The eldest son is 28 years old and the grandson is 7 years old. Grandma insists on having a second child. Is it right or wrong?

Having a second child, older women are the main force.

My best friend spoke to me two days ago: "What do you think of my relatives? My mother is in her fifties, and she persuaded her to have a second child, saying that she would leave a queen for my father! I really want to get pregnant. My mother is an elderly woman. If there is any danger, can they afford this responsibility? "

Girlfriends are not an exception. Faced with the aging population, the "one-child policy" was overthrown. The country strongly advocates having a second child. Apart from the young people's concept of "having both children", it is more because they couldn't have a second child at the beginning and now want to "dream".

According to statistics, the total number of newborns born in 20 1 100 in China, of which about 57% are second-born babies. It can be seen that everyone's enthusiasm for having a second child is still quite high.

However, according to the data of the National Bureau of Statistics, the number of women of childbearing age, especially those in reproductive period, has decreased. The number of women of childbearing age aged 20-29 has decreased by more than 6 million, while the number of people born in China has only decreased by 580,000 compared with the previous year. It can be seen that many people still choose to be older women.

Now go to the color ultrasound room of the hospital to see pregnant women. In addition to girls who gave birth to their first baby in their early twenties, women aged 35-49 are very common. On the contrary, it is common sense that pregnant women aged 25-30 account for less, not none, but less.

Nowadays, many young women are cautious about the problem of childbirth, especially after giving birth to their first child in despair for love. They find the importance of eugenics, so more young mothers choose "just one". On the contrary, the "super-old mothers" whose first child has grown up have become the main force in desperate efforts to have a second child.

Most of these "over-aged mothers" are the generation after the one-child policy. They want a second child, some for the dream of having a second child, some for having a son, and some feel that the child is old and far away, so it is good to have a small companion.

Although it is parents' wish and their own decision to have several children, we should respect them as children, but compared with those brothers and sisters with smaller age gap, the age gap is too big, which is still different.

"Super-aged women" should be more cautious.

Jim: "the only child 18, suddenly has a younger sister!" " "

When Jim 18 years old, he went to college. When he came back from the winter vacation, he found his mother pregnant. I didn't think much at that time. At night, his mother said she was pregnant, and it might be a girl. At that moment, he panicked and his mood was very complicated. It wasn't the taste, so he passed with a smile.

In fact, he still rejects this matter in his heart. If the age gap is relatively small, it is understandable that two children grow up together and establish a stable relationship with each other in accompanying growth. However, he has grown up and been an only child for 18 years. Suddenly, one more person wants to part ways with his parents' love and feels abandoned.

Nowadays, with all kinds of maladjustment, he is in extreme panic. The family is not rich. Many people say that "blood is thicker than water" kidnapped him morally. However, when he thinks about the future, he feels terrible. He not only has to bear the responsibility of supporting his parents, but also takes care of his young sister.

It is really the parents' decision to be born or not, and it is also the parents' responsibility to encounter any situation in the future. It is necessary to make it clear to parents. It is suggested that you can formally express your wishes with your parents and tell your current mood and concerns about this matter, such as economic aspects, and you must not avoid talking about it.

But at the same time, you should also know that parents' decision to have a second child is their own life decision. If the final result cannot be changed, your only way out is to learn to accept it.

Xiumei: "My mother-in-law and I were pregnant with a second child. It is not necessarily who is waiting for confinement! " "

The beautiful mother-in-law is 49 years old, her husband is 28 years old and her son is 7 years old. When she was pregnant with a second child, she suddenly heard her mother-in-law happily say that she was pregnant with a second child, and her mind was suddenly confused: "Mother-in-law, your grandson is 7 years old, and you will have an uncle and aunt younger than him. You are not afraid of being laughed at when you go out! "

In order to let her mother-in-law dispel this idea, Xiumei soon became pregnant with a second child. Who expected that my mother-in-law would not give up for this? Xiumei is very angry. Her husband is an only daughter for 28 years, and now there is one more person robbing property, right? Moreover, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were one month apart and gave birth to a second child in tandem. Who will take care of who will be grounded is not certain!

As a "super-old woman", her mother-in-law is in poor health, and now she has to fight hard to have children. In order to protect her baby, even walking in the field every day is a luxury. I went to the hospital for a check-up. It was my son and daughter-in-law Xiumei who helped me walk carefully.

Bian Xiao language: This is the most likely situation for "over-aged women". Because you are old, you already have various diseases, such as high blood pressure, so you will face higher birth risk. It can be said that they are gambling on their own lives. This risk is really too high.

Having a second child can't blindly follow the trend. If you are sick for a long time, your physical fitness is not very good. If you consider a second child, it is likely to endanger your life.

Tao Tao: "I don't have a brother, I have a son!" " "

Tao Tao graduated from university. Not long after working in a big city, she learned that her mother was pregnant again. At that time, she couldn't believe it and was in a hurry to make a phone call. The mother at the other end of the phone affirmed the news: "I have long wanted a son, and now letting go of the second child is a knot in my heart."

"You are all in your fifties. How do you raise a child when it is born? " Tao Tao was both anxious and angry.

"This is not with you? In the future, your mother is old and I can't do it. As a sister, you will be responsible for raising your brother, holding parent-teacher meetings and helping him with his homework. If I am too old to do it, you can come. When he is an adult, you will be responsible for buying him a house and getting married! "

"How can I get married in the future with such a big burden!" But no matter what I say, Tao Tao's mother won't change her mind.

Bian Xiao: Everyone has a dream, and everyone has the right to dream. But at the same time, everyone has a story, and everyone has their own ups and downs. As parents, Twilight does not advise parents to base their dreams on their children's pain.

The sensational news that a 67-year-old woman gave birth to three children last year spread all over the Internet. The old couple who are about to enter the threshold of seventy named this unexpected "endowment gift" as a gift, and raised this late "unexpected surprise" with tens of thousands of monthly pensions.

Although the child broke up with his parents for this reason, now, with the careful care of the old couple, the little daughter grows up day by day and the family is happy. The old couple even considered buying an RV in the future and traveling around with their little daughter.

What I want to say is that although the law stipulates that brothers and sisters must help the growth of the second child when their parents are incapable, since they made their own decisions, they should bear the responsibility themselves, and they should raise him after giving birth, instead of selfishly shifting the responsibility to the children and letting them enjoy their old age with peace of mind, which is unfair to them.

What do "over-age women" need to consider if they want to have a second child?

Economic endurance. Nowadays, the cost of raising a child is high. When I grow up, everything from milk powder to diapers to interest classes needs money, which is a big expense for my family.

Children's psychological acceptance. Older children can also cultivate feelings when they are young, but older children have to face many considerations when they grow up, including economic aspects, child support in the future and so on. It is recommended to discuss with your child before considering having a second child. Otherwise, you are likely to have a second child and lose the older one.

Your physical endurance. The older you get, the worse your health becomes. You usually have some old diseases. If you choose to have a second child, you are likely to have a birth risk and lose your life. After giving birth to a child, we should also be alert to postpartum sequelae and pregnancy syndrome. , causing great physical harm.

This is dangerous to the baby's health. With the increase of father's age, sperm motility may decrease, which may easily lead to some congenital diseases and defects of babies. Women over the age of 35 also have an increased risk of hydatidiform mole.

The hard work of raising children. Everyone who has raised children knows the hard work of taking care of them. They couldn't sleep well all night. They must be coaxed all the time. They have to wash diapers and burp. Children can't talk. They have to pay attention to their physical abnormalities, which requires a lot of energy and physical strength. Besides, they are too old to eat.

The psychological endurance of children when they grow up. The child's heart is very sensitive and fragile. When his family is different from others, he will become sensitive and inferior in ridicule, which will have some negative effects on the development and growth of mental health.

Who will raise this child in the future? Parents will get old one day and leave one day. A hundred years later, the child is still underage and can't take care of himself. At this time, what should children do? Who will raise it?

Even if parents are responsible for their children, they should consider all aspects before pregnancy, so that they can cope with emergencies.

It's really hard to have children when you reach retirement age. I also hope that once parents make the decision to have a second child, they will not give their children too much moral pressure.

Parents should be responsible for their own behavior choices, rather than selfishly imposing them on their children and asking them to pay the price for their behavior choices.

In the long run, parents whose children have grown up will choose to have a second child, and the risks outweigh the benefits. So this practice is still not recommended.