Family education: don't praise others' children in front of them. Why?

Mom and Dad always think that children are young and don't know anything, let alone self-esteem. In fact, they have strong self-esteem and cherish themselves very much. As we all know, Chinese people take modesty as their virtue, and some young parents always like to praise other people's children casually in front of their own children.

A young mother next door casually said, "Ah! Your little sister is so cute and lovely, unlike my Lele, she is only naughty and annoying. " Lele, who was on the side, opened her eyes wide and said timidly, "Mom, I am good." Unexpectedly, her mother said loudly, "If you are good, you will know that it is naughty and annoying. Go away!" After a few days, people found that Lele had changed. The naive and lively Lele saw her mother coming back and hid behind the chair and dared not go forward. Mom said, "Lele came and kissed mom!" " Lele kissed her mother carefully and then came up with a sentence: "Mom, I am good, don't be upset." All the people present were shocked.

Xiaodong's father invited several buddies to dinner. After a few drinks, several people praised their sons and daughters. The father said carelessly, "I like my son very much. My little east is going to become a son, so I am happy to jump off a building!" " Xiaodong quickly ran to the kitchen and asked his mother in her not-so-neat words, "Do I become a son?" Mom said, "What are you talking about? It won't change." Xiaodong used to sleep very well. Mom doesn't know why Xiaodong is always restless at night these days. He seems very scared after waking up. I went to grandma's house on Saturday. As soon as I entered the door, I didn't see my father. I cried and said that my father jumped off the building. It really shocked my grandmother. When the father came back and told the whole story, his family laughed it off as a joke. However, Xiaodong said to himself for a long time: "No change, no change, dad won't jump off the building."

In children's small hearts, parents love themselves the most, and they love them the most. Once they hear their parents praising other children, they may think that their parents don't love themselves and have a strong sense of loss.

Some young parents always think that they are children, who know nothing, let alone have any self-esteem. But from the above examples, children can not only understand, but also have a fierce reaction in their own minds. They have strong self-esteem and cherish themselves very much. Young parents must pay attention to these "little things" everywhere, otherwise they will seriously hurt their children and make them lose their psychological balance.