Being scolded badly by parents, how should we adjust our mentality? Should I go back?

It is ugly to be scolded by your parents. You should keep silent, avoid them and never look back. Although parents are ugly and angry, there are reasons for this, and children should understand. I am also the son of my parents and a father, and my father passed away. My mother died of illness when I was very young, and now I often miss my father when he was alive! When my father was alive, he didn't say he was cursing. When he did something wrong, he hit it with a big stick instead of a twig. I was beaten, and I was angry, too. Even my brother was so angry that he told me to hit him back with a stick. Of course, I still didn't do that. Everyone in the village knows that my father is interested in beating children. Every move is a big stick, saying that you can't hit children like this. Plus I may have played with leather when I was a child. I grew up with beatings and curses. Now my evaluation of my father is that my father "said, scolded and got it right"! Of course, it's not all reasonable, but what parents scold. As children, we should obey, obey and carry out what is reasonable, say yes if it is unreasonable, be silent or avoid it. As parents, they are elders. It's really not easy for them all their lives. They haven't read many books. They farm during the day, some catch up with culture at night, and some can't even write a few words. Now that I think about it, I always hate that I didn't spend too much time with them, especially during the Spring Festival. I can't stop crying when I think about it now! I am always busy outside and have no time to go back. I make money outside. I don't think I gave my parents much money to spend, just gave him what he wanted to do. When parents are old, what they need is companionship and more visits to their children. It is often said that "parents look to the Yangtze River, children look to their parents unarmed"! Now every holiday, friends around me say they don't know if they want to go back to their hometown. I said that if my parents are at home, I must go back to spend the New Year with them. They said that if the brothers were at home, they had to go back. Without them, you won't have a chance to accompany the elderly. If parents are away, there is no chance of being scolded. A scolding is better than nothing!

When I was very young, I couldn't stand the scolding of my parents and was disgusted. It's really childish to think about yourself now. My parents eat more salt than we do. It's all experience Maybe it is wrong, that is love. Over time, I want to listen to my parents' scolding more now. A child with parents (no matter how old the child is) is a kind of happiness.

The father or mother of several relatives and friends around us are gone, and that kind of pain is the most heartbreaking, and that kind of missing and regret is the most uncomfortable. Therefore, my parents are still alive, and I am very happy to scold myself. Smiling and admitting mistakes, parents will feel that there is nothing to scold.

There is a good saying: a person's life is too short to pass carelessly. Don't wait for the day of regret.

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First of all, thank Wukong for his invitation! At this time, I felt a little sad and invited me to answer this question. All right! From the standpoint of a father, I will talk about the ways that parents and children should take when they have conflicts, the measures, ways and methods to ease the escalation of conflicts and solve the disappearance of conflicts.

As a parent, the problem comes out. First of all, be restrained and calm. Of course, people are emotional creatures, mainly lust, easily controlled by emotions and perceptual cognition, and then they will rush out of the bondage and constraints of reason; Make a big fuss about small things, and small problems will be implicated in the outbreak of bad emotions on weekdays.

Second, talk about things; Only focus on solving the current problems, and remember not to expand the scope of the problems and let small things develop in a bad and uncontrollable direction. We should grasp the essence of the problem and resolve disputes, and we should not be too impulsive; As the saying goes,' Impulse is the devil.' Irrational people will worsen the situation, escalate contradictions and lead to unpredictable results and situations.

Finally, one party made a compromise and cooled the scene first. As the saying goes,' it's hard to sing with one hand'. '

If the quarreling party can control his emotions quickly and let the other party have no object to vent, then the smoke will disappear immediately. When the two sides calm down, they can discuss the solution to the problem calmly, but they will not let the contradictions hang in the air, thus affecting the unity between their families.

As a child, when there are inevitable disputes or contradictions with family members or parents, we must deal with them with a rational and calm attitude; Never be willful, regardless of the dignity and personality of parents, children are United by blood; If things are unfair, life will inevitably have storms; Different mentality and temperament, there will always be troubles due to vulgar affairs in reality; If a person is wise, he will be able to take it in stride. As the saying goes; There are no parents in the world and no dutiful son who has been ill in bed for a long time! In interpersonal relationships, children should not go against their parents' wishes; If parents are wrong, it is feasible to persuade them not to listen, but they can follow their wishes and wait for them to correct themselves.

As a child, it is not easy for parents affected by life to become close relatives because of blood relationship. It's not easy to hurt parents' nurturing grace at will because of one's self-interest. As children, filial piety should be the foundation of our life, and parents should not fall into a whirlpool of danger and physical and mental disadvantages because of their own actions and troubles.

Don't fight back to your face, just let go; Patience is a knife in your heart, and you can't bear anything in your heart. Take a step back and be patient for a while! Everyone should have the concept of empathy, think more about each other, benefit others, and always respect others. Be considerate of others and accumulate Fonad for yourself. If everyone has the heart to love others, the world will be full of sunshine and flowers.

At first, I said I was sad because my son couldn't understand the pains of being a father. Just because he had a friend party the night before yesterday, I suspected that he was drunk, so I didn't let him drive to the city yesterday morning and was angry with me. It's the word sad in my heart. However, now it has vanished, and the warm sun is in the sky!

New Year's Eve is approaching, the old year is drifting away, and the good luck of the new year is coming. On the occasion of harmonious reunion, let's pray for the medical staff who work in Wuhan and fight against pneumonia!

The filial piety of all virtues should never be forgotten. In this case, I summarize three points:

1. If a reasonable parent can scold an ugly sentence, it must be that his child has touched his bottom line before he can scold an ugly sentence regardless of his child's feelings. At this time, as a child, we should first think about our mistakes, correct them in time, and sincerely apologize to our parents. At the same time tell your parents that their words hurt you. But you won't care, knowing that they are doing it for your own good. You still love them. In the future, if something happens that they can't stand, warn themselves first and let themselves realize what is wrong.

Communicate with each other. Some parents are not well educated and can't express their ideas well. Often some words don't convey the meaning, and they are all what they want to say, without any malice. At this time, children should learn to be wronged by themselves, wait for the children to be calmer and ask themselves why they curse. If you are wrong, admit it in time, and if they misunderstand, explain it clearly in the simplest language. Such parents are often emotional, and their anger disappears by half after a sentence. I think they still love you in their hearts. Just bear with it, take a step back and be happy, so that their feelings can go further. There is no going back, which will only escalate the war.

3. avoidance type. Some parents have a bad temper and don't care about their children's feelings. At this time, their children are even more pitiful. What you do is useless, you can only suffer. Never go back, it will cause domestic violence. After scolding, quietly withdraw from your sight, find a quiet place to vent and spit out your depression. Then try to find as many people as your parents trust to understand the situation and pass your ideas on to each other through an intermediary. If you can communicate, you are lucky. You still have a home. I can't communicate, so I have to bear it silently. I study hard and get out of this environment as soon as possible.

Children should remember that you are the pride of parents. In order to get rid of your bad habits and not listen to your parents to correct them, can you stop cursing? Don't they just want you to work hard to make money for the school and give you a good future? Scold in the mouth, pain in the heart, think more about your parents' good. A harmonious and friendly family will plant a tree full of fruits.

It's hard to be scolded by parents. How should I adjust my mentality? Should I go back? In my opinion, in this matter, we should first look at your parents' family background and background to judge how angry your parents are with what you have done and what you have encountered. You should also make a prediction about why your parents react so much to the problems that have happened and are about to happen! But let me understand that you started this matter, and you didn't handle it well, which led to the abuse of your parents! So ╮ (▽ ╭) ╭ You have to find your own steps or admit your mistakes to your parents (we should respect them for their mistakes, after all, they have the grace to raise them). Besides, we must never quarrel with our parents. If we say it carelessly, we must make amends. Remember that our parents are kind (* _ *). thank you

Answer and scold you, which means I have you in my heart. It's just that the way to love is wrong, wrong. It makes people uncomfortable, can't get warmth and comfort, and causes strong disgust, disgust, and more is understanding, understanding and empathy. Although your parents scold you, they love to worry about you, help you and encourage you when things go wrong in your life. Just as leaders and bosses scold employees and employees, scolding you can provide convenience for your life, pay you wages, benefits and so on.

It is common for parents to scold their children, and I believe they are all out of kindness.

Scold: First, parents think you touched their bottom line and made them angry. Second, you have met parents who have no quality. This is your sorrow.

If the former is wrong, admit it. If it is a misunderstanding, explain it clearly on the spot. Don't hesitate.

If it is the latter, then don't go back, because it will make parents more angry, make both sides lose, and be regarded as a joke by outsiders. You can avoid it for a while and explain it later. If you meet such parents, just be a quality child!

How to adjust the mentality? Are you still worried about being scolded by your parents? Think about how to make my parents angry when I was a child, how to adjust my mentality by cooking us good food every meal.

Being scolded by your parents, you are filial to your parents. I'll be home in a few days. Because your parents are old and have heavy karma, you can communicate with them patiently and make sense. Because your parents are as old as their children and like to listen to good words. It's not worthwhile for you to blame them for being old-fashioned Sometimes life is unbearable. Some parents have no education and knowledge. Who do you blame? Nothing you can do can stop it. People are doing it, and the sky is watching. If there is dedication, there will be rewards, and good will be rewarded. Do as much good as possible.

You can't go back, because after all, you are your parents. No matter how your parents scold you, it's for your own good. If you really can't stand it, listen to it until your parents are tired and calm down, and then explain it to your parents.

If parents have gone too far, then avoid it first and avoid disputes. I can't take it anymore. I can keep silent. This will not make parents more angry.

It is not easy to think about the hardships of parents since childhood, so that they will be calm and will not quarrel with their parents. In short, they can't go back under any circumstances.

After all, our parents raised us, and our kindness is greater than the sky. It is difficult for parents to scold us, or maybe we really did something wrong; It is also possible that parents are not well educated and speak bluntly, especially for children. However, in any case, parents say that we scold us, and in their hearts, they really want their children to be well, well. This feeling is something we should always remember and understand. Therefore, we can accept the scolding of our parents with an open mind, or we can avoid it strategically, but never go back. I think this is wrong.