After marriage, I found that my mother-in-law's three views were wonderful. How can I stay away from her?

Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem in family life. Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are originally two generations of two families. Now, in order to love the same man and live together, two strangers are forced to integrate into a family life. There are great differences in living habits and concepts, which will inevitably lead to various misunderstandings and contradictions.

After marriage, I found that my mother-in-law's three views were wonderful. How can I stay away from her?

1. Don't try to change your mother-in-law with your own ideas.

Everyone has everyone's outlook on life, values and money. These ideas can't be formed in a day or two. Your mother-in-law is a few decades old, and the three views have been set. It's hard for you to change her with your own ideas. The only thing you can do now is to keep your correct three views free from the influence of your mother-in-law, not to have direct conflict with her mother-in-law, to be patient appropriately, to listen to her left ear and her right ear, and then to spend more time together.

2. You can choose to live separately from your in-laws if you have the conditions.

Living apart from in-laws after marriage is not only unfilial. Doing so will not only reduce many contradictions in your life, but also produce a kind of beauty from a distance. As long as you are sincerely filial to your in-laws, it doesn't matter if you don't live together. If you have time to visit the two old people often and show sincere filial piety to them, they will feel it. I think this way will effectively reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

3. Use your own practical actions to subtly influence your mother-in-law's three views.

A mother-in-law is a person who has experienced the life of a daughter-in-law. Now she finally changed from a daughter-in-law to a mother-in-law. Her authority at home cannot be challenged by a daughter-in-law who has just entered the door. Even if she realizes that she has three wonderful views, she will never admit it in front of you. As a daughter-in-law, she should also understand her mother-in-law's psychology. Don't preach to your mother-in-law, just use your correct and reasonable outlook on life to influence your mother-in-law subtly.

Generally speaking, every family has a difficult experience, especially on the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. For the sake of family harmony, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law should be considerate of each other. As long as there is no question of principle, everyone will take a step back, and people will have feelings as long as they get along for a long time. It is the best way to communicate with contradictions and problems.