Honey, my annual salary is 1 10,000, and you are 1 10,000. How dare you care about my money? Do you think it should be managed?

My wife and I have been married for 7.8 years. My wife married me when I was poor, which really moved me. I also believe that my wife is sincere to me. She is not a woman who hates poverty and loves wealth.

After years of hard work after marriage, my work has gradually improved. I got a promotion and a raise. After several job-hopping, the annual salary has become 6.5438+0 million, and there are equity incentives.

As for my wife, because the birth of a child delayed the opportunity for promotion and salary increase, her work did not improve, and she was still a small clerk. The annual income plus various benefits is about 65438+ 10,000.

Women are really incomprehensible animals. When they have no money, they want nothing but you. When you are really rich, you complain about insecurity every day.

As the position rises higher and higher, I can be described as a senior in the company and a talented young man.

Because of this, my wife doesn't trust me and asks me to give her my salary every month. Of course I don't want to.

The wife said that you are less than 40 years old and earn millions a year. How many young girls in your unit have a crush on you and are eager to jump on you?

I said, would you stop talking nonsense? We are all serious colleagues. Don't talk nonsense if it's nothing.

The wife said, then why don't you want to pay your salary? Not selfish, is it?

I said, I will give you 1 10,000 yuan for household use every month, and I will give you a bonus of 654.38+10,000 yuan at the end of the year. I will pay the usual household expenses and keep your salary. Isn't that enough?

My wife just doesn't want to say that men become bad when they have money. I have to hand in my salary card and keep it safe so that she can feel safe.

I am so angry. Just skip the past sentence: "Wife, my annual salary is 1 10,000, and you are 1 10,000. I don't trust your financial ability. How dare you take care of my money? "

My wife thinks you love me, so you have to hand over your salary card, otherwise everything will be useless.

So, how do couples build trust? Money is the best witness to the problem.

1. Open and transparent household income and expenditure

Tu Lei said: Men are rakes to earn money, and women are boxes to save money. Whether to leave it to a woman is not the key to the problem, but why not leave it to her? Do you have any other selfish ideas that you don't know?

Regardless of the income of both parties, an open and transparent family income and expenditure is the basic respect for marriage. Women want a sense of security, mostly because they believe in the concept that "men become bad when they have money". Therefore, women have to make the countermeasure of "managing a man's wallet well in order to control a man's lower body".

Second, establish a consistent consumption concept.

Since the income gap between the two sides has arisen, it is necessary to cultivate a consistent consumption concept between the two sides. The most taboo is that one of them thinks that he has made a fortune and spends money lavishly, while the other thinks that it is easier to keep money than to spend it. Then the consumption concept is too broad, and it is difficult for families to have a sense of happiness.

Third, the establishment of household income and expenditure account books

What women obviously want is not financial management, but managing men through financial management. Establish a household income and expenditure account book, record how much each month, how much it costs, how much the balance is at the end of the year, and whether the two sides have saved private money. The end of the year, be clear at a glance.

Money is the touchstone of emotion. Whether the husband or wife is in charge of money or each other's affairs, the most important thing is mutual trust, so that the marriage can last.