"Actually, I don't like him": There is a mode called seeing others well.

Teacher Xiaolin sang affectionately in the cross talk: "As long as you live better than me, I can't stand it". Actually, this is not a joke.

Few people in this world really want you to live better than them. The world likes to hear other people's sorrows and sorrows, and few people want to see others return to their hometown.

Not liking others is a pattern, and liking others is also a pattern. In the face of other people's achievements, we should not be jealous, but should strive to make progress and achieve ourselves.

There is an old saying that the thorns on others are the beams in your eyes. Jealous of others sometimes gets carried away and takes a magnifying glass to criticize others. In the end, you just hurt others and make fun of yourself.

The eighth issue of Tucao Conference was postponed in the fifth quarter. The reason is that Fan Zhiyi, a famous football player, made a crazy speech about China basketball in the seventh program. The media vividly described the spitting behavior between men's soccer players and men's basketball players as "eating chickens and pecking at each other"

In the program, as soon as Fan appeared, he said, "Football and basketball have crossed the line, so the program invited me to scold Guo. How bad can they be? Can let China football save them! "

In fact, this is essentially just a procedure, but it is different in some people's eyes. Many people began to look for all kinds of inappropriate places in the program, saying that the program has no lower limit, putting on a show, and even going online, demanding that the program apologize to China Basketball.

It was just an entertainment program, but it was lonely in the end. If you can get poor grades, don't let people talk about it? Can't help but make people feel that someone is making a mountain out of a molehill, or is it a kind of jealousy?

I have read such a sentence: "Jealousy is to punish yourself by taking advantage of others' goodness", and I deeply agree with it.

When a person is carried away by the jealousy of others, he will suffer from a terminal disease called "pink eye". The whole world is unfair, but he never sees his own shortcomings, which is also a punishment for himself.

Envy of others is a double-edged sword. Instead of looking for guilt all over the world, it is better to improve yourself and be a better person.

I once liked the words of the writer Zhang Xiaoxian: "Life is too short, don't feel sorry for yourself or be jealous."

Seeing others is good, you can become better. Because we spend our jealous time appreciating and learning from others' strengths, we win their respect and support, and at the same time broaden our own path a little.

Suddenly, I found that the man named Degang Guo unconsciously occupied half of the crosstalk, and the actor who needed to be locked in a glass cage to make money became a famous crosstalk master.

However, there are many people who are welcome. After the popularity of Deyun Society, it did not get the respect of its crosstalk peers, but was hit and excluded by the industry as never before.

On March 19, 2009, Degang Guo's younger brother Zheng Hao made a speech in Weibo, satirizing the behavior of his peers in the phonograph industry. Zheng Hao wrote: "Take life as a business, you will be afraid that others will rob your business, you will worry that your business is not good, and you will be jealous of others." .

The meaning of this sentence is clear. What others accuse Deyun Society of is not that there is something wrong with the people in Deyun Society, but that others think that their business is not good because of Deyun Society. In essence, it is a kind of jealousy of "others are not good".

In fact, everyone knows that if your cross talk is really good, will you be jealous of Deyun Society? On the other hand, if you really have nothing, even if there is no Deyun Society, we are too lazy to go to your house to listen to cross talk.

In this life, people will always meet people who can't hide others' Excellence. They are always used to finding faults with others. Sometimes even if they are "thankless", they don't care and may not bring you any benefits. It's just a vicious idea of "if we don't do well, forget it."

As Keigo Higashino wrote in Malicious, "I hate that you realized my ideal first, I hate your superior life, and I hate that you have a bright future now. I also hate my cowardice. I hate my lack of luck and talent. I will give you my hatred for myself, and I will hate all of you. "

Life is short and the world of mortals is not long. Instead of doing immoral things that hurt people's hearts, it is better to find ways to live your own life and make yourself more exciting.

Our excellent acceptance of others reflects the size of our internal structure.

Su Dongpo and the famous monk Fo Yin are good friends. They often discuss philosophy of life, Buddhism and Zen together.

Once, two people meditated together in the forest. Su Dongpo suddenly asked, "What does my sitting posture look like to you?" Fo Yin glanced at him and said simply, "I think you are like a Buddha." .

Su Dongpo was very happy and joked, "But I think you look like a pile of cow dung!" " Fo Yin still said faintly: "I still treat you like a Buddha!"

Su Dongpo was very happy and felt that he had taken advantage. He came home and proudly told his sister about it. Su Xiaomei said, "Brother, if you lose, you have a Buddha in your heart. Everyone you see is a Buddha, while others are cow dung. I'm afraid you only have cow dung in your heart! "

The same scenery, some people see the beautiful scenery after the rain, others see the mud everywhere, which is the difference of the pattern.

I don't like others, not because they are so bad, but because I am not good enough. When a person's pattern arrives, he can always find beauty in everything and see that everything is pleasing to the eye.

Getting used to others is an empathy. When we always look at others from our own perspective, there will naturally be many mistakes. Only by standing in the position of others can we understand each other's Excellence.

Getting used to others is a kind of letting go, caring more about others, being more sympathetic and understanding, and being less picky and picky, which is a relief for both sides.

Getting used to others is a pattern. Sometimes we don't like others just because they don't live like us. How do you know if his lifestyle will be better? Use the pattern to accept others, and better yourself can accept you.

Hiding the goodness of others is the greatest evil in human nature. Not only will it embarrass others, but it will also stop our lives.

Our life is a process of constantly knowing the world, all beings and ourselves. If we always grasp the shortcomings of others, the road will only get narrower and narrower, and the heart will only get narrower and narrower, and finally we will never find our own way of life.

A Zen monk said: life is like chess, just do your best, and if you care too much, you will lose fun.

Some people have things that we don't need to care too much about. If one day, all unpleasantness and dislike become indifferent, then congratulations, our pattern has grown up.