How to treat the state of long-distance love

First, the embarrassment of "if there seems to be nothing"

There was a well-known cross talk joke "Throwing Boots", which is no stranger to everyone. Although it is a joke, it reflects from another side and angle that a person will accept the reality and take it as it is, and he is most afraid that the expectation of waiting and expectation will not be realized and implemented.

It is appropriate to describe the state of long-distance love with this phenomenon. Take being single as an example, everyone is very clear and aware of their current situation, and it is self-evident and logical for those couples who are in the same place to be able to correctly treat everything that happens between them.

This is not the case with long-distance love. I clearly have an object, but I always have the name of an object. Living a single life, I have expectations, thoughts and references in my heart, but I can't realize them, just like waiting for the "boots" that haven't landed. For example, watching other couples come and go together in pairs, and I should be like this, but why am I alone and lonely? I can do the same when I meet other lovers snuggling together, inseparable, showing sweetness and love, but the fact is that I can't have it, and I am embarrassed to watch others "sprinkle dog food" face to face.

I can have such fun when I meet other couples who are happy and romantic, but I have no choice but to be alone. What should I do? On festivals, birthdays and anniversaries, people are always around, partying, giving gifts and paying great attention. I also have people who can do and have these things, but I can only see a monotonous, slightly dull, deformed face, boring and so on through short messages or phone calls that can't recognize the tone.

Every time I see these scenes, there will be thousands of blows and thousands of injuries sweeping through my heart, mercilessly stabbing the lonely heart of a long-distance relationship, and suffering many painful impacts. Some people say that being single is not sad. On the contrary, the saddest thing is a long-distance lover who lives as a single dog with the name of having a partner. This is no exaggeration.

Second, the pain of "I can't help you"

There was a sentence on the Internet that described the sadness of long-distance love, that is, "Don't cry, I can't hold you", which made people cry, but also described and portrayed the situation of long-distance love. For ordinary lovers, whenever they have leisure and spare time, they stick together. Their emotions, joys, sorrows, joys and sorrows are all clear, and they are well aware of their hunger and hunger. In short, one party's needs will be met by the other party.

however, long-distance lovers are beyond reach, and the other party who needs each other is beyond reach and helpless. For example, when you feel lonely and want to be accompanied by your lover, it is not a matter for the average lover at all, but it is always a helpless hope for long-distance love; When you are happy, the average couple will share it with each other, which will double the happiness. However, even if you are overjoyed and overjoyed in a long-distance relationship, the other person has no feeling at all, and you can only describe it on your computer phone, and you can't see the other person's expression. Even if it is a video, there is no feeling of face-to-face in front of you.

When your life or work is not smooth, you are full of grievances and sadness. No matter whether you are depressed or in tears, if the average lover will stay by your side, maybe just give you a paper towel, wipe your tears or pat your shoulder, or just hug you and hug you, it will clear the clouds, make you feel better, feel warm and relieved. And what about long-distance love? Only when you tell the other person that you are sad, it's just boring, pale and repetitive ineffective consolation at the end of the computer and mobile phone. There may even be someone who says, "I'm typing in tears, but you still think I'm laughing."

when you are unwell and in poor health, or even sick in bed and need someone to take care of you, if you are an ordinary couple, you will always stay by your side, busy before and after, running around, seeking medical advice, bringing water and food, and not having sex, but what about long-distance love? Either the other person doesn't know that you are uncomfortable at all, or even mistakenly thinks that you are absent-minded. Even if you tell the other person that you are ill, you will always get those old words "Ah, well, then you should pay more attention to rest and drink more water!" "Take care of yourself", there is no other way, and so on. As long as lovers share things together, they will always be helpless, and care, warmth and care are even more helpless. This kind of regret, lack and helplessness will always be accompanied by long-distance lovers.

Third, the entanglement of "worries"

In many cases, distance will not only affect people's closeness, but also reduce and weaken people's trust. Ordinary lovers get along with each other day and night, but they don't look up to see each other. They know each other's roots and know everything, and they know each other and love each other in frequent exchanges, and their relationship is close and harmonious. However, long-distance love is separated from each other, and each other's words, actions and actions are unknown and mastered, and most of the time they are alone, far from the sense of sureness and security that couples have together. Thinking of the unbearable loneliness and the temptation of the outside world makes them think wildly and guess suspiciously most of the time, and they are always worried about their feelings.

For example, I often guess what the other party is doing and what the state is, and once the other party explains it, I will worry about its authenticity and reliability, whether it is cheating or cajoling; If you are busy with work and neglect contact for a certain period of time, you will think about whether the other party has second thoughts. One party is worried that the other party can't stand loneliness and loneliness, and the other party is worried that the other party can't help but seduce and seduce.

When you see the emotional changes of people around you, you worry that you are not around, and the "position" there is empty. Will others launch an "attack" and win it in one fell swoop? When you are waiting hard and determined, you will worry about whether the other party is still true and whether you are ready to look forward to the future with others; I am infatuated with each other in my hometown and miss each other from afar, worrying about whether the other party has been "close to the water" and won the "month" first; When love is delayed, facing the uncertain future, I worry about whether to choose and start again. Even if two people are desperate for love, distance and space are not a problem, they will always worry about where they will go in the future, where to settle down, how to deal with various life troubles in the two places in the future, etc. In a word, due to the lack of mutual companionship, they will always be restless, and they will often fall into a tangled state of concern, unable to extricate themselves and miserable.

Each of these aspects of long-distance love is sad and helpless.