This kind of love is a little sad. ...

There are all girls upstairs, aren't there? Then you must read what I said-if you want to solve the problem, you don't want to break up with her!

It's only been three months It's normal to spend money chasing girls. She didn't ask you for anything, did she? It's a good start for her to give you money. Maybe she is also very upset and doesn't know how to solve this problem. But, as far as I'm concerned, if I want to be nice to a man, I'll spend his money or do it myself, and I don't owe him anything. This idea is not very strange. Zhang Ailing once said: "It is a kind of happiness to spend my man's money." It is not necessarily vanity for women to spend men's money. More often, she just wants a little woman to feel loved, which you must understand.

Again, talk about the crux. Little girls can't understand men's physical needs, and with traditional family education, she will think that communication is for health, and it is normal for girls to suffer. If she has this idea, don't blame her, because her mother taught her this way, her grandmother taught her mother this way, and if you have a sister, your mother will teach your sister the same way. And your performance may be really impatient-there is a requirement that you can't have any physical contact with her for the next three months, just take care of her and care about her. If unfortunately I guess your real experience, then you can't blame her, because at this time, the girl's mood is very complicated, and she may not be troubled by guilt for a day. In her mind, no matter what you do, she is a loser. If this really happens, you should be doubly kind to her (hehe, if you are not tired and want to break up, if you are not a bad person who wants to have fun), otherwise you may leave a shadow in your heart for a lifetime, and then money will not solve it, and you will be a bad person in his heart all your life.

In fact, for feelings, three months is a hurdle. Boys may be too passionate and start thinking about substantive issues, or they may be shameless and start looking for other things to play with (it turns out that my classmate's boyfriend in college is a different class, attending classes at different times and starting to go to and from school every day, with snacks and water in his hand. Later, she said, you see, when we are stable, I should make time for other things. Students are so sad. Men and women think and deal with problems in different ways. Maybe men think chasing girls is like playing games. They are very serious when they play. When they finish the game, it's like finishing a task, so they can leave it alone. While girls are slowly heating up, they hope that their feelings will become stronger and stronger. Three months, maybe she just began to trust you and began to put more and more feelings into you. At this time, of course, she wants you to return more, but of course she won't open her mouth to tell you (you are not cute if you are too straightforward). At this time, if you unconsciously ignore her (and physical requirements), it will remind her of the traditional education of her elders, both men. After that, she fell into self-pity, but she refused to talk about it. She was just angry. Two people start with cold violence, and then you think she is getting less and less cute and unreasonable, and finally break up. You will do great harm to her, and you can't make up for it in this life (if you want her to remember you in this way, boy, you are good).

If she has formed the present habit, it is not her fault, but yours. From the beginning, it should be normal for men to pay the bill. If your financial ability is limited, why not show it at the beginning? Instead, indulge her like this. If you want to spend less money now, I'm sorry, she will think your feelings for her have faded. Why else would you refuse to spend? Maybe she doesn't know your financial ability at all, how much money you have every month and how much money you spend on her. Maybe she's embarrassed to give you money and doesn't know how much. You want her to pay the bill herself. Can you stand that feeling? When I go out to eat with a man, I never pay the bill, even if I give him a gift or something later, because it's really humiliating for a girl to pay the bill at the dinner table-it's humiliating for a man (in the past, a sister earned 8000 yuan, and her boyfriend only earned 800 yuan, and she handed the wallet to the boy from the floor of the table every time she checked out, although it was also humiliating. If I may put money in his wallet when I go out, it's a lot like your girlfriend, right? It's different.

Once upon a time, there was a boyfriend who earned a lot of money and spent money going out. He was also willing to go to places where he spent a lot of money. His friends are also very extravagant. In fact, I feel very tired and want to socialize, but I also feel that the relationship between the two people is not very good and I don't want to owe him a favor. I know what kind of watch he wants to buy and give it to him during the holiday (it's really expensive-according to my income). Later, we broke up. Now, with my husband, we get along like family. Although we all spend his money-he is not less upset. A few months ago, it was a holiday, and I was addicted to online shopping. I really didn't spend less-but I sometimes buy things for him, sometimes for demand, and sometimes at random, but these are all cash (he also paid a credit card). In fact, no girl will think that spending your money all the time will make her feel nothing, unless she is the kind of person who deliberately does it for money (then why does she want to talk to you), maybe she will want to show it, but she can't find a way. After all, it's only been three months, and no one is born to be a girlfriend, like the girl upstairs who said she would think of her boyfriend. I don't know how much experience she has as a girlfriend-but ask yourself, are you a boyfriend who knows his girlfriend? It's only been three months. It's normal not to know each other, but it's important that you try your best to get to know her and give her a chance to know what you want, so don't give any hints and see her reaction.

Spending money with her sounds like a good idea, but she must agree, because it looks more like she wants your money, doesn't it? And girls prefer the feeling of coquetry when boys pay the bill. I think if you weren't so embarrassed that time, she would be more willing to put the money in your place (why can't you accept it? Even if you are married, it is normal for men to manage their finances. If you have no money, you can find time to work. Not only can you earn some money, but you can also find a job by accumulating some work experience. Is it bad that two people can have multiple dating sites? Take him to see your work occasionally, let her know how hard it is for you to be together, and I believe she will feel sorry for you and understand you. Spending your money on your girlfriend is not better than spending money at home. The family gives you money to study. It is your own need to have a girlfriend. From the moment you have a girlfriend, you are an adult, and you have to pay for your actions.

Of course, communication is also necessary, but it should be done slowly and imperceptibly, and it can't be said at once, which will hurt people. Couples sometimes quarrel over money, what's more, it's only three months, and money is hard to talk about. I remember that if she can communicate directly like you, then she is a man. There are many twists and turns in the girl's heart. Maybe she doesn't respond on the surface, but her heart will leave a shadow for your words.

In addition, I want to reiterate that when men and women communicate, men think that women are for money, and women think that men are for sex. This is a common but easy misunderstanding, which is caused by public opinion. Many people who posted replies upstairs hold this view. I believe that if your girlfriend asks questions, she will answer another point of view. Men care about their money and women care about their health. So when you suspect that she is for your money, don't blame her for suspecting that you are for sex. Son, don't go into this misunderstanding again. Feelings at your age should be the best and purest. Don't always think that she is after money, because you haven't seen all the girls who look at money.

I saw an interview with Sun Li and Deng Chao two days ago. They said that their view is that love is not a matter of two people, but a matter of one person. If both sides can demand more from themselves and less from each other, they will be very happy. It's okay. Don't always think about breaking up. Maybe there are always some people around you who want you to break up regardless of the chaos in the world. They're not you. They can't feel your inner feelings. But there are many such people. If you break up, when you are sad and regret, it will inevitably shake your heart and they will not help you.

Boo-hoo, I'm exhausted from writing so much. Only two points. I should answer some topics that I am good at.

But I wrote it because I don't want you to look back many years later and leave regrets. Cheer for yourself!

I don't know what to say after reading your update. Young girls don't understand, and young boys just want others to understand. Then do you know why the elders tell their children not to fall in love early? Because you can't afford it at all, the economic base determines the superstructure. I think it's fun to make friends when I have plenty of money, and I like girls in all aspects. Girls take it for granted and form habits. They may want to change for a long time, but their behavior is not good either. When you are in financial trouble, you will feel burdened, and it is even easy for two people to doubt each other's fundamental feelings-in fact, this is normal, and it happens to many adults, but if you have no financial security, this situation is more likely to happen and the relationship is weaker.

To solve this problem, the first thing is to put down your self-esteem, tell her that your economy is really not so affluent, and you also want to (where to take her to play, or what gift to give her-please choose), choose a short-term goal, let her help you save money, and say that you don't want to spend the money innocently, just want to leave better memories. Then we'll see how she performs. If she is obviously cold to you, or has not changed-then you should consider it. If she is also looking forward to future surprises and slowly corrects them, then you don't have to worry so much, do you?

Of course, it is also important to be nice to girls at ordinary times, but when your economic energy is limited, you can relax your requirements at ordinary times. There are a few days that you must never forget-her birthday, Valentine's Day (now derived from Qixi), Christmas and New Year's Day. If you still have the strength, it is good to have a little gift or not be around. Send sweet greetings by SMS. You'd better do your homework first, understand her preferences, and then choose it as a surprise for her, so that you can control the budget yourself. You'd better decide your own itinerary for the day, so that you can take the initiative and there will be no emergencies-you can go to the playground if you have money, and you can go to the movies if you don't have money (well, it doesn't seem to be very cheap either), but don't let her drag you around the mall-then you will be miserable and you won't really let her spend it to save face. If she is a shopaholic, you'd better communicate with her more in the future and let her go with her good friends. As a man, you really can't stand shopping. Otherwise, there is another trick I strongly recommend to you. LG used it on me-taking her to the electronic mall as an excuse to keep shuttling among those spare parts, so that she would be bored, and then you said, that's how I feel when I go shopping with you.

Uh, almost.