Why are some people unwilling to be filial to their parents?

The question you raised has attracted a lot of attention. Let me answer your question.

Of course, there are a few people in life who treat their parents badly, and various scandals about unfilial parents have been exposed; but the fact that some people are unfilial to their parents may be an illusion formed by hearsay.

I have studied this social phenomenon. Why do some people like to say that you are unfilial to your parents? There are several reasons:

In the first case, even if you are not good to your parents, but you respect your relatives and often interact with them, at this time, your relatives will not go out to say that you are unfilial to your parents, because you If you respect your relatives, your relatives will be hidden; even if you are usually very good to your parents and only occasionally contradict your parents, your relatives will hear you. If you have not interacted with your relatives for many years, your relatives will tell you everywhere about your contradictory words. If you are not filial to your parents, you will inevitably quarrel and talk back in every household. It is not that you are not filial to your good parents, but that you are not filial and respectful to your relatives. Relatives are mostly your elders who have the right to speak out to vent their hatred. Some relatives say that you are unfilial to your parents, which is to warn you that even if your relatives are not humane , you should also respect communication more, otherwise, people will say that you are unfilial to your parents, because you have indeed quarreled with your parents.

In the second case, you don’t get along well with the people around you. You argue and fight with the people around you. Because the people around you live very close to you, even if it is trivial matters in your family, the people around you will People nearby heard the news and asked about it, but they said your armpit hair is as thick as pig bristles. You clearly know that your family conditions are not very good, and you can't spend hundreds of thousands to treat your parents. Even if your parents are in bed for a long time, you will catch their feces and urine. People around you will also scold you for being unfilial to your parents because you don’t have the money to fulfill your filial piety. Especially when you are young and unmarried, scolding you for being unfilial to your parents is the most effective weapon. Firstly, it can damage your love and marriage, and secondly, it can damage your career. Future, in fact, the fundamental reason why you are unfilial to your parents is that you have not accommodated the ugly human nature of the people around you.

In the third situation, when others are trying to exploit your parents' labor, you may be very angry and stop your parents on the spot. As a result, others want to exploit your parents but fail, and others vent their anger in your hometown to slander you for being unfilial. This story is the best illustration: many years ago, there was a city contractor named Zhang who exploited migrant workers in his hometown for blood. The contractor named Zhang boasted that he was so rich that he could not even afford the hospitalization expenses of migrant workers, and his bad deeds were even worse. He was single, had no children, and no place to spend his small money. Many migrant workers in his hometown were unwilling to work hard with him. Once, he called the father and son named Li from his hometown, and within a few days he asked the father and son to work overtime at the construction site. Did the son named Li know whether he worked overtime? The money was given to him, so he kept his father from working overtime at night. His father saw that the contractor named Zhang was a fellow villager and was going to do some work for the fellow villagers. The son named Li scolded his father in front of him: "You are a bit precious, right?" "Did you get paid for overtime last time? Don't go!" Because of what the son surnamed Li said, when the contractor surnamed Zhang returned to his hometown, he scorned the son surnamed Li almost every time he saw him, saying that he was unfilial to his father and not a good guy. After we read this short story, we will understand the true nature of things. Not only does the son named Li feel sorry for his father, but there is no such thing as an unfilial father. They made excuses for not being qualified here and there, threatened and threatened migrant workers with deductions from their wages, and forced migrant workers to work overtime on cold nights. It seems that the father surnamed Li is indeed a treasure, but he has no choice but to make a living for the whole family.

I heard a story told by a passenger on the bus: In the past, there was a family in the countryside. There were only three people living in the home all year round. The father was a retired township cadre, the son was a member of the village committee, and the wife was still a Murakami. The female representative, in such a family, should strive to be a role model; but her father is very lustful and often molests his wife. The wife wants to pocket his pension, and his son likes to go to the town to find young ladies. , there was a rumor that the father had an ambiguous relationship with his daughter-in-law. Once, his son caught the rapist and beat his father. Later, when the father saw others, he scolded his son for being unfilial to him.

After the passengers in the car finished speaking, they wanted to test me and asked whether the son was filial to his father or not. However, for many years I have not been able to solve this problem. It is difficult for every family to read the scriptures, and almost every household has quarrels and conflicts. For example, in the above story, it was wrong for the father to molest his daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law wanted to take advantage of her father. The pension is wrong, the son treating his wife as a decoration is wrong, the son playing with the girl outside is wrong, the father is committing adultery with his wife, is it wrong? Is it right for a son to beat his father? It is even less clear whether a son is filial to his father or not.

Therefore, using family conflicts to criticize others for being unfilial to their parents not only has no scientific and accurate basis, but also reflects that your humanity is not very good. You should not use your hatred for others to accuse others of being unfilial to their parents. Others hate you equally, but they don't say nonsense that you are unfilial to your parents. It's impossible that you haven't had arguments with your parents.

Parents and children are inseparable from the flesh and blood relationship. Even after being beaten and scolded by others, we are still a family. Other parents will not ask you for food or use. After thinking about this social phenomenon, I found that, in fact, there is not much Children do not feel sorry for their parents, but there are more ways to be filial: some people spend money to be filial to their parents, some people use their strength to be filial to their parents, some people are filial to their parents as companions, some people hire people to be filial to their parents, and some people use Mouth is filial to parents, some people are filial to their parents when they are young, some are filial to their parents when they are old, some people are filial to their parents even when they ask for money... [呲呲]

Human beings are originally evil by nature!

It’s not just some people who don’t want to be filial to their parents, but the vast majority of them!

Filial piety - Ninety-nine percent of people are helpless, and filial children have no future! To be fair, they can't give their parents anything but waiting. This kind of waiting is what we call - filial piety!

For wealthy people, for the sake of status, status, reputation, filial piety is just a show for them! They can go drinking with their clients, go shopping with their mistresses, go fishing with their buddies, and for their parents, they can only show their filial piety in a high-profile way on their birthdays! For others to see!

Parents can give up everything for their children. How many children can give up everything for their parents?

Filial piety - just a hypocritical mask to protect people!

There are many reasons for not being filial to your parents. In a happy family, "filial piety comes first", children basically respect their parents, and have a good inheritance of "filial piety" in terms of understanding and words and deeds. Every family in an unfilial family has problems that are difficult to recite, which manifest themselves in various aspects. "The father is unkind and the son is unfilial" is only one aspect. From a certain aspect, young people just make excuses for their unfilial piety, basing their unfilial piety on the unkindness of their parents rather than on themselves. To be precise, parents have their own lives. Due to their own problems, they may make mistakes in life and work, fail to fulfill their responsibilities to their children, or even scold us and hit us for no reason, which has deeply hurt us..." People are not saints and sages, who can have no faults?" Moreover, affected by the times in which they live, they may have low education, little knowledge, or even illiterate, especially they are very stubborn in some matters. But none of this is a reason to be unfilial. We have our own lives and our own outlook on life and values. I think the important responsibility for not being filial to our parents lies with us: "If my father loves me, why is it difficult to be filial? If my father hates me, filial piety must be virtuous!" It's not how my parents treat me, it's more important. What matters is how we treat our parents? When we honor our parents, we not only do good deeds and reflect our personal cultivation, but more importantly, we influence and teach our children how to honor us in the future, and pass on the filial piety scriptures from generation to generation. From this aspect, it is not an exaggeration to say that filial piety to parents is filial piety to oneself

How can one be filial to the elderly? Know the kindness, think about the kindness, pour the heart into the deep kindness. Nowadays, young people think that being filial to the elderly is kidnapping. Being ungrateful and not repaying kindness is inhumane and the saddest thing is.二 o = New Year's Day, January 1 of each year.

I feel that this thing is still related to the disharmony with the family, the education level of the parents, whether they fulfilled their due responsibilities and obligations to their children when they were young, whether they cared enough for their children, and whether the relationship between them was handled well. ,

Some people are unwilling to be filial to their parents because of two reasons: 1. Parents have been obedient to their children since childhood and do not know how to teach their children to be grateful from an early age. In addition, although they are mothers, they do not know how to establish respect. Old, your children will copy your words and deeds. You cannot completely blame your children for these things. It is because you have not done enough. Like father, like son; 2. The current social environment has caused people to become more and more indifferent, and a screen is worse than their parents. My dear, I would rather talk a thousand words to the screen than say too many words to my relatives. If this bad habit of society does not change, human relationships will become weaker and weaker in the future. When we meet across from each other, we will not know each other, and we will laugh and ask where the guests are from. The last thing I want to say is that children should respect their fathers. Fathers need to set an example, use mobile phones rationally, and communicate more frequently. Children will become more and more filial.

In this case, why are there still some people who are unwilling to be filial to their parents? I think the problems are as follows:

1. The upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked. A child's first enlightenment teacher is his or her parents. Whether parents think well of their elders or not will leave a deep impression on their children, which will also affect their lives. There is a joke about a mother who was very unkind to her mother-in-law. She only served food in a bowl every day and never served the old man to eat. One day, the bowl was broken by a child, and her son sat on the ground. She burst into tears and said while crying: "Mom, the bowl is broken. How can I give you food when you are old?" This joke has been adapted into many versions, and many short videos have also been shot. This joke tells us that filial piety is passed down from generation to generation. Filial piety is not just something to talk about. The best education is action.

2. Some children are born in a disharmonious family. They have been exposed to some quarrels and fights since they were young, leaving imprints on their young minds. . Parents' disputes even go so far as to prevent children from enjoying family affection and seeing the love of father and mother. Naturally, children will not develop the desire to be close to and filial to their parents. Just imagine, can such children have love in their hearts? Where would it come from without love? What about your filial piety?

3. Elders and parents pamper their children too much. I think this is the most important. The idea of ??favoring boys over girls has been deeply rooted in the Chinese people since ancient times. When a boy is born, he is pampered to no end. It is really like "holding it in your hands for fear of falling, holding it in your mouth for fear of melting." Especially the older generation is even more painful than a golden boy. Like a pimple, God wants the moon but not the stars, buys whatever he wants, fulfills all the wishes of the children, and cultivates a selfish mentality in the children that he is the only one in everything, and no one dares to call him the boss even though I am the second child. Once the wish cannot be realized, the world begins to fall apart. Such a child is selfish, self-centered, arrogant and spoiled, and cannot bear any hardship. How can you expect him to be filial? How difficult is it!