Not taken seriously in her husband’s family, a smart daughter-in-law treats her eccentric mother-in-law

People say that falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. It is true. After getting married, you need to integrate into his family and learn to get along with his family. , after all, their habits are different, and there will always be some conflicts in the process of getting along. If the husband is good at handling it at this time, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also get along well. However, if the husband is inactive or partial, the daughter-in-law may not be so good at her mother-in-law's house. As expected, it is not even taken seriously. Not being taken seriously in the husband's family

1. Some people may say that once you get married, you become a family, and a family should work together to live a good life. That's true, but since ancient times, any daughter-in-law can be treated as one of her own by her husband's family immediately after marrying her. This can only be regarded as a beautiful imagination. It’s not that we are too pessimistic. After getting married, we become a guest in our mother’s family and an outsider in our husband’s family. This is based on the experience of those who have experienced it. When you are newly married, you need to show yourself in front of the family elders and prove that the marriage is a good one, but don't be too attentive and lose your temper. You should be a wife, not a servant.

People are like this. They don’t cherish what they get easily. Working becomes a habit and taking care of the family obediently. As time goes by, people will take it for granted and cannot learn from it. Say thank you for what you do. You can get used to your temper, you can work, you can do things, and you can help your husband's family, but you must have principles and a bottom line, and don't give people the impression that you are easy to bully and don't know how to care. Being too diligent and giving blindly will only make people not appreciate it.

2. Although you make money, you have no financial control. There is a joke that at home, the one who gets the finances gets the world. In fact, it is absolutely true. People say that a woman must be able to make money and be financially independent in order to have a status in the family. But when it comes to someone who is soft-tempered and listens to her husband's family in everything, what can she do even if she can make money? She is not at the mercy of others. No matter whether you can make money or not, or whether you make a lot of money or not, as a family member, you have the right to have financial control.

Don’t put yourself too low in order to be liked by your husband’s family. You must first think highly of yourself before others can think highly of you. If you show your own strength to your husband's family, you will be a good wife and mother, and you will be looked upon highly without having to strive hard for it. A smart daughter-in-law treats her partial mother-in-law

1. Praise her mother-in-law more

In the process of getting along with her mother-in-law, she is not a biological mother after all, so it is necessary to praise her appropriately. It can not only ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also enhance the relationship. Everyone wants to be recognized and praised, and mother-in-law is no exception. We also need to give appropriate praise to our mother-in-law. If we make her happy, she will be more energetic in cooking and cleaning up the housework, and we will have less worry.

2. Learn to act coquettishly like a daughter in front of your mother-in-law.

In order to close the distance with your mother-in-law, it is also good to act coquettishly. Not only can you get closer to your mother-in-law, but your mother-in-law's heart will soften and she will think that you will treat her better if you treat her as your own mother. For a mother-in-law who is partial to you, if you praise her more and she will gradually accept that you like you, you can act coquettishly towards her. In this way, the mother-in-law will also be very happy, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be better.

3. Ask your mother-in-law if you have any questions

In the process of getting along with your mother-in-law, you can deliberately pretend not to understand some seemingly simple questions and ask your mother-in-law. She will tell you a lot of truths from her experience. At this time, if you praise your mother-in-law for knowing so much, your mother-in-law will be more energetic in doing things after she is recognized. The elderly cannot keep up with the development of the times, and the information is lagging behind, which makes them feel frustrated. Especially biological children will be very impatient with them. At this time, the daughter-in-law will be more patient and ask them more questions. They will be very willing to explain and can also shorten the distance between them.

What are the symptoms of your mother-in-law not paying attention to you?

1. No right to speak

Mainly means that your mother-in-law does not give you enough rights to speak when studying major issues involving family interests. Not asking for or listening to your opinions, treating you like nothing. Sometimes even if you can't help but express your opinion, your in-laws won't take it seriously.

2. No right to know

Mainly refers to not telling you some important things that happened in your husband's family. As a member of your husband's family, you have every reason and qualification to know about some important things that happen in your husband's family. It may be because of your weakness, it may be because of your lack of ability in some aspects, or it may be because your in-laws simply look down on you. The big and small things that happen in your in-laws' family seem to have nothing to do with you, artificially depriving you of your right to know.

3. No right to control

Mainly means that you have no right to control your own labor income and legal income. In your husband's family, all your personal wages and other income earned will be handed over to your husband's family. In name, it is managed by your in-laws' family, but in fact it deprives you of your personal economic power.

4. No reproductive rights

It is mainly wishful thinking of your husband’s family, and they make irresponsible remarks about whether you will have a boy or a girl based on their own preferences. Whether you have a boy or a girl does not depend on your own will, but in the eyes of your in-laws: if you do not give birth to a boy or a girl according to their wishes, they will say that you are incompetent, and they will accuse you or give you problems in some aspects.

5. No right to true love

Mainly means that after marriage, your husband’s family interferes in your marriage life for no reason and destroys the atmosphere of true love between you and your husband. After young people get married, it is normal for the couple to be affectionate and affectionate. But in the eyes of some husband-in-laws, they seem to be unwilling to let the young couple love each other and always create problems for the young couple. Today I tell my son that it is not good for my daughter-in-law to be like this, and tomorrow I will tell my son that it is not right for my daughter-in-law to be like that, and so on. It artificially creates misunderstandings and conflicts for the young couple, which eventually makes the couple angry and quarreling every day.