“My 30-year-old unmarried daughter was beaten by her mother with a stick.” How pitiful is a woman who is forced to marry?

For many people, it is a normal thing for men to get married when they are older and for women to get married when they are older. They do whatever they want at any age.

However, due to some reasons, many men or women still have not found their significant other after reaching a certain age, or they do not want to get married yet. Faced with these behaviors of their children, as parents, Usually they worry behind the scenes, and they will use a series of methods to get their children on the road to marriage.

A report said that a mother in Changzhou disliked her daughter for not getting married at the age of 30. The two had a verbal conflict, and the mother actually beat her daughter with a stick.

The mother said, "My daughter is 30 years old this year and has not yet married. She has been working and living outside alone and has not made a name for herself. A year ago, my daughter returned home to help in the store. The conflict also started from this time."

Later, mother and daughter often had conflicts over various things.

I think what my mother did is a bit too much. After all, she is her biological daughter. Since her daughter is not married yet, she must have her own reasons. Mother and daughter might as well sit down and have a good relationship. Communicate instead of solving these problems in this unfair way.

In the eyes of many mothers, it is a "shame" for their daughters to be unmarried at an older age. They feel that a woman's successful career is far inferior to a happy family. Once a woman reaches a certain age and is not married, it means that she will be abandoned. remain.

In fact, no matter what kind of marriage it is, it is only their own choice. It may be that they have not met the person they like yet. Besides, it is everyone’s own right to get married or not. Parents have no right to interfere, and they should not humiliate their children's personality through improper methods.

One of my cousins ??is 35 years old this year and is not married yet. Every time she comes home, her aunt scolds her, "If you are not married at such an old age, how can you do better in your career?" What’s the use, after all, no one wants it.”

My cousin’s career has indeed been booming in the past few years. She graduated from a university with no connections or connections. She worked hard in a big city for more than ten years before she achieved what she has today. Now I think about it. It’s really not easy to think about.

My cousin sometimes tells me that she feels lonely when she is alone. My cousin said that she loves her career and she doesn’t know what she will be like once she enters the family. She also expects someone to care about her in life. But her aunt always said some unpleasant things to her, so luckily she had no desire for marriage.

After listening to my cousin’s answer, I also felt that it was painful. On the one hand, it was my inner torment, and on the other hand, it was the confusion of my family. Some people even think that a woman is so It is abnormal to not get married at such an advanced age. Society labels them as "leftover women", and in the eyes of many people, leftover women are a "shame".

In "The Sonorous Threesome", the host Dou Wentao asked Yu Feihong, "Why are you still single for so many years?" Yu Feihong responded, "I don't think this is a problem. Being single or getting married is not a problem for me. It’s a difficult multiple-choice question, whichever stage you feel comfortable with is at which stage you are.”

As for being unmarried at an older age, she bluntly said that she is not a celibate, but she is not in a hurry to enter into a marriage that is recognized by universal values ??but she is not satisfied with it. Because in an inappropriate marriage, the loneliness of two people together but having nothing to say is more sad and desperate than the loneliness of one person.

But many people don't understand it. They think this is a manifestation of the paradox of being connected with the world. You should get married when you reach a certain age. The life of many older "leftover girls" is actually very pitiful. They have to endure not only the scolding of their parents, but also the comments of others.

I have heard such a story before. A woman was not married because she was 38 years old. Her mother disliked her and always scolded her in life, saying that she was "unwanted". In short, she was disliked in all kinds of ways. Even her neighbors would scold her whenever they came to visit her home. In the end, she couldn't stand the pressure and became mentally disturbed.

Faced with older “leftover women”, what we need is to give them a little care. Everyone has their own way of life. Whether it is late marriage or early marriage, it is their freedom. Others are free. No right to interfere.

Parents sometimes do their best, but feelings cannot be forced, not to mention that some people have another idea. Parents want their children to be happy, so, While considering them, also respect their choices, otherwise it will only lead to tragedy in the end.