How to get rid of jealousy, and how does Charlie deal with jealousy?

First of all, you must understand the harm of jealousy before you can make up your mind to correct yourself.

I don't want others to have what I don't have. This mentality is called "jealousy". Jealousy will especially appear in people who are close to their abilities and identities, or people who think that they are "not as good as themselves", because we are always comparing with the people around us and are narrow-minded and closed-minded. Open your mind, cultivate your will, look at the wider world and set up a longer-term ambition, and your troubles will naturally decrease.

Jealousy of others will not help you get what you want, but will make you go further and further. If you don't want to, then working hard and focusing on improving yourself is the way out, otherwise people will walk into a painful dead end. Jealousy is a habit. If you get used to it, you will constantly deviate, and you must have a clear purpose to correct it. Of course, it is not a day's work to subdue your troubles, and you must constantly strive to make your inner light grow. For example, if something is in trouble, if someone else is in charge, he won't feel anything. If he is in charge, he will be as anxious as a cat on hot bricks, fearing that he will be laughed at if he fails. Or do a good thing but be misunderstood, and feel wronged and painful inside; Or when no one is watching, I feel lonely and jealous ... it's all for fame and fortune. Realm is the mirror of trouble.

It is not easy to get rid of jealousy. We should slowly and step by step expand our thinking and set higher goals, so that we won't always limit our vision to a small range and keep up with the people around us. Learn from the example, and you will have a heart to look up to, and jealousy will not grow up easily. "Don't let the ancients, is interested; It is infinite not to let people today. "

Orchids don't need to envy peony flowers, and stars don't need to envy the moon. Everyone has his own karma, destiny and position, and everyone has his own value, mission and path. No two people can completely overlap, and there is no need to measure and compare with the same ruler. Jealousy is because you covet what you don't have, are controlled by anger, and can't really look at yourself.

Possession is greed and jealousy is anger. These two kinds of troubles are like two poisonous snakes entrenched in people's hearts. Once it breaks out, it hurts people and hurts themselves. If you want to control evil thoughts, you can't crush grass like a stone, you can only crush the surface for a while; There should be stronger mindfulness and kindness in the heart, such as sunshine melting ice and snow. To cultivate the mind, on the one hand, we should learn wisdom classics, on the other hand, we need to have personal feelings and often go to temples to study. The root of jealousy is that you are antagonistic to others and narrow-minded. Always follow the joy, always go back and let your heart expand.

Being envied shows that you have advantages in some aspects, but you are not good enough to be envied. Make yourself better-kinder, more tolerant, smarter, don't look down on people who are not as good as you, don't resent those who slander you, and don't be hostile to those who reject you. Only when you are jealous can you be sensitive to the jealousy of others and be very nervous and afraid. Many comparisons between people are meaningless, which are caused by their own inner thoughts and delusions. We should have a shared heart and a happy heart, so that we can share our own achievements and the success and happiness of others.

To overcome jealousy, we should have a broad mind, not limited to our own horizons and gains, not narrowly competing with others, but be able to understand, admit and accept the efforts and success of others; Have a compassionate heart and be happy to see the happiness of others; If you have confidence in yourself and have your own goals, you won't be depressed by temporary achievements.

It is ambition not to let the ancients; Don't let today's people, is boundless. If you have an ambition, you will not blindly compare with others, be jealous or feel inferior. Because people are greedy, what they can't get will make them angry, and jealousy is a kind of anger. The poorer and weaker the heart, the stronger the desire to "satisfy yourself" and the stronger the jealousy; On the other hand, people who are rich and powerful and not so greedy are not easy to be jealous.

Jealousy is a comprehensive reaction of "narrow-mindedness" and "disorientation". The so-called "narrow-minded" means that you can't see the whole. For example, if you compare the outstanding peers in the team, you don't think that the team needs more and more outstanding talents, and the whole can be continuously improved; The so-called "disorientation" means that the goal deviates from the purpose and runs in the wrong direction. Learn to share the success and growth of others, and sharing can help your own growth; Instead of comparison and rejection, it will only make you miserable and degenerate. Everyone has his own life track, and we can learn from others, but we don't need to compare with others, and concentrate on our own path.

Jealousy arises because one is not clear and firm about one's own direction, and the other is to look at the problem one-sidedly, only seeing what one lacks and what others have, forgetting what one has and not seeing what others have paid. Countless reasons converge into a person's destiny, and different reasons have created everyone's unique life trajectory. We should work hard on our own origins. It is useless to compare with others, but it is beneficial to follow the joy.

If you want to get a solemn appearance, you must cultivate the power to bear the burden of humiliation, without losing your temper, hatred or jealousy; Always smile, be kind to others, and be kind and soft inside. If you leave these, just thinking and drawing on the skin will only get farther and farther away from the real "beauty." The heart grows in size. We should have the heart to tolerate the shortcomings of others, and also have the heart to appreciate the beauty of others. If we always live in a narrow self, others will be unhappy if they do something wrong, and will suffer if they succeed.

Jealousy and arrogance are not only delusions caused by the loss of mindfulness and one-sided persistence, but also troubles caused by "focusing on me" in the heart, because they take themselves too seriously and can't stand others being better than themselves. In my heart, I repeatedly taste my own strengths and ignore others, so I have arrogance. We should cultivate more gratitude and self-communication, so that we can see more people in our hearts and understand the realm more comprehensively and correctly. Jealousy, first, possessiveness, can not tolerate others to surpass themselves; Second, I don't know what I want, and I always can't keep up with others. I rely on external "victory" to realize my sense of existence and reflect my value. These two points stem from not really knowing yourself and not finding the direction and meaning of life.

Greed means refusing to let go of what you like; Hate is anger, and disgust, hatred and jealousy all belong to the category of anger; Ignorance means not knowing cause and effect and living in a muddle. Perseverance and troubles bind us like chains, but this chain is bound to those who have no beginning. We mistakenly think that this is "me", and when we hear that we want to let go, we will feel scared, confused and at a loss. Buddhism also requires us to be motivated, but this ambition is not to win or lose with others, but to learn from better people and improve ourselves. On the other hand, we are always competing with others. On the surface, it can be improved for a while, but the intention is quite different. The resulting worries such as fear, arrogance, inferiority and jealousy will make our hearts restless, such as roasting on the fire. It is a good thing to see your own gap by comparing with others and have the desire to improve; However, if competition produces injustice, inferiority complex, jealousy and hatred, and even self-interest at the expense of others, that is a bad thing. We should firmly grasp the goal of self-growth instead of focusing on the external environment. Pursuing fame and fortune, greed, jealousy, arrogance and dullness ... all kinds of troubles also follow; You can't get your own blessing if you work hard. People are addicted to desires, but their hearts are scarred and their future is full of thorns. The fame and fortune you get can't always be guaranteed, and you are in danger of losing it at any time. Your heart is always uneasy, and you are bound by it all your life. Second, it has its own troubles, a house with money and resentment, and a slanderous media. Why bother?

If we are unwell, we will be very sensitive and attach great importance to it and know how to see a doctor. However, most people don't know the discomfort of the mind and what to do. In fact, our hearts are seriously ill, bound by all kinds of separation, persistence, greed, hatred, doubt, jealousy and arrogance, and are getting farther and farther away from true happiness and freedom.

Practice is to untie the bondage. (Excerpted from Master Xuecheng)