Reduce one-way output, and parent-child companionship is a two-way interaction to promote mutual growth.

It is said that parents and children have a fight, but it is the fate of drifting away, which means that you should always look at his distant back in this life. This sentence is very sad to read, but it is actually reminding us not to give each other too much company, and to cherish the company time now.

Moreover, we don't have to talk about "companionship" and put ourselves on the role of giver, because the companionship we talk about never benefits only children. While we are accompanying our children, the children are also accompanying us with their heart. In this process, with the freshness and growth of the harvest, it has a two-way effect on both parents and children.

Children will get our spiritual comfort and life guidance; Similarly, we will feel happy and happy because of the baby's company, and we will continue to grow into better ourselves.

"We grow up with children, and children become better with us." There is no better parent-child relationship.

Every small company will make a big step forward for each other.

In the process of accompanying children, I think it is a kind of enjoyment, not only physically but also mentally. Every time, I can see a little progress from each other.

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On one occasion, he took his children to the zoo and danced with joy because of all kinds of novel animals. But from behind, he suddenly stopped beside a fallen flower and turned to me and said:

"Mom, that flower was trampled down. Let's get it up. It must be very painful. 」

As he spoke, he carefully straightened the flower and set up a bracket for it with the branches beside him. I felt a little ashamed at that time. I think many times, children are more emotional than us, full of awe and love for life.

What is common or cold in our eyes can become particularly warm in children's world. In this respect, it is really the children who gave me the opportunity to "grow up again", which made me think more and understand my feelings.

Less one-way output, stimulate children's infinite imagination

In the process of accompanying children, I am always used to thinking in my own way, to measure what should be done and what should not be done. But in fact, children also have their own ideas and need our affirmation and encouragement.

In the past, my daughter and I always had differences because of painting, because she liked surprises and had many strange ideas in her mind. For example, the fish has square eyes, the tree is red ... and I always want to correct her and let her follow the established rules.

Until one time my daughter came to me excitedly with her own painting to show me her creativity-

"Mom, look at this. Does it look like rainbow candy? Red is the sun, blue is the cloud, and yellow birds ... "

At that moment, I really realized the whimsy in the child's head. In her eyes, the sky can be colorful. After this incident, it also made me reflect on my long-standing "one-way output" education model: one is requirement and the other is implementation, which virtually killed some possibilities for children.

For example, painting blindly requires "the image of painting", which will hinder the development of children's imagination and creativity. So in the future, I will give my children as much space as possible to play freely and try to change my established thinking mode, which is also my new growth on the road of raising children.

Let go properly, and children will grow faster.

As a mother, I always feel that I should shelter my children from the wind and rain like my parents and clear away all obstacles on their growth path. When encountering difficulties, you must rush to the front of the child to protect him; Even if it is an unknown danger, we should think of our children one by one ... but the result is often that we love too much and our children grow up too slowly.

I used to take my child to learn driving. I watched him cry after he fell, and I couldn't help hugging him every time, even before he fell. This also causes children to learn to drive slowly and will be laughed at by children of the same age. Later, when he went to learn driving again, I was forbidden to join: "Mom, you stand still, you always help me, and everyone laughs at me if I don't learn well." 」

I'm worried about my child, but I watch him wriggle, and every time I fall, I can save the day and run all the way to the distance. To tell you the truth, I'm a little surprised and proud. I never thought my children would be so determined and brave. It seems that if we let go and show weakness appropriately, it will really bring unexpected surprises.

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At this point, I really want to thank my child for his "amazing move", which not only reversed my parenting attitude, but also successfully made me reflect on my lifestyle. For example, in the past, whether I was raising children or treating my family, I was too strong or took everything on my own, which not only made me tired, but also put pressure on people around me.

So you see, it's not useless to spend time with children. They can always influence the most difficult ideas in our hearts with sincere and simple words and deeds.

In fact, about accompanying children, I also stood from the perspective of the giver at the beginning and felt that I had contributed a lot. But every time I hear a child shout "Mom, say to stay with her all the time" in a crisp and sweet voice, my heart will be touched. Come to think of it, children have been with us and constantly lead us to grow up again.

Moreover, when we see the children's words and deeds from childhood to adulthood ... all of them are soaked in our companion's footprints, isn't this a kind of pride and pride! Therefore, no matter how busy your life is, remember to give your children high-quality companionship.

Because it has already penetrated into all aspects of life, affecting our parent-child quality and family relationship.

The social significance of high-quality companionship: "Arouse more parents' deeper understanding and practice of companionship, which is from small love companionship to great love companionship ..." Giving each other high-quality companionship is not only an emotional connection, but also a ladder to promote the growth and progress of both sides.

Especially 0? 3 years old is a critical period for baby's growth and the most critical period for potential development. High-quality companionship can give the baby a better learning foundation, store more knowledge and information for the baby after companionship, and lay a good foundation for the baby's growth.