What’s wrong with women who lose their temper easily? A woman who is pretentious and hypocritical

Generally speaking, people will remember deeply only if they are deeply hurt.

What people see often reflects a person's inner behavior pattern (what kind of person you are, what the world in your eyes looks like).

The above two points are the fundamental reasons why men think women are pretentious, artificial, and willful.

Some of these people have been deeply hurt by women; some have an indulgent heart but do not have the capital to indulge, so they understand you, are jealous of you, and even blame you for it. Why do women lose their temper so easily? Women who are pretentious and hypocritical:

A male fan friend wrote to me:

My girlfriend and I had a cold war for more than a month, until I just accepted my apology a few days ago.

After the two reconciled, I tried several times to ask her why are you angry with me?. At first, she didn't answer. But unable to withstand my repeated questioning, she finally spoke her mind: I just like the way you beg me, and I like the feeling of being pampered by you.

Speaking of the reasons for the Cold War, this friend said:

I can’t remember clearly. Maybe I forgot to give her a commemorative gift on a certain holiday; maybe I didn’t agree with something she said on a certain day; maybe I ignored her coquettish and willful behavior on a certain day? She was always like this, getting angry at every turn.

Or maybe it was that time:

We made an appointment to have dinner together after get off work that day. When we were about to get off work, my brother suddenly called and said that my mother was ill at home, so I I didn't even punch in the get off work card, so I asked my colleagues to help me say hello to the manager and then rushed home.

When I got home, I rushed my mother to the hospital. After a series of operations, I knew that I might not be able to meet her in time for dinner, so I called her and asked for her forgiveness. She on the other end of the phone also told me not to be anxious and that I would meet her later.

It was almost eight o'clock when we met, and my mother was still lying in the hospital. After she listened to me explaining the reason, the two of us finished dinner together. I went right back to the hospital. Because the hospitalization fee was too expensive, I took my mother home to rest. For the next week, I took my mother to the hospital for an injection every day, and I had very little time to see her.

After that, she ignored me. I don’t know which link caused the problem, but she suddenly stopped talking to me. We have been in this state for more than a month?

In the above cases, there are two problems. I wonder if you have noticed:

Women’s anger often seems to have no reason. Depend on. Things that are so small that you don't care at all will often make her angry for several days.

1) This is a sign of extreme insecurity and extreme dependence on someone.

For this group of people, the family’s educational philosophy is contrary to them. She has her own ideas, but her family or people around her often don't agree with them. Over time, as long as there is one person who can agree with her thoughts, whether it is false or true, she will rely on this person. At this moment, you are everything to her.

2) This is often the case for spoiled women.

What she wants is very simple, that is for you to revolve around her, or for the whole world to revolve around her. Obviously, this is impractical. But they don't think about whether it's practical or not. As long as they can achieve what they want, they have no scruples.

The reason why this happens is that she has been spoiled by her family since she was a child. Everyone in the family surrounds her, asking for everything, and getting everything she wants. Even if she can't afford it, her parents will sell it. It will also satisfy her; secondly, there is such a person around her, because of jealousy and envy, it is rare to meet someone who loves her, and she also wants to enjoy the feeling of being pampered for once. I never thought that this enjoyment would never come back.

3) People who are extremely selfish at heart will lose their temper easily. They only want to enjoy and obtain, and are not willing to work hard and pay.

Some women simply don’t realize that over-consuming a person’s love will only speed up the separation.

Just like the girlfriend mentioned in the case. She just thinks that I want him to love me more, and I enjoy the feeling of being pampered by her? She doesn't realize at all: Men can also be tired.

When a man does make a mistake, you can discuss the matter as it is and ask for correction of his mistakes. But excessive demands are unreasonable and will often turn into unreasonable troubles.

Everyone has the ability to introspect. People who make mistakes are often aware of their mistakes, and most of them are willing to correct them. But if you hold on to a certain mistake of his over and over again, it will only be counterproductive in the end. Is this the over-limit effect?!

The over-limit effect refers to the phenomenon of excessive, too strong stimulation, or acting for too long, causing extreme psychological impatience or rebellious psychology.

Another thing about people who make mistakes is that they are unwilling to admit that they have made mistakes.

This is actually a human instinct and a manifestation of maintaining self-esteem. Although this is a wrong idea in itself, it does not prevent people from blindly worshiping it:

Everyone will unconsciously deny their mistakes, especially for people who value self-esteem. obvious.

When a person makes a mistake, he will correct it silently after discovering the mistake. Letting him correct himself is the best way. This not only protects his face, but also makes him feel grateful to you: grateful that you didn't blame him even though you knew he made a mistake, grateful that you never left him even though you knew he was wrong.

Treating one person as your everything is actually a very scary thing!

If you grasp the degree of loving someone well, he will feel your sincerity and love; he will know that you think about him in everything, and that he is the only person in your heart and eyes.

At this time, love has become a double-edged sword for you: it is both the reason for your strength and the reason for your sadness. Be strong because you want to provide him with a better life, so you work harder; be sad because he abuses your love and does things that hurt you.

If you don’t grasp the degree of love for someone well, he will feel your pretentiousness and artificiality. Because you are extremely dependent on him, you have to see and check everything with him, trouble him with everything, and disturb him with everything.

Over time, he will also become tired of you. Everyone's abilities are limited. Just in life, many people have too much time to take care of themselves. If you take care of a girlfriend who is like a child, no matter how strong a superman is, he will be tired.

Why is it said that women who act coquettishly have the best fortune?

Women who act coquettishly have the best luck. I forgot when this saying suddenly became popular. What I remember most are all kinds of chicken soup articles promoting feminism. This sentence is often used as a criterion for conquering a man or a group of men. That's ridiculous!

This kind of language plays into the hands of some women. Women who have been enslaved by history for thousands of years feel that they are so close to happiness for the first time. It is like grabbing a life-saving straw. They go crazy and desperately want to prove it through acting coquettishly. A man's love; want to retain a man's love through acting coquettishly.

If the idea of ????solving the problem is wrong from the beginning, then all the processes and results will not be satisfactory, let alone accepted by people.

In other words: Even if acting coquettishly allows you to keep a man, the man must be unhappy in his heart. This kind of dissatisfaction will also accumulate in the form of accumulation, and one day it will explode. The final result must be unsatisfactory to both parties. You may even leave a pretentious name in people's minds.

Manage yourself well and give the other person a high-quality lover. This is the best way to love someone.

In addition, all crooked ways and tricks are just self-deception!

Many times, the person you bully is actually just yourself. Most smart people see things through but don't tell them, just waiting for a big joke to happen one day for people to laugh.

Why are men willing to endure what their girlfriends do??

Romain Rolland, the famous French humanitarian writer in the 20th century, once said: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after knowing the truth of life.

I think this is one of the reasons why men are willing to endure it in a relationship.

Be it relationship or marriage, to put it bluntly, it is a play between two people. The difference is: in the play, you can fight against each other. Off-screen, we must get back together. That is what people say: when there are no enemies, create conflicts; when you meet enemies, be consistent with the outside world.

Creating contradictions is to create fun in this silent world and to clarify their status among each other; to be unanimous in dealing with the outside world is to prevent the political power from being interfered by external forces.

This also involves an issue of responsibility.

In a relationship, being consistent with the outside world is to be responsible for the relationship and the other person: since you have chosen to join hands, you should not be interfered by external forces, which will eventually cause the other person to have an accident. This It is a responsibility to the other party, a responsibility to love, and a responsibility to marriage and family.

There are two reasons why a man can tolerate a woman’s unreasonable troubles: he is a hero himself and has the ability to endure suffering; he wants to be responsible for you and does not want to live up to your parents’ treatment of him. I don’t want to live up to my initial choice, let alone my love.

However, the truth is often that I still love you, but I can no longer love you?. Yes, I just feel tired, exhausted, and can’t hold on anymore.

In fact, after marriage, the relationship will become more or less cold.

It’s not that I’ve changed my mind, nor that I don’t love you anymore. It's like the dream you've been dreaming about has come true. Once it's come true, it's time to move on to the next stage of your goals? The charm of dreams is never so big that it has no boundaries, nor is it enough to make anyone stop because of a dream. Most of the reasons why people are obsessed with something is because they don’t get it. It is a kind of unwillingness that is at work.

In essence, whether the focus of life is on you, your family, or your work, this is actually not a blasphemy against love. The ultimate goal is to make life better? No matter you understand or don't understand, just don't make trouble unreasonably or be unreasonable and unforgiving.

As long as the lives of two people continue, it is necessary to persist in this relationship, and it is even more necessary to maintain it!