respect others, so they don't want to associate with you.

Besides language, we can sometimes make others laugh through actions and actions. There is a young couple who have a good relationship and can't stop telling jokes all day. One day, the husband fiddled with a shotgun and said to his wife, "Don't move, or I'll kill you!" " "Said and pulled the trigger. As a result, his wife was seriously injured by accident. It can be seen that jokes must not be overdone.

To distinguish the same joke, you can play it on A, but not on B. People have different identities, personalities and moods, and have different tolerance for laughter.

Generally speaking, the younger generation should not joke with the older generation; Don't joke with superiors at lower levels; Men shouldn't joke with women. When joking between peers, we should master each other's personality and emotional information.

The other person is extroverted, tolerant and patient, and can forgive a little joke. The other person is introverted and likes to ponder between the lines. Be careful when joking. Although the other person is usually cheerful, if you happen to be unhappy or sad, you can't just make a joke, and the effect will be unexpectedly good.

Distinguish between occasions and jokes, not vulgarity, especially occasions and objects.

Before a congressional meeting, US President Ronald Reagan said, "Attention, gentlemen, in five minutes, I will bomb the Soviet Union." This word is both prominent and awkward. Reagan played a ridiculous joke on the wrong occasion and at the wrong time. To this end, the Soviet government made a strong protest. Generally speaking, it is not appropriate to joke on serious occasions.

In addition, the taboo of joking mainly includes the following points:

(1) Don't be frivolous and presumptuous when joking with elders and juniors, especially when talking about men and women. The jokes of generations under one roof should be elegant, witty, humorous, entertaining and enjoyable. Avoid talking about men and women on this occasion. When the peers are joking on the one hand, and the elders or junior are present, it is best not to mix words and listen casually.

(2) Don't joke when you are alone with the unrelated opposite sex (except husband and wife, of course). Even a serious joke will often arouse the antipathy of the other party, or cause speculation and criticism from others. Pay attention to keep a proper distance. Of course, don't be shy and embarrassed.

(3) Make fun of disabled people and pay attention to taboos. Everyone is afraid of others making fun of their shortcomings, especially the disabled. As the saying goes, don't scold baldies in front of monks, and don't say light bulbs in front of lazarillo DE tormes.

(4) When friends accompany guests, avoid joking with friends. People have the same topic, which leads to a harmonious atmosphere. If you suddenly interrupt to make fun, divert people's attention, interrupt people's topics and ruin the conversation, friends will think that you have swept his face.