What's the experience of talking with experienced people?

I met Brother Quan on the high-speed train from Hefei to Wuhan. When he greeted me, he asked me if I needed to help me put my suitcase on the rack. I refused because there was really nothing in the suitcase and I was embarrassed to disturb others.

After thanking him, I silently felt that there were still quite a few good people. Just as I sat down to look at my mobile phone, a big fat man told me that I made a mistake, and I was embarrassed to "climb" into the window position above my brother.

? "Are you from Hefei?" While reading a novel, a voice came from my side. Well, it seems that someone asked him if he needed help before, and then I put away my mobile phone and turned to talk to him. One ride is the whole journey.

? Sometimes people really need fate, and when you meet them, you just want to know some truth and realize that the person you want exists in this world.

? Brother Quan is a very experienced man. He has lived for more than 30 years, and his story is not clear to me, a little girl who only listened to his conversation for nearly two hours. Out of respect for him, I want to tell you what it's like to talk to an experienced person, and what can you gain from these experiences?

? A person has two most important things, one is skill and the other is story. As for experience, Brother Quan's answer is: Doing the right thing at the right age is the best.

? Did you ever want a doll when you were six, but when you were sixteen, someone bought it for you, and you thought it was no longer precious? It's a pity that you didn't do the right thing at the right age, but how many people are always recalling the innocence of youth and the youth of middle age?

? "At your age, you only need to do two things well: do a good job and find a good man to have a serious love. You are still young and can do things at any age. " Brother Quan asked me my age and said to me.

? Brother Quan and I are a little older, but he told me with his past story that we should not wait until we passed the 234 pass to make up for the mistakes and regrets at that time. The mood and scenery at that time were only once in a lifetime.

? We always plan many futures, just like our New Year's resolutions year after year, dreaming that we can do many things, and the most easily overlooked thing is to do well in the present. Everyone's tomorrow is decided by today. If you have no ability to live today, what can you do to achieve your tomorrow and realize your dream of driving day and night?

? Brother Quan is now in his thirties. He understands that the biggest responsibility of people at this moment is to work hard and support their families, but I don't seem to understand what I need to do. You really don't understand? No, at this age, we can't see through our hearts, so we can't deeply understand the meaning of the present.

? You see, when you talk to an experienced person, he can always point out your confusion and doubts.

? Love is the most thrilling, charming and tossing and turning memory of my youth. It's an honor to have had it, but it doesn't matter if I haven't met it. Its beauty lies in its fearless dedication and fruitless regret at that time.

? And family is companionship, growth, real existence in ordinary days, giving people warmth and happiness.

? "What I want most now is that Dabao studies happily and Bauer grows up safely and healthily." Brother Quan talked about his two treasures, and I can't forget the smile on his face. I think my father had such a warm and happy smile when he talked about me in front of outsiders.

? Plain is true, and simple happiness is the most enjoyable. A person who has experienced it, whether it is true or not.

? Perhaps because I am young and congenial, the happiness after talking about the baby made the whole brother naturally talk about the way of married life. Although I am a child who has never been in love, I can definitely understand some husband and wife management methods. Isn't home a complete documentary about mom and dad's life?

"Tolerance", a short sentence from my brother, reached my heart solemnly and audibly. "The most important thing between two people is tolerance and understanding." Brother Quan said. But I understand that in addition, there is actually need to consider and sacrifice.

? Tolerance, understanding, consideration and sacrifice, whether for men or women, are all things that must be done as long as it is a home. No one pays more or less. To run a good home, we must understand that men have men's sufferings and women have women's difficulties. So, please, please don't teach a girl, "Why are you working so hard? Just find a good husband and get married. "

? Brother Quan and his wife met on a blind date. About three years after his last love window, he also realized that it was time to get married, neither too early nor too late, and God arranged a marriage for him. Sometimes, we don't need to be too anxious about love and marriage, and what suits us will always come at some time.

? "I was looking for a husband and adopted son. I can't talk about true love. Just be practical and happy. I was in love at your age, and I did crazy things in college. " Brother Quan has been talking about this period with a smile, probably remembering those wonderful college days, when he had a brother, a girlfriend and his youthful and silly self.

? "At that time, the university was in Z city, and I never went back after breaking up with her. It should be seven or eight years now. It was sad at the time. Now I feel very happy when I see my wife. As long as she helps me train my two children into excellent people, I will be satisfied. If the child is not well trained, won't it be a pit in the future? " I still agree with Brother Quan, because I also hope to train my future children into useful people. I deeply understand how important family education is to children. I didn't take the liberty of asking more questions about his previous stories. Exposing other people's scars is not what a kind person should do. Some things need to be low-key. My best friend taught me this.

? "What does your wife do now?" I asked out of curiosity. I am very interested in such a story that blind date makes a good marriage. After all, you can't escape blind date in the future.

? "I didn't let her go to work, take two treasures at home. When Dabao goes to primary school, Bauer will be more resistant. If she wants to do something, she will tell me and I will definitely support her to do it. Whether it's working, opening a shop, or wanting to visit other places, I have the ability to help her realize it. Now she sacrifices a little, and I will give her a little later. " Brother Quan's answer is slightly domineering. I suddenly envy my sister-in-law's good luck, but I am happier that the good man I once imagined really exists in this world.

? I secretly marvel that my thoughts are so similar to those of my brother, and the good man I expect is just around the corner. In fact, what we want is not Gao Fushuai or a warm man, but a man who can stand side by side with each other and give shoulders and strength behind his back.

What is a good man? A good man is someone who will do something for you, teach you when to sacrifice and when to pursue, and help you realize your long-cherished dream at a certain age. Good girls, you have to believe that you will meet someone who feels right, and you have to believe that there is the kind of person you want in the world.

? "What are you looking for? Just follow your inner thoughts and think about what you want. " Brother Quan finally said to me.

You see, whether it's career, marriage or love, experienced people will teach you to have goals, find the right goals and attack accurately.

People who make you cry will say it with a smile one day, so don't be knocked down by temporary difficulties, no matter how big the difficulties are for you at that time.

? I once had the experience of being resigned. At that time, I just graduated for half a year. I am thinking about how long I will work hard in the company and how many achievements I will make. Unfortunately, they all became "jokes" in the end. Knowing the moment I was "fired" was relaxing in nature, but I also felt useless. The panic of no income, the irritability of roommates asking how to find a job every day, and the hopelessness of work are eroding my inner persistence almost every day. At that time, I had no job. I went to the internet cafe to submit my resume and called my father to cry. Later, I even told my brother this experience with a smile. I'm still unwilling, but I don't care so much.

? Brother Quan, like me, had a period of unemployment. He didn't talk much about it. He just said it briefly, probably during the financial crisis in 2008. At that time, he went to Shenzhen, and it took him more than a month to stand out from the crowd. I got my present job after my internship, and it has been seven or eight years since I came all the way.

? "Have you worked hard for more than a month?" I asked slightly bitterly. In the year of the financial crisis, I was a sophomore, and I didn't feel the pressure of reality, but later I heard my mother mention that my father had the experience of standing on the street. Now, after listening to my brother's understatement, I can imagine how difficult those days were. Compared with Brother Quan, my experience of being "resigned" and my suffering seem far from sadness and despair.

"It's okay, it's all over now." At that time, Brother Quan said with a smile. At that moment, my mind suddenly flashed the last clip in the movie, P.S. I love you. When Holly's mother told her that her husband died young and she needed to raise two children, she smiled with relief and said to her daughter, "I can say it with a smile now." Yes, everyone will tell the story of a moment in the past with a smile. That smile is full of strength.

I remembered the scene when I climbed Huangshan Mountain. The top of the mountain is so high, the legs are so heavy, and the mood is so desperate. But when we reached the top of the mountain, looking back, what was the hard work in the previous climbing process? Come here, every step has become the most beautiful memory, and every cry has become the radian of the corners of the mouth.

? Therefore, we should be optimistic and enthusiastic about life.

? Today you are lovelorn, tomorrow I will lose my job, and the stock market will melt the day after tomorrow, so I can't be promoted the day after tomorrow. It's okay. Actually, it's nothing. The pain was ok at that time. Secular desires are human nature, but we can't be bound by pain and blocked by difficulties. You know, every book you read and every drop of bitterness you eat will come in handy at some point in the future. Therefore, we should take a big step forward.

? How do you know that the trough you are in is not to help you climb to a higher peak?

? Therefore, we should not lose hope in life. Only with a positive attitude can we create a better future.

? You see, talking to experienced people can tell you how to live in a few words.

? "Hello, passengers, the train will arrive at the station ahead. This station is Wuhan station. Please take your carry-on luggage with you to avoid being lost or forgotten on the train. " The sound of the station rang, so I had to get off and say goodbye to Brother Quan.

? Suddenly I remembered a passage: "Each of us's life is a trip. Some people get on the bus halfway, some people get off halfway, and some people accompany you to the end. " I don't know if I will meet Brother Quan again, but I am grateful to meet him on my way home and thank him for teaching me some truth.

? I think fate will meet me.

? Dear you, I hope you can meet these people with stories in your own journey and then understand what others want to teach you in those stories.