Complaining about others is actually torturing yourself.

Zhu Lina is an excellent fashion designer now, and she is also her own model. She has a great figure and can fully control the career of modeling. All her friends have no doubt about it. However, few people know that this beautiful woman used to be a 200-pound fat man. I'm sorry to use the name "big fat man" here, but she doesn't mind today. However, during the period of her obesity, she was disgusted with the title of "big fat man". Zhu Lina hates being mentioned about her figure. Even if someone kindly reminds her to lose weight for health, she will secretly complain: "What a nuisance, it's none of his business." We know that inferiority makes her like this, and we try to understand her. However, after listening to such complaints, I always feel that she is disgusting. As for herself, obviously, life is not carefree. She is like a fighter every day, just fighting with herself.

Once, ballets russes came to Los Angeles to perform, and Zhu Lina and his friends went to see the performance. Along the way, Zhu Lina seemed restless. She kept saying, "I really shouldn't have come to the show." Someone will definitely laugh at me. " "Oh, damn, what should I do? I must go to the ballet. I am three times as big as those ballerinas. " "I still have a lot of work to do, but I'm wasting my time here." As a result, the good times were full of such complaints. Of course, several friends who went with them also frowned and expressed their dissatisfaction.

Needless to say, watching, "complaining about fat sister" is becoming more and more talkative. With the fantastic dance on the stage, the sharp complaining language in the ear is particularly discordant. Oh, what? Ironically, she began to complain that the dancers on the stage were not professional enough! Everyone held back their dissatisfaction and felt sorry for her. Yes, she's complaining. In fact, she is torturing herself. While fighting against her misfortune, she lost the opportunity to appreciate beautiful things.

A friend who went with me finally couldn't help saying when she went to the bathroom in Zhu Lina, "Before, I only thought her body was fat, but now I think her mind is swollen, too. What a wonderful dance performance she ruined. Isn't she ashamed of it? This fat woman! " Excited, he spoke louder and louder, and Zhu Lina, who had just returned from the bathroom, heard him.

Zhu Lina left angrily. The friend who "made trouble" showed a guilty look and said, "Oh, shit! I am angry because she has been complaining, but I am also complaining about her! " The friend was sad for several days and finally had to apologize to Zhu Lina. Fortunately, Zhu Lina accepted his apology by letting bygones be bygones.

Interestingly, it was Zhu Lina who was dissatisfied at first, but when this friend began to complain about her, he became what he thought was a "bad guy". He even thinks he is more hateful than Zhu Lina.

However, Zhu Lina also saw her own problems through this incident, and she began to understand that a woman who always chatters and only complains is unlovable, which has nothing to do with her body shape. When she decided to lose weight, she also decided to get rid of complaints. Now, in addition to her beautiful appearance, she also has a calm heart. When she meets anything, she learns to look at herself first instead of complaining about others. And she also said that this state made her very happy.