A joke novel about marrying a rural daughter-in-law after divorce

What kind of experience is it to marry a rural daughter-in-law

"It can't be worse!"

This is the answer of a reader friend of mine. The reader's aunt comes from a small rural area. When she first got married, everyone told her how to be filial to the two old people (in-laws) in the future, but what she did after marriage was less than half what she said.

I have done housework only a handful of times since I got married for five years. Basically, her parents-in-law do the laundry and cook for her. After dinner, she didn't wash the dishes, but cleaned her room, and no one cared about other people's rooms. So you have to force her to do it. She never volunteered to do housework.

I have been living with my in-laws since I got married. It's not that in-laws can't bear to live separately from their sons, but that menstruation can't bear to live in separate rooms, because once separated, no one will wash and cook for her.

Once a couple quarreled, my aunt did not cover her mouth and said some dirty words to her mother-in-law. Hearing this, the mother-in-law slapped her directly. She cried and made trouble, and called her mother in her hometown all night, clamoring for a divorce.

Originally, my son got married late and my granddaughter was only three years old. If this is really a divorce, my mother-in-law thinks she can't afford the consequences, so she has to. Finally, her mother-in-law offered to apologize to her, and it was over.

"Since my uncle married a rural daughter-in-law, my family has never been safe. It's not that I look down on rural people, it's her behavior that makes me really afraid to have illusions about rural people. "

William shakespeare once said: A thousand readers have a thousand Hamlets. I think this reader friend's aunt comes from the countryside, which has something to do with her family background. The label "uneducated" should not belong to this group of rural girls.

In fact, I have always felt that people should get along with each other sincerely, rather than trying to figure out others for the sake of maximizing their own interests. How can such a relationship stand the ups and downs of life?

02

"When I was 30 years old, I married a rural wife who didn't want a bride price or a house and didn't dislike me. My father and my sister are very happy. I was thinking about how to give this day to her, but I didn't expect the days after marriage to be so miserable! "

Men don't cry easily because they have never been to a sad place. When 37-year-old Wang Xu told people about her unhappy marriage, tears flashed from time to time in her eyes.

Wang Xu's parents are farmers who have left their homes. In her early years, her mother injured her brain in an accident, leaving a sequela. In order to treat her mother, she not only spent all her savings at home, but also owed a lot of foreign debts.

There is a sister at home who is three years older than him. Originally, the family conditions were not good, and my mother was ill. So before he graduated from junior high school, Wang Xu went to the construction site to help his family and share the burden with his father.

With Wang Xu's salary of working outside for eight years and the fifty thousand bride price given by her husband's family when her sister got married, she paid off the foreign debt she owed when she treated her mother.

The first thing in my heart was over, so Wang Xu thought about saving some money to build a two-story building in his hometown. He is old enough to talk about marriage, and it's time to marry a daughter-in-law. But the plan can't keep up with the change. Wang Xu fell down at the construction site, leaving a hangover and a little lame.

Because of his leg injury, Wang Xu couldn't work on the construction site, so he had to go back to his hometown to find another way out. Later, Wang Xu bought a tricycle, rented a house in the county, and usually picked up people (equivalent to taxi drivers).

Suddenly, Wang Xu was thirty years old.

In fact, during the time when he was running a tricycle, Wang Xu's father also asked someone to introduce him to a blind date. After all, Wang Xu is not small, and he can rest assured that someone will take care of him.

Can be rejected by the other party, the reason for the rejection is not that the other party dislikes the poor family conditions in Wang Xu, but cares about Wang Xu's leg disability, fearing that Wang can't give happiness in marriage.

During that time, Wang Xu complained about God's unfairness in his heart every day, and even vented this resentment on his father. Until now, when his wife appeared, Wang Xu felt better.

Speaking of Wang Xu's current wives, they were introduced by the matchmaker. The other party is from the countryside and looks ordinary, but it is very suitable for the life that the matchmaker said. But the other party is a second-married woman. Her husband died of illness a few years ago, and there is a five-year-old girl beside him.

However, as soon as they met, they both liked each other very much, and neither of them disliked each other's "small shortcomings": Wang Xu had a disabled leg, and his wife had a past marriage history (second marriage), so she chose to get married in less than half a year.

Considering that Wang Xu was married for the first time and the family conditions were not so good, his wife got married for the second time, so when they got married, his wife's family didn't ask him for a bride price and a house, just wanted them to live a good life.

In this way, 35-year-old Wang Xu had a wife. Although the other party is married for the second time and has children with her ex-husband, she has a family now.

03

In my heart, I was chanting that I had a good life with my wife, and Wang Xu was more motivated to work. However, in the past few years after marriage, I have not given a good life, but a chicken feather. Marriage didn't let him know what happiness is, but it made him miserable.

Wang Xu's wife has two younger brothers. A younger brother is married, but the youngest brother is still in college. When he first got married, Wang Xu learned from his youngest brother-in-law that his wife would give him living expenses every month.

Thinking that they are all a family, my brother-in-law is still studying and has no job. It is understandable that Wang Xu doesn't care much about his wife's furtive "help" when her sister helps her brother.

Once Wang Xu's mother was ill and needed money, Wang Xu asked his wife for money (after she got married, she took the initiative to put her salary card there), and her wife prevaricated and asked Wang Xu how much money she needed at home.

Although I don't have a salary card here, he has a general understanding of the salary he pays her on weekdays. After being questioned by Wang Xu, his wife told him the truth.

It turned out that she took out the100000 time deposit from her home bank behind Wang Xu's back and lent it to her married brother to buy a car. Wang Xu didn't know anything about it unless his mother was ill or his wife didn't say anything.

"What is your attitude? Isn't my brother your brother? I just lent it to her. I didn't know your mother was ill and asked for money! "

Wang Xu was directly confused by his wife's words, so he had no choice but to borrow it from his relatives. After all, treating my mother is the most important thing.

I thought that after this incident, my wife's behavior of helping her family could be restrained, but I didn't know it was getting worse. Without considering Wang Xu's feelings at all.

"It is not easy for my parents to raise me and my two younger brothers. They are not young. I am very close to them. I have to help you. Besides, you are very thoughtful about how my parents have treated you over the years. People can't help but be grateful! "

As long as Wang Xu told her to help her family in advance, she always used to change the subject by saying that her parents didn't want a bride price or a house at that time. They all said that they were soft-spoken and short-handed, which made Wang Xu not know what to say.

After living together for so many years, Wang Xu found that his wife was always ashamed of being idle. As long as I see her idle, I feel uncomfortable and try my best to keep myself busy. If I don't listen to her arrangement, I will quarrel with myself.

"The life of a family of four depends on me alone. I work hard outside every day. She is responsible for taking care of the lives of two children at home. My father is basically busy with farm work in the fields. But the right to speak in this family is in her hands, and everything has to be arranged by her. This kind of life is really too painful, but I can't live without it at this age, no matter how hard it is! "

04

As for middle-aged men, I think of Zhang Ailing's words that hit the nail on the head: "When people reach middle age, they often feel lonely, because when they open their eyes, they are surrounded by people who depend on them, but there is no one to rely on."

Although men of this age have long lost their youthful vigor and blood, they are more mature and stable, and know more about the sense of responsibility, but they also need the understanding and dependence of their loved ones for the sake of running around at home.

"I told her more than once that her family is a bottomless pit, but she always turned a deaf ear to my words. Everything should be done according to her idea. I never consider my feelings. I am also a human being, not a tool that is arbitrarily ordered by people. "

I think the pain in Wang Xu's marriage is that she married a controlling wife, but she didn't understand it herself, and at the same time she didn't understand the proper limits and helped her family without a bottom line. Not only did she not give a good life, but she also made herself miserable.

In fact, marriage should be a kind of negotiation more often, and each other should have more time to consider whether the other person's personality is really suitable, rather than being forced by reality to think that they will do it. What really hits it off should be the choice after full consideration.

It is true that couples don't hit it off at first, but they all come from the life of daily necessities, but a happy marriage is always the result of painstaking efforts by two people with a heart.

Only when people treat each other sincerely can they become true friends. Anyone who plans his friends is deceiving himself.