The last thing people with depression want to hear

1. "Why are you depressed if you don't lack food and flowers?" In China people's cognition, I feel well-fed, so why am I depressed? Everyone has their own problems. When we say this, they will feel that they have no right to suffer.

2. "What are you depressed about? I am still very depressed. " Depression is a disease, not melodramatic, not posturing, but the function of managing emotions is broken. So don't say, "What are you depressed about? I'm still depressed "to a depressed person. You will say, "What are you sad about? "For a cancer patient, I am still very sad.

3. "Everyone is not easy, and there are more unfortunate people than you." Life is not a "tragic competition". At this stage, TAs may encounter a hurdle that they can't get out of, and everyone's ability to withstand pressure is different. Don't always ask others to have their own standards.

4. "You will be better when you are busy". Although you want to distract them, it's not enough to distract them. The problem of depression has not been solved.

5. "You just think too much. Come on, relax." You know, it's not the mood that causes TA's depression. Persuading them to say "you just think too much, don't do this, take it easy" can't alleviate their pain. In fact, many patients with depression have lost the mental adjustment mechanism of "you just think too much, don't do this, just relax".

6. "What are you depressed about?" Most people in China call depression "he is a little upset." In fact, many patients with depression can't find the exact cause, just as many cancer patients don't know why they get cancer.

7. You look great. "I don't think you look depressed" or "I think you look fine" are all compliments, but for depressed people, you seem to be denying their feelings and struggles. Saying this will make the other person feel bad because they trust you. This will weaken their trust in you and make them more cautious rather than more open.