A journey of faith

The first sentence of getting up every day, say "I'm sorry" to yourself first.

What a pity! After naked resignation, I didn't wander around like most people. Like most people, I lived in naked resignation for a while. It's not that I haven't thought about going out for a walk, but I have included travel in my resignation plan. I made a strategy very early.

At first, I wanted to go to Beijing in the north, Weizhou Island in the south, Hangzhou in the east and Qinghai in the west, all over the country, without asking anything. Later, I encountered a force majeure factor-no money! Gave up this route.

Next, it is planned that the Sichuan-Tibet line will enter Tibet and the Yunnan-Tibet line will leave Tibet, commonly known as the "journey of faith". Later, I encountered a force majeure factor-no money! Gave up this route.

Finally, I decided to take an economical and time-saving route (usually one more day will cost me one more day):

First stop: Guangzhou, take the longest train line Z264 in China to Lhasa, with a journey of 52 hours and 34 minutes.

Second stop: I arrived in Lhasa on the afternoon of the third day, took the 1 bus or Didi to my residence and stayed for two days. On the fourth day, I went to Potala Palace, Jokhang Temple to turn the scriptures and worship in Barkhor Street to listen to Maggie Ami telling stories. ...

Third stop: On the fifth day, I took a five-day tour of the local area, went to Namco to watch the sunrise and sunset, and went to Everest Base Camp to watch the stars. ...

Fourth stop: I returned to Lhasa on the ninth day and stayed for one night. On the tenth day, Potala Palace took the airport bus to Gongga Airport and flew home.

I think I should tell my family. I can go on the road without telling my family, and that's a trip alone. I want to get the support of my family, at least I won't be lonely on the road. It would be cool if I could get financial support.

I don't agree. It's time for young people to make money, and it's time to travel when they are old and can't make money. That is to say, "I can travel, but you can't." I can fully understand my father's objection. Based on his environment and ideological education, many of his ideas and viewpoints are completely different from ours.

For example, our understanding of tourism is different. The general tour is "get on the bus to sleep, get off the bus to pee, take a photo at the scenic spot, and come back knowing nothing". My parents' trip is full-time photo-taking, small video and live broadcast by friends. When I come back, I will show off where I have been. "Let others know" is the meaning of travel. So they always travel in groups. Because "not bad money." We are different. Most of us have no money and can only travel in poverty, so we have made a one-month strategy to spend the least money and go to the most places. The purpose of our travel is mostly just to "divert our attention".

I don't feel angry, because I think it is meaningless to travel with emotions. I just want to find out how different the cognition of the two generations is.

So, we had a "belief journey" about life, career, marriage, children, house and car.

In this era of "grabbing a lot of college students in the street", the older generation's cognition of college students still stays at the stage of "bag distribution, eating units". Sometimes this is just a joke. Parents can't catch up with the good times, so they pin their hopes on their children. Parents will also calculate the "input-output ratio". The more time, money and energy parents spend on their children, the more they want their children to be "high-yield children". This is understandable, and it is also the instinct of parents, because from the perspective of investment, high investment requires high return. At the same time, children are also required to win at the starting line as soon as they step into society. What is your position and what price you will earn. Generally speaking, you read so many books and earn less than people who don't. Is this not a joke? This is understandable, because your parents also let you win at the starting line when you were young. However, stress is related to who said that parents have investment pressure and children have return pressure. On the other hand, most of the children who leave society early are very handsome. They should marry and have children. I'm not advocating not reading, but reading more is good for myself and society. Those who leave society early, getting married and having children is also a kind of belonging.

It is not difficult to find a job that makes money, and it is not difficult to find a job that you like. It's really difficult to find a job that makes money and enjoys it. Others know if you make money or not, and only you know if you like it or not. The difficulty is to find a job you like by using the standards of others to make money. Entrepreneurship is a game for the rich. You can have some spare money to play, but don't joke about the money at home unless you can guarantee that the business will be stable and profitable. The present stage is the stage of accumulating capital and observing the market. Compared with entrepreneurship, young people nowadays are more inclined to invest in financial management. Just like the relationship between a house and a car, you can't afford a house, but you can buy a car. We can't make a lot of money, but we can make a little money.

Some people say that there is a career before marriage, and marriage needs a certain material foundation, which means that marriage is a state, and you need the ability to achieve this state. You always want to give each other the best, but at the same time you don't want to live worse than when you are alone. Some people say that marriage comes before career, and two people make money faster than one. Parents prefer the latter, which I can understand as a desire to have grandchildren. Because when it's time to get married and have children, money is secondary. The current social trend is to marry later or not. With the development of human civilization, when the older generation thinks that getting married and having children is a glorious mission, the younger generation regards this glorious mission as a way of life. After 80, I began to experience family planning and let go of the second child. The country's macro-control policy makes them feel that they can live or not, and the mission of "getting married and having children to carry on the family line" has become less sacred. Coupled with the pressure of marriage, divorce is becoming more and more common, as well as the pressure of raising children and so on. When you can choose, of course, choose the lifestyle that makes you most comfortable. Of course, this is when you can't give others a comfortable life.

The country has liberalized the "second child". Why not have a "first child"? Isn't this a drag on the country? Most people who can have one child can have a second child. Without one child, it's no use letting three or four children go. I heard that "maternity tax" and "single tax" will be introduced soon. Just like this, someone pulls you in front and pushes you behind, but you stop the car yourself, so you can only say that it is not sweet. It will only lead to a higher divorce rate and a lower happiness index. Skip the stage of being born or not, how can you raise it if you are born? Parents are the same in the world. It doesn't matter if they suffer a little, but they can't suffer their own children. Children are also parents' hopes, and hopes are beautiful, so I don't want to have children, but I dare not. I hope to have a family, I hope to grow up, I hope to train, I hope to go to school ... Although having children and raising children are family matters, they are closely related to the whole social environment. When you can't buy a house, take care of children, children can't go to school and can't even support themselves, how can you create a good environment for children? Parents say you are responsible for giving birth to children, and we are responsible for taking care of them for you. Parents may mean well, but we must not do this. Parents can take it. It is most appropriate for children to be under their noses before they have independent consciousness. You should always observe children. If possible, make friends with children, keep a low profile, exchange stories with stories, and exchange secrets with secrets. You'll tell everything. On the issue of puppy love, we don't encourage or stop it. Love is such a beautiful thing that you need to learn to express it, and you don't have to get it. Parents help their children through the rebellious period with the help of observers. If there is no rebellious period in life, it is an incomplete life, and everyone who has experienced it knows it.

In fact, many elements of life, such as love, career, marriage, children, house, car and so on. Does not exist independently and affects our lives. Our life is the result of their interaction. For better or worse. Generally speaking, having a house and a car means having a good career, and a good career can reap love. Love has enough foundation to enter the marriage hall, and a well-run family can often cultivate proud children. But sometimes, life is not so smooth. Some people have gained love, but they don't have enough career foundation to let love enter the marriage hall. A friend of mine is experiencing such troubles. After four years in college, I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. Counting two years after graduation, I have reached the point of talking about marriage. However, the woman's family asked to buy a house in Guangzhou and develop in Guangzhou. The woman is from Guangzhou, a single-parent family, who lost her father since childhood. The woman doesn't care because of love. It's just that the woman's mother has brought up her eldest daughter since childhood and can't suffer her daughter. There is nothing wrong with such conditions, but it hurts the man. My friend's current salary can't buy a suite in Guangzhou, but he can buy a suite in his hometown. Despite the house problem, they can live well, just as they have done in the past six years. But the house, as a hard condition for marriage, has always been a hurdle. My suggestion is that you must tie the bell, communicate well and influence your mother-in-law by hook or by crook. It's better to buy welfare lottery tickets than to make money and such nonsense.

I analyzed the reasons why I don't agree, because leaving the job is a mistake, and it is wrong for you to do other things on the wrong basis. We have been taught to be good children since childhood, but now we have passed the rebellious period, and the only remaining personality can only be revealed secretly.

All the generation gaps are due to the disagreement of three views, which leads to poor communication. Accompanied, without any verbal communication, so quietly eat together and watch TV together. Because as soon as you open your mouth, you will find that your outlook on life, values, world outlook, outlook on life, love outlook, marriage outlook and so on are at sixes and sevens, and all kinds of views will be impacted as never before. Finally, I found that you only have wishful thinking-relatives, which is the common ground between your two worlds, and can let you put aside all your obsession and unhappiness.

When you don't go home because you are upset or feel unhappy because you go home, then I can think that your life is full of troubles and unhappiness, and you are avoiding and delaying many problems. Because evasion and procrastination are the root of all unhappiness.

Go home often!