In A Dream of Red Mansions, Jia believes that there is a blue sky over her head. Why did she leave her second son in charge regardless of etiquette?

Jia Fu, known as the "heirloom of poetry", has a special phenomenon that does not conform to the etiquette system: the head of Guo Rongfu is not Jia She, the eldest son with a title, but Jia Zheng, the second son. According to the eldest son inheritance system, Jia She should be the master.

Some people say that this phenomenon is due to Jia Mu's partiality, because she prefers the second son and hates the eldest son, so let the eldest son stand aside and let the second son take charge. There is even speculation that Jia is not her own, so she is biased to this extent.

Because of bending the law, regardless of etiquette, it is normal for this kind of thing to happen to ordinary people. But the Jia family is the official government, with the imperial colleagues above and the common people below. Everyone is watching with their eyes wide open. Jia's blatant eccentricity is not afraid of attracting criticism? In addition, Jia Mu is a high-profile woman. If she makes such a bad demonstration, won't the court reprimand or even interfere?

In fact, Jia Mu's odd conclusion is still because the reader didn't read it carefully to understand the social background set by the author for the Red Chamber. It has been revealed to us many times in the book that the etiquette system at that time paid more attention to merit, that is, selecting talents instead of length. It was the mainstream atmosphere at that time to choose talents among many sons.

"There is a clear sky overhead", and Jia Mu is a person who strictly abides by laws and regulations and never oversteps them. Objectively speaking, Jia Mu did act strangely, but her eccentricity was mainly reflected in her doting on her grandson Baoyu. There is a good reason for her connivance: grandma loves her underage grandson and doesn't violate any laws and regulations. She just "gives a little behind his back." Moreover, Jia Mu's spoil of Baoyu is limited, and there is a strict bottom line. The bottom line is that only Baoyu is allowed to indulge in the house. Once out of the house, he must be polite. Otherwise, "if he just doesn't care about anything and doesn't win glory with adults, he should be killed by how he was born."

Therefore, we can see that Baoyu, who is out of the government, is very considerate and has not spoiled at all.

It can be said that no one is more concerned about maintaining the dignity of the Jia family than Jia Mu. The 40th time, when Grandmother Jia showed Granny Liu around the Grand View Garden, she ordered it once. Her first sentence was "There is a blue sky overhead".

This sentence is the most basic values of Jia Mu. This "blue sky" represents both the king's law and the heaven. Therefore, Jia Mu will neither do anything against nature nor violate laws and regulations. Maintaining etiquette is her bottom line. Moreover, this insistence on the bottom line is not superficial, not for people to see, but she understands from the bottom of her heart that she must do so.

The sixty-ninth time, Wang Xifeng brought Second Sister You to see the old lady, hiding that Jia Lian had secretly married, saying only that Wang Xifeng had married a second wife for Jia Lian. Jia Mu is naturally happy, but only emphasizes that "you can get a house in one year." Why must it be emphasized? Because it was a period of national filial piety at that time, consummating marriage was against etiquette. However, as long as the intimate matter of consummation is not made public, no one will know. Therefore, whether to do it or not depends purely on consciousness. Jia Mu's emphasis shows that her insistence on etiquette is from the heart.

How can such a man who sticks to etiquette let his second son be the master because he is eccentric and ignores etiquette?

Let the second son be the master, which is in line with the etiquette at that time. In the feudal society that lasted for two thousand years, the eldest son inheritance system occupied the mainstream position. However, we have to admit that in several special periods, we chose virtue instead of long, and paid attention to virtue instead of eldest son inheritance.

The background of the Red Chamber is such a etiquette system.

Jia Yuanchun entered the palace as a female history for many years, and was promoted as a princess because of her virtue and filial piety. This is very puzzling.

Although Yuan Chun is Jia Zheng's daughter, she was brought up by Jia Mu. Jia's position is extremely noble. She can say such a thing as "tearing down the imperial hospital", not because she is arrogant, but because of her high status. My granddaughter, who was brought up by myself, is no longer the daughter of a simple five-product foreign minister. Such an identity can be sent directly to the palace as a concubine, so why bother to be a bitter and tired female history?

This is because the society at that time only valued merit, not birth background. Whether Yuan Chun can be a concubine depends not on her birth, but on whether she has the talent to be a concubine. Therefore, she was later promoted to princess because of her filial piety and virtue, and her talents were valued.

In addition, the fifty-fifth time, when Wang Xifeng praised Pinger's talents in Tanchun, he clearly said that "being a concubine is the same", indicating that it is a society that only values talents. In the face of talent and virtue, even the humble can't be distinguished, let alone the old and the young.

Therefore, it is not eccentric for Jia Mu to choose her second son Jia Zheng to take power, but her talent and virtue are much higher than that of her eldest son Jia She, and she is more suitable for being a family member.

Family responsibilities: restrain children internally and welcome children on behalf of the family externally. Many people only think about money and power when they see the person in charge. In fact, what a family member really needs to do is to be responsible. Especially for a big family like Jia Fu, the choice of family members should be more careful. Because when the family has two responsibility: First, take yourself as an example to restrain your sons and nephews; The second is to be the spokesperson of the family, to greet the outside world, and to safeguard the dignity of the family in interpersonal relationships.

The book explains that Jia Zheng was originally a "person who celebrated his birthday with poetry and wine." Later, he was self-disciplined because he wanted to "walk the right path among his sons and nephews." This change should start when he takes over. Do as you would be done by. If you can't do it yourself, you can't let your son and nephew do it. With Jia she's character, of course, we can't set an example for our sons and nephews. Only Jia Zheng, "a modest and kind man, with great grandfather's will, is not a frivolous official." Such behavior is suitable for educating his son and nephew as a family member. After Xue Jia went to Beijing, he moved into Jiafu. Aunt Xue also thought of "Jia Zheng's well-disciplined son and well-managed family", hoping to rely on Jia Zheng to "tighten" Xue Pan and stop him from "causing trouble".

This means internal and external. Guo Rong Mansion is a sovereign mansion and enjoys a high reputation in North Korea. It is also frequented by princes and nobles, especially some family friends who are also founding heroes. Who will represent the association with these people? Obviously, Jia She is very inappropriate, and what he has done will only bring shame to the government.

Therefore, it is obvious who is more suitable to be in charge, Jia She or Jia Zheng.

Some people may say: Since Jia She's conduct is so bad that he is not qualified to be a master, how can he attack a knight? This is because the title inherited by Jia She is only a hollow name, and there is no actual government affairs to deal with. In other words, sitting in this position, no matter how you behave, will not affect others. In addition to this fake name, the property rights and properties under her name were all publicly owned and managed by Jia Zheng, and Jia She only got some subsidies from it.

Of course, Jia She also has self-knowledge, knowing that she is not a gifted scholar. So he has no problem with the younger brother who robbed him of the right to be the master, and the two brothers have a good relationship.

At the 75th Mid-Autumn Festival family dinner, Jia She told a joke about her mother's partiality, which many readers thought was a joke to vent her dissatisfaction with Jia's partiality. In fact, this is really wronged Jia She. There is a sentence in the book: "Jia She was suspicious when she heard that she had spoken rashly. She quickly got up, smiled at the grandmother and explained it in other words. " If Jia She really intended to vent her anger through jokes, she wouldn't think she was "speaking out", or "doubting Jia Mu", let alone "explaining it in other words". This joke was unintentional, but it was a mistake that misunderstood Jia Mu.

And grandma fell in love with this joke precisely because she was not biased. What can I do to deserve her? It is indeed biased, and I will admit it confidently, but I will not be upset about it.

Jia's resentment at this time is actually sad because of being misunderstood. Therefore, Jia She "tripped over a stone and twisted her leg", so she "told the second daughter to look quickly and told Mrs. Xing to go", and then said, "I'm in a hurry. It doesn't matter if I am eccentric, but I am eccentric. " This is exactly her lament for not being understood: I am not partial, and my concern for my eldest son has never been compromised. But I'm so worried, or I'm partial. Being a mother is too tired.

Yes, the pain that is not understood is the real pain. According to the information disclosed in the book, Jia Mu's husband passed away very early, so, "Needless to say, Grandpa Guo's appearance, the male generation, naturally can't catch up, even the old master (Jia She) and the second master (Jia Zheng) can't remember clearly." My husband died young, and it's really not easy for Jia to support such a big family. How can you not be sad if you don't even understand the difficulties?

Of course, it is precisely because Jia decided to let Jia Zheng, the second son of Xian Neng, take charge of the power that the government has been maintained to this day. How can an eccentric person be like this?

Therefore, it is no problem for Jia Mu to be partial to Baoyu, and it is too wrong to say that she is partial to Jia Zheng. This old Feng Jun, who walked all the way from his great-grandson's daughter-in-law to his great-grandmother, was selfish in some things, but he was never vague about right and wrong. She put her eldest son Jia She aside and put her second son Jia Zheng in charge. This is not an odd move, but she complied with the social atmosphere of attaching importance to talents and chose to let talented people take the lead.