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What is the wisest way to be excluded and isolated by colleagues?
We say that there must be motives and reasons behind any behavior. Colleagues have isolated themselves, so it is better to find the reasons from themselves first.
For example, did you do something wrong and inadvertently offended your colleagues? Or is it a straightforward personality, hurting people and not knowing it?
Finding the crux from oneself is not to be afraid of others, not to laugh at yourself, but to solve the problem from the internal factors that are easier to cut in.
Otherwise, being isolated by colleagues will blame others, and hysteria will only make the problem more complicated.
It may be a good thing for you to be promoted to supervisor like Zhou Xiao, but if you do it too ostentatiously, it will give people the feeling that you are showing off, which will lead to jealousy and rejection of your colleagues.
Window of johari tells us that everyone has his own blind spot. The advantage of introspection is to re-examine yourself beyond the perspective of the past. Only by knowing yourself first can we deal with others more effectively.
Second, be generous to people.
When isolated by colleagues, it is easy for us to be hostile to each other and dislike each other, thus forming infighting.
On the surface, this kind of practice is to retaliate against others. In fact, it is not worth the loss. It will only intensify contradictions and cannot solve problems.
If you know that your colleagues want to isolate themselves, you can be open-minded and take the initiative to let go of hostility, and you may be able to resolve the dilemma subtly.
For example, if the other party encounters certain difficulties at work, we can lend a helping hand, share a trick and provide some information.
You should know that people's hearts are all flesh, and there are no eternal friends and interests in the workplace. Want to isolate your colleagues, must be driven by some interests or emotions. When you are as soft as Tai Chi, after a period of time, no matter how hostile you are, it will fade away.
My former leader once shared a sentence with me: To be a great person, you have to force yourself to do things that others don't want to do.
Third, break them one by one.
Usually isolated by colleagues, it is a small group that collectively isolates itself.
In this case, it is the best way to break each other one by one.
During the Seven Heroes of the Warring States Period, other six countries also joined forces to "isolate" Qin many times, but the genius of Qin was to implement the strategy of "making friends far away and attacking near" and use the gaps and contradictions among the six countries to defeat them one by one.
A similar strategy can be adopted in the workplace. For example, if there is a leading colleague in a small group and the others are followers without ideas, then you can give priority to those who are vacillating.
The weakness of these people is that they have no opinions, are afraid of offending others and blindly follow the trend.
Then you can start from here and ask them to have dinner together, chat alone, and so on. Once there is interaction, you can know why they want to isolate you, and only when you understand the reasons can you have corresponding countermeasures.
In addition, if there are neutrals or people who are also isolated in the team, you can also form an "alliance" relationship with them to cultivate your own power, mainly to protect yourself.
After all, survival before development is the eternal truth.
Fourth, improve the ability.
Facing the isolation of colleagues, the worst way is to collapse and give up on yourself, and the best and most fundamental way is to improve your ability and become stronger and stronger.
As the best actor Bo Huang said in an interview:
People all seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. When you are weak, there are the most bad people. You are strong, surrounded by smiling faces, and they will only be good to you, not enemies.
Therefore, if you want to fight back against each other's isolation, the verbal response is often pale and powerless. The really powerful response is to show your strength.
Take Zhou Xiao as an example. A supervisor may not be convinced, but if one day he becomes a manager and can master the management power of team members, will his subordinates dare to isolate you?
We need to understand this truth: being strong is not to bully others, but to prevent others from bullying ourselves.
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