As a new employee, do I need to give red envelopes to office colleagues when they get married?

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My author background received two very interesting questions on the same day:

One said this:

A new colleague has arrived at the company, and he has only been on the job for three weeks.

I came to work this Monday and suddenly made a high-profile announcement: I’m married!

Invitations were sent out in the office, inviting us to her wedding banquet.

The key is that she has only been employed for three weeks, and she is not familiar with her at all, and she has even never spoken to some of her colleagues.

In this case, do we have to follow the others?

Another one said this:

As for me, I have just joined the new company for about a month, and I am getting married in a week.

I didn’t mean to choose to get married when I first started working. It just happened to happen for various reasons.

Now we are faced with a difficult question:

Should I send invitations to my colleagues in my current company?

Don’t post it, people will think I’m rude if they find out later;

If I post it, I wonder if someone will say that I am making money in the name of marriage...< /p>

emmmm... Allow me to make an official complaint first:

These two problems can be called mirror sister problems. You two are not in the same company, right? ……-2-

This has happened to me as well when my colleagues announced their marriage just a few days after joining the company.

In the first half of this year, a new colleague in our company did this:

First, the two of them arranged their vacations, returned to their hometowns, and invited local relatives and friends of both parties. A formal wedding ceremony was held in their hometown;

Secondly, after the vacation, the two returned to Hangzhou and held a thank-you banquet in Hangzhou;

Thirdly, the thank-you banquet was only I invited colleagues from the same department and told everyone in advance that there was no need to give red envelopes.

What do you guys think of this approach?

From the perspective of an old employee, I feel that the couple’s handling method is relatively safe and error-free!

It not only avoids others being suspected of making money by receiving red envelopes, but also fully takes care of interpersonal relationships in the workplace, killing two birds with one stone~-3-

In the modern workplace, everyone is During the golden period of your career, you may have to change jobs several times.

Every time you change jobs, it means stepping out of your comfort zone, challenging new business areas, establishing new interpersonal relationships, and adapting to a new working environment.

For those people in the workplace who are inherently extroverted, adapting to a new environment does not seem to be difficult;

However, there are still many people in the workplace who are more introverted and not good at interpersonal relationships. Even dealing with ordinary co-worker relationships is a headache, let alone the topic of whether to inform new co-workers about getting married just after joining the company. There is no right answer.

So, when a new employee joins the company, how should he correctly handle the relationship with the company’s old employees?

This article will share with you three methods to ensure you don’t make mistakes!

1. Learn the routine first

Like many people, even though I am very active on the Internet all day long, in reality I also have very serious social anxiety. ——When I ordered takeout, I asked the guy to put it at the door and leave. Five minutes later, I opened the door and picked it up myself like a thief.

There is no cure for social phobia. You can only prepare a routine before joining a new company.

What kind of routine?

Ahead of time, ahead of time, ahead of time! When a new employee joins the company, don’t fight an unprepared battle! < /p>

2. Think about the ice-breaking topics with new colleagues in advance:

I will join the company tomorrow. Let’s see what public topics and opinions are available tonight, and discuss them with colleagues the next day. You can continue the conversation smoothly while eating, so that at least you can appear less rigid and autistic in front of your colleagues;

3. Practice a joke or joke in advance that you have collected for a long time and that experience has proven to be miraculous. ;

Put yourself in a relaxed position and tell jokes to send a signal to others:

I am very cute! Come chat with me!

Believe me, no one will hate this new colleague.

2. Accept kindness

I believe many people have this habit:

When others give you something, such as small snacks and fruits, there are many People reflexively refuse the gift first, and then the other person persuades you to accept it, and then you accept the gift with a embarrassment.

These are the seeds of character planted in childhood!

You must remember that when you were a child and visited other people’s homes, your parents told you this:

“When the time comes when your uncle and aunt give you a red envelope, you can’t just ask for it! You have to say no. You must accept it, otherwise it is rude!"

However, in the modern workplace, how much meaning does such "hypocritical" politeness have left?

Always "don't, don't, don't", others will not think you are very polite, they will only think you are inexplicable and do not know how to praise...

So, in the new environment, become an old employee When someone expresses kindness and closeness to you, accept it politely, say thank you, and remember to reciprocate the other person's kindness, and that's it!

3. Don’t chat to death.

Have you discovered it?

Those heartthrobs in social situations, what do they have in common?

Exceptionally good at chatting.

Having a pleasant conversation with people who are good at chatting is not a big deal; those who are real wolf killers can also have a happy conversation with introverts.

The fundamental reason is: they know how to guide the interactivity of chat partners.

In the workplace, chatting with colleagues can also start from work content and then develop into personal areas.

This is the most natural way of communication in the workplace, which can not only solve problems but also bring people closer together.

For example, if you ask an old employee about something at work, after asking, observe what is on his desk, and ask in a novel tone: "What is this?" or "This I have the same style, "Hey, bala, bala" - look, the distance is getting closer invisibly.

A common saying on scarves:

"If you are also XXX, I will treat you as one of my own."

The same is true in the workplace. .

In interpersonal communication, many times, there is only a little sense of identity.

When you provide people with a sense of recognition, intimacy will naturally increase. -4-

In fact, when it comes to whether new employees who have just joined the company should send wedding invitations to colleagues and ask for share money when they get married, on the surface it is a matter of interpersonal relationships, but in essence it is a matter of emotional intelligence.

When we usually talk about emotional intelligence, most of them cannot avoid topics such as whether you can speak, whether something will happen, and whether you have eyesight. But what exactly is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is not about sweet words or cunning, but:

Selectively let the people around you like you, care about you, and trust you, so as to achieve self-growth. ability.

People with truly high emotional intelligence will not be limited to a certain way of speaking or a certain interpersonal communication skill.

Even if you encounter a difficult problem, you can still do it. You can truly consider the other person's perspective without losing your own interests, and finally come up with a solution that everyone is happy with.

Benefit yourself and others - a win-win situation is the best ending.