What happened to the girl who abandoned her boyfriend for the house and car and got married on a blind date?

A female college student has a boyfriend who has talked at school for seven years. From junior high school to high school and then to college, she has a good emotional foundation. That boy is very handsome and gives people a very quiet feeling. She is meticulous to her classmates. My classmates did well, too. During her college years, she rejected many suitors at school and never had an affair with the opposite sex. We all agree that they will get married after graduation.

The boy's family condition is very general. After graduation, his classmate married a blind date and had a car and a house at home. I went to the wedding and it was very good.

After marriage, the life of female classmates is neither salty nor light. The next year, she gave birth to a daughter, often basking in her circle of friends, and occasionally sending some small videos of a family of three going out to play. Sometimes we chat on WeChat, and our classmates say that life is good now. I am a full-time wife at home every day, and I don't have to work. I look after the baby, clean up the housework and cook, which is quite comfortable and relaxed. Husband is also good to her and will try his best to meet her requirements. A family of three.

A female colleague of the company, with sweet appearance and good figure, has been talking about an object for almost two years, but her boyfriend was rejected by her colleagues' parents because she could not meet their requirements.

Colleagues' parents have been instilling in her the idea that marriage must have a car and a house. The relationship that lasted for two years finally lost to reality. Colleagues get married, men meet each other on blind dates. They are three or four years older than her and look like they are playing. The family owns a factory and is considered a rich family in the local area. The parents of both sides also made it very clear that the appearance of the man in the woman's stage and the conditions of the woman in the man's stage hit it off. Soon after my marriage, I got pregnant. When I was six months old, suddenly the man filed for divorce. Nobody said it was useless, and my heart was broken. My colleague was dragged to the hospital by her mother-in-law, and she was induced to labor. After the operation, she opened a room in the hotel for a month directly, then patted her ass and left. After the operation, my classmates looked pale and walked around, and my husband's family didn't care. So my own sister cooks and sends it there every day. It took me half a year to recover, but it also left the root of the disease.

Later, I learned that the man was cheating and found a mistress outside. My mother-in-law also clamored: My family has plenty of money, and my son can change as many daughters-in-law as he wants. Colleagues are renting a house now, so it's embarrassing not to go back to their parents' house. The salary they earn every month will be good enough to support themselves, and it looks rather bleak.

A city girl named Xiaowen went to college and fell in love with a rural guy. She has been in love for four years and is going to get married after graduation.

Xiaowen's parents disagreed and threatened Xiaowen's divorce. Xiaowen had to break up with her boyfriend and marry an officer found by her parents.

At first, Xiaowen had no feelings for her husband and life was tasteless. After a long time, they gradually fell in love with each other.

Xiaowen's father-in-law is a big official, and she is assigned to work in the government. It's easy and the salary is not low. She was promoted a few years later.

Xiaowen's husband is more like a duck to water in the army, and in a few years he will be the deputy regiment level.

They have a house and a car, their savings are above three figures, their children are smart and beautiful, their husband and wife are very loving and their lives are very comfortable.

Buy clothes if you want, never be vague, travel if you want, and go abroad when you are tired of playing at home.

It's a world of difference to turn your back on your ex-boyfriend. Married a rural girl like him, no resources, no connections, low salary, loan to buy a house, and children. In addition to mortgage, children's milk powder and living expenses, the wages earned by the two are basically moonlight.

Colleagues get together, family get together is not necessary, never attend.

His parents are too old to stand it. They send money back every month.

Life is tight, and the slightest sign of trouble will break up.

Xiaowen heard about her ex-boyfriend and was glad that she had listened to her parents.

Although love is good, can it be eaten as a meal?

We have to live after all and be realistic.

Are we wrong? No one is wrong. What is wrong is that the world is cold and human feelings have changed dramatically. What we can stick to is always too fragile, so we have to reconsider. I hope to find a strong reassurance.

10 years ago, I broke up with my first love due to family pressure, and then I flashed my husband. To tell the truth, my first love was very kind to me, and I cried at home all day until I knew I was getting married. That time may be the most difficult time for me and him! Later, knowing that everything was a foregone conclusion, I lived with my husband with peace of mind and kept in touch with my first love, only chatting occasionally. To tell the truth, my heart is still quite sour and I feel sorry for him.

But what is done cannot be undone. Fortunately, he is very competitive and is doing well now. He is a famous local designer. He also got married and had children last year. Life is also very happy. My husband and I live abroad, and one son and one daughter live comfortably. My husband can cook and do housework, which is super good and fun for me. I am very satisfied with him.

My first love and I chat occasionally, and we are each other's achievements! I can only say that there is no fate with him. He was poor at that time, because he had just graduated, and he was definitely not as good as my current husband. But he made rapid progress. If he is devastated after I break up with him, or life is not satisfactory, I may have a hard time on my conscience.

It was 10 years after I got married that he found his present wife. At that time, my marriage also hit him hard. During his unmarried 10 years, I couldn't let him go in my heart. Although I love my husband very much, I still can't let him go. It was not until he got married last year that the burden in my heart was put down!

I sincerely hope that he will have a good life, and I will try my best to have a good life. After all, he and I used to love each other.

Summary: I love my husband very much, and I was forced to marry him before. I didn't know him at that time, but fortunately, I was lucky. Husband is my type. He can cook, do housework and work hard to make money. He loves me, and he is very likable. Getting married 1 1 year, every day is like falling in love.

First love is now a well-known local designer, and her achievements in recent years are also remarkable. His wife is younger than him 10 years old. She gave birth to a son last year, with a happy family and a successful career.

Ting for you: What happened to the girl who abandoned her boyfriend for the house and car and got married on a blind date? After thinking for a long time, I didn't find anyone like this around me, but many of them followed their boyfriends until they got married. After marriage, they always quarrel about money and have to rely on themselves.

The real case around you:

I have a friend who met and fell in love in college. The boy's family condition is particularly bad. If you think about getting married, you don't have to think about the house and car. There is absolutely no such thing.

Fortunately, this girl works hard and knows that it is impossible to buy a house by her boyfriend, and they are also in different cities. In order to be together, we can only buy a house in Zhengzhou, which is more suitable for them.

The girl worked hard and bought two houses, a car and savings in Zhengzhou six years after graduation. It stands to reason that life is already very good.

But behind the seemingly beautiful scenery, I don't know how much effort has been made. You can imagine how stressful it is to buy a house and a car yourself. My husband can't help at all. He often quarrels over money.

The problem of money has been solved, and the gap between the two people is getting bigger and bigger. The woman is getting better and better, and the man is still standing still. The spiritual level of two people did not grow up together, and their values were different. They often quarrel because of different views.

Love really can't be the bread after marriage. Beautiful love and lasting love are mostly based on material things.

A girl who chooses to have a car and a house after marriage, and those who choose naked marriage for love. Maybe before you get married, you will say that you will never regret it, but when you get married and have children, you will find how stupid you were, and you will regret it countless times.

Because the end of your struggle is the starting point of others.

Although there are no specific examples around, on the contrary, those who oppose marriage regardless of their families generally have regrets.

Just like those girls who have better choices by introducing blind dates, they don't argue about money after marriage and say that they are doing well.

Therefore, we should consider the material conditions of the man before marriage, not as those who have been poor together know. This is just asking you not to turn someone else's starting point into your destination.

According to the realistic portrayal of my best friend, I can only say that it sucks!

My best friend talked about a boyfriend in college. She is really good to her. No matter how unreasonable her demands are, her boyfriend will try his best to satisfy her. At that time, she was the envy of our whole dormitory and felt that she had found a boy worthy of relying on for a lifetime.

Maybe it's because my best friend was not particularly rich since she was a child. From the moment I met her, I felt that she was too rational and beyond her actual age. Finally, after graduation, she broke up with her boyfriend. I asked her why she broke up. She said that she had three brothers and sisters, whose parents were farmers, and could not give her the life she wanted, so she could not settle down in Nanjing.

I can buy everything by my own efforts, and there will be bread, but she said that she didn't want to work so hard and wanted to find someone who could spare her from hard work at a beautiful age.

Later, she got her wish. She met a boy who has a house and a car in Nanjing through blind date. His father is an engineer and his family background is very strong. On the wedding day, she called me maid of honor. I hope she can get the happiness she wants from now on!

But later, she told me that she regretted it. Now, after my husband gets married, regardless of family and children, he knows how to play games, smoke, drink and gamble every day, which is too self-motivated. Her married life is like a stagnant pool, and now she is in a state of stocking her husband. Everyone has their own life, and they don't interfere with each other.

This is the story of my best friend!

A large number of facts have proved that girls who planned cars and houses had a good life, while girls who only planned love mostly had a poor life.

Never say that money is not important before marriage. I want to try if I have no money.

Don't say that girls are too realistic, but that the world itself is too cruel. Everyone has the right to choose a better one. There's no need to drink water with you. You'll burn your mouth.

Bai said, "When you are poor and hungry,

You should never tell him that matter is not important,

I still want to say that the material is very important and the foundation is not solid. The earth is shaking, but not as those who have been poor together know. Don't always say that I believe in love, and then nothing matters. Just try it. "

Material is not equal to love, but love must have a material basis.

I have a friend who married a poor boy for so-called love. At first, he took great pains and enjoyed it, and he didn't think there was any problem.

However, her father became ill and needed 654.38+10,000 yuan for surgery. The husband and wife borrowed all their relatives and friends, but they still failed to make up for the operation. They can only watch her father suffer from illness. They also quarrel every day over money.

If they had a better material foundation, her father wouldn't be so miserable and there wouldn't be so many quarrels.

Everyone has the right to pursue a better life.

But no one told us that we deserved better. No one asked us to talk about feelings, so we must suffer a lot. So, is it wrong for us to choose a better one

The novel "Pride and Prejudice" says: "Marriage that only talks about money is absurd, and marriage that doesn't talk about money is stupid."

A good marriage should be half love and half money.

We have the right to pursue a better life and the right to choose a lover who can give us a better life. Those who say that talking about money hurts their feelings are often because they value money too much and their feelings are too empty to stand talking about money at all.

Writer San Mao once said: "Love won't last long unless it falls into the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping and counting money."

In addition to romance, love is more of a real life of eating and sleeping, and these real lives need money to support.

Romance can only be said to be a seasoning in the boring daily necessities. Tasty, but not enough to eat. Without ingredients, it is nothing. Have you ever seen anyone drink enough soy sauce? Don't! Have you ever seen anyone who can eat without spending money? There are many people here.

Talking about romance in life will starve to death. So girls who only talk about feelings and don't talk about money can't expect to be any better.

In short, love needs a material foundation, and never say that talking about money hurts feelings. Those girls who pursue material things are only a little realistic at most, but the world is so realistic.

Tell me an example of my classmate.

My classmate's family thinks that her boyfriend's family is poor and the distance is a bit far. When they are in love, they disagree. Later, they were finally separated by her mother. Blind date met a man with money, a car and a house at home. Of course, my classmate's family is not bad either. They got married after knowing each other for half a year.

In the first year of marriage, she gave birth to a daughter, and the whole family was very happy. Her in-laws are the apple of their eye. The second child gave birth to a son. Since then, both children have been married, and their parents-in-law smiled from ear to ear. They especially like my classmate and think of her everywhere. My classmate hasn't worked since she got married. Her children are brought up by her parents-in-law, and the housework is cooked by the nanny. Both children are older. My classmate wants to go out to work. Her husband was afraid that she would be wronged in the workplace, so he opened a women's clothing store for her. Business in the shop is booming and people are getting busier and busier. Once, my daughter said: Mom is too busy to accompany me to the playground for a long time. After discussing with my family, my classmates unanimously decided to transfer the shop. In her spare time, she studied guzheng, took calligraphy classes, practiced golf, and recently became addicted to baking. Her life is more fulfilling than that of office workers. In her words, she has been charging herself while growing up with her children. I really envy you.

Last time I chatted, I regretted breaking up with my ex-boyfriend after asking her. She said, "At that time, love and marriage were different, but a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise." Indeed, at this time, she is happier than before marriage. Moreover, his ex-boyfriend is married and lives in his hometown, and his family can't count on it. Although he worked hard, he was finally overwhelmed by the mortgage, which was far less than my classmates' living conditions. It is conceivable that if they had opposed marriage regardless of their families, my classmate's life might have been a different scene. Get married, choose a better condition, be nice to yourself, and it's not too much. It's not rude for people to climb higher. After all, no one can be responsible for the rest of others' lives.

The examples around me tell me that they are all doing well!

I chose love with several classmates, and I also chose material things for fun! Let me talk about our present life.

First of all, the basic choice of love is to live with parents-in-law. Then I cared about money, rice, oil and salt all day. The focus is on those who have been poor together, but not as they know. Always worry about a little money. When I was pregnant, I had to consider which tests were unnecessary. After giving birth to a child, you have to consider that milk powder is safe and cheap. Even in the hospital, I have to consider where the beds are cheaper.

We all take care of the children at home. We wash clothes, cook and do housework. We should consider how to spend every penny. We can't dress up as disgruntled women!

Let's look at the choice of materials. Have a car, a house and a deposit. At the beginning of pregnancy, you don't have to think about money. My mother-in-law gave Ka food and drink directly. Nutrition, children's things, everything can be prepared. There is a new moon in the month, and there is a nanny to take care of the children. They don't go to work either, but they dress beautifully and use good cosmetics. They can also travel when their husbands are on holiday. Children can be sent to various training classes, and money is never considered during the Chinese New Year holidays.

So far, people who choose material things have a good life, while those who choose love are still struggling. Even two of them have divorced.

So! Love is based on material things. How can I live when food and clothing are a problem?

The answer is: I have two children, my husband (the only child). My husband is a fool, earning 2,000 yuan a month. Every day, I live under the same roof with my parents-in-law who are in their fifties, and live a "lady" life with money and no hands. And expressed no regret.

Someone asked why he is a fool with a monthly salary of 2000. Because the man had a fever when he was a child and his brain burned out, he never recovered after he grew up. He can't do ordinary work and he doesn't know how to count. He can't even do the most basic job as a waiter when he goes to work in a restaurant, so he can only wash dishes in the kitchen or something. This is still his relationship, so a monthly salary of 2000 is very good. There is absolutely no meaning that the disadvantaged groups cannot get married and have children, let alone belittle them. )

Why can anyone who has no money get a wife? Because there are relocated households with urban hukou, some people only look at people for money, which really refreshes my three views. Girls are the kind of girls who don't look outstanding and look stupid. Later, I learned that when we were in the university library, we arranged various blind dates at home. The purpose is clear: no matter how people are, as long as the urban hukou is in the village.

Finally, as expected, when I was about to graduate, my uncle arranged a blind date, which is my current husband, and his brain was not very good. Urban hukou families are in urban villages and will be demolished soon. After graduation, I got married and got six suites. Now there are two children, a kindergarten and a primary school, and the second demolition is about to take place. The economy is sufficient.

You may ask again, why are college students so powerful? Everyone has his own ideas, and it is difficult for us to answer them.

The present state of life is carefree eating, drinking and having fun. In-laws don't give any economic rights except her husband's salary of 2000 yuan per month. You can eat, drink and be merry, but you can't ask for money.

But how do you actually live? It's hard to ask me if I care. Anyway, the circle of friends never basks in her husband, never brings her to class reunion, never brings her shopping, and never gets a chance to see her unless she goes to his house occasionally. Some time ago, I heard that I started to contact my predecessor. I don't know what the specific situation is.

After all, there are two children to raise now, parents-in-law to be filial in the future and husband to take care of in the future. Life has been like this. I just hope that her future life will be smooth sailing.

There was a boy who lived in the countryside since childhood and had only one chance to eat chicken once a year. A chicken, half stewed cabbage on New Year's Eve, fifteen half stewed cabbage. So I stopped eating chicken when I grew up. I usually took a small bamboo pole to the seaside and fished by the river to improve my life. . .

The boy knows that his first fate cannot be changed, so he can only change his fate by himself, by studying hard and by knowledge. . .

When the boy was in high school, he liked a girl, and the girl liked the boy. They were childhood friends, that's all, right? After meeting the university, either you don't marry or you don't marry. The boy worked hard and was admitted to a famous university. . .

Girls are also good, and they have been admitted to the university, but after all, people don't live in stories, they can be eaten as big meals, worn as clothes, and pawned by your kindness. . . . The girl has gone from story to reality before she graduated. . . I have considered how to say goodbye to that boy, because a boy with excellent family conditions is pursuing that girl, and the girl has already moved. . .

Finally, it is obvious that love is directly patted on the head by reality.

The boy went north and began the so-called drifting life in the north. During the launch, who started to study the missile research institute was a fledgling rural boy. With a meager salary, he began to rent a small single room in the country. After getting a Beijing hukou, he resolutely left the so-called secret unit of the so-called central enterprises, because after deducting all necessary expenses such as rent and meals, there was little left, which can be said to be extremely shabby. . .

I started as an engineer in a foreign company, then switched to sales, and then moved up step by step. At the middle level, boys often think of girls, but they never contact them. I heard that the girl got married and didn't want to bother, but he kept thinking about it. . .

A few years later, the boy got married and found a girl eight years younger than himself. Zhang is like first love, and I don't know whether it is body double or just a bite. Or for the betrayal of that year. . .

One year, the boy went to a classmate's party at the kind invitation of his classmates, but he was really embarrassed to refuse. He met his first love and her. . . And the result? . . I know that girls' lives are average, although they have cars and houses, but they are on the third line. Girls feel a little regretful when they see boys in high spirits. She wants to get back together. As for the boy, she also hopes to relive her old dreams. Under the influence of the lover, the boy and the girl ran to the wedding, and someone outside the wall was nice. . .

One day, the boy's wife, knowing everything, knew that she was just a substitute, so she secretly planned to let the boy leave home with nothing and clean. The boy is still immersed in the days when he has a home outside. The red flag at home does not fall, and the colorful flags are fluttering outside. . . Drunk to death. . . What a pity! The wife left her two children with the boy, went out of the house, took the money and left. . .

Besides, the girl thought she was holding a big tree to enjoy the cool. Unexpectedly, the boy was left with an empty shell. Although he has a house, he needs to register. The child needs to go to school and both children follow him. The girl has children of her own. She wants to follow the boy and pull the child's account so that she can go to school in Beijing and take the college entrance examination as Beijing. The result is tragic. . . Busy meal, busy for nothing. . .

The boy now knows that he regrets it. . . It's too late, so-called true love, so-called first love. . . It's just a joke, and it also makes others' happy lives. . .

Now the boy is 47 years old. Besides a house, no loan, and two children, he is still young and very sad. . .

The poor must be hateful, right?

Blow up the king and sell badly. . . I also took it. . .