The five most important words to read when a person is disappointed

Life lasts only thirty thousand days, who doesn’t have joy and sorrow? When you are disappointed, reading these few words may help you feel relieved.

01 When you are disappointed with life

"No matter how difficult life is, there is always something you can do successfully."

Life itself is unfair , some people work hard all their lives and never get to "Rome", while some people are born in "Rome". Some people give up on themselves and go with the flow, but some people are unwilling to be mediocre and go against the flow. Crosstalk actor Yue Yunpeng comes from the bottom of society: When he was 13 years old, his family could not afford the tuition fee of 68 yuan. So, he had no choice but to drop out of school and began to migrate to Beijing. He worked as a security guard, cleaner, construction worker, etc., and suffered a lot. When he was working as a waiter in a restaurant, he accidentally wrote down the wrong quantity of beer. The customer was furious and humiliated him for more than three hours. All his pleas, including discounts and free orders, were in vain, and no one spoke for him. "Why? Why?" At that time, Yue Yunpeng's heart was full of resentment, disappointment and other emotions, but he did not give up on himself, but was determined to make a good appearance. In 2004, Yue Yunpeng was spotted by Guo Degang and went to Deyun Club to learn cross talk. He seized the opportunity and went all out: starting from doing chores and practicing basic skills; in order to practice Mandarin, he often stood in the snow and read newspapers loudly; he recited "Reporting the Name of the Vegetable" and other cross talk dozens of times a day...Kung Fu Paying off, he became an instant hit at the Spring Festival Gala and became "the most popular crosstalk actor among the post-80s generation."

Never lose confidence in life. No matter how hard life gets, there is always something you can do successfully. The scenery of "Rome" reached through one's own efforts is even more beautiful.

02 When you are disappointed with your marriage

"Marriage is a package. When you choose the advantages, you must tolerate the disadvantages and not single-point."

In the eyes of outsiders, literary masters Ji Xianlin and his wife Peng Dehua are not compatible. He is very talented, but his wife doesn't know a few words. His wife had never written a letter to Ji Xianlin in her whole life, and she had no idea what he was doing. She had absolutely no idea what he was doing. But such an "uncompatible" marriage lasted for 65 years.

It turns out that in Ji Lao's eyes, his wife has many advantages: when he goes out to study, she takes care of his parents-in-law and takes care of his children, and she shoulders the burden of the family without any complaints; when he falls into a trough, she never leaves her. Abandon and help each other. After his wife fell ill and was hospitalized, Mr. Ji was filled with concern: "I am looking forward to her coming home soon, and having someone in the house who is silent but can shine, so that I can quietly enjoy the beauty of silence. "Marriage is like a person drinking water, knowing whether it is hot or cold. There is no perfect partner in the world. Instead of worrying about shortcomings, it is better to look at the advantages and appreciate and encourage them more. Marriage is a package. You must choose the advantages and tolerate the disadvantages, and you cannot order it a la carte.

03 When you are disappointed with your child

"The best maternal love is to embrace the ordinaryness of your child." "My child is the smartest in the world." Almost all parents They used to be so convinced; but gradually, many parents will be disappointed: why are their children so ordinary? Writer Liu Jirong also had similar troubles. Her daughter "has nothing to show off": her grades are mediocre, and she is always ranked 23rd in a class of 50 people; she has no ambitions, her first wish is to be a "kindergarten teacher", and her second wish It’s about being a “mom who knows how to cook.”

The couple tried various methods: tutoring, more nutrition, material incentives... But under pressure, their daughter's grades did not improve but fell to 33rd place. As a result, they gave up the idea of ??"hoping for a girl to become a phoenix". At this time, they suddenly discovered that the child was not ordinary. During outings, she would take care of the food like a housekeeper; when in traffic jams, she would tell jokes and make paper-cuts to coax the children in the car; in the class questionnaire, she was the most popular person in the class. She said: "I don't want to be a hero, I want to be someone sitting on the roadside applauding." Yes, how many people longed to get ahead when they were young, but ended up embarking on an ordinary road.

If you can be healthy, happy, and let your children be kind-hearted ordinary people, what's wrong with that? As educationist William Martin said: Don't educate your children to pursue an extraordinary life. Show the ordinary in front of them vividly, and the extraordinary will naturally appear. The best maternal love is to embrace the ordinaryness of a child.

04 When you are disappointed with others

"It is a courtesy for others to help you, but it is their duty not to help you." Perhaps, everyone has encountered such "disappointment": Buying a house When buying a car, we ask friends to borrow money, but they say they are short of money; when we do things and want to find connections, our friends are embarrassed and say "we should do things according to the rules"; we ask friends to "vomit bitterness", but the friends seem a little impatient...

So, we not only lament: adult friendship is fragile. Is it really so? I was deeply moved by this passage when I saw it recently. "I gave you one candy, and you were very happy. When you saw me giving two to others, you had an opinion about me. But you didn't know that he also gave me two candies, and you didn't give anything. Me. ” Could we inadvertently be the one who receives a piece of candy and becomes “upset”? Thinking back, perhaps our friends have helped us many times, but we were disappointed in our friendship because of only one or two rejections? In this world, life is not easy for everyone and they have too much time to take care of themselves. It is a duty for others to help you, but it is a duty for others not to help you. Please be content and happy.

05 When you are disappointed with yourself

"It is difficult for a person who does not appreciate himself to be happy."

"A humble person like me, I really don’t know What kind of happiness is there in living?" A girl once wrote to Sanmao and confided: She is 29 years old, unmarried, a clerk, ordinary in appearance, with limited work ability, no opposite sex is interested in her, and she is depressed and has very low self-esteem. Sanmao enlightened: "A person who doesn't appreciate himself can't be happy." Many people rely too much on the evaluation of others and live in worry about gains and losses. In fact, everyone is unique, why not appreciate yourself?

There once was an ugly girl from the countryside: a flat nose, small eyes, and thick lips. She signed up to join the modeling team and was ridiculed as "the ugly duckling delusional about becoming a white swan". But she always admired herself and braved herself with confidence. Later, she won the runner-up in the World Supermodel Competition, and her so-called "ugly face" became a "high-end face" - she was supermodel Lu Yan. Appreciate yourself and believe in yourself, and you will be able to live freely and happily.

Nine times out of ten things will not go as planned. Only with shortcomings and disappointments is a complete life. If dissatisfaction is regarded as the normal state of life, then the ordinary will be sublimated into the peace and tranquility of the years, and the occasional fulfillment of wishes will be the gift of life. Think clearly and see clearly, be confused when you should be confused, grab what you want to grab, and let go of what you can't get.

If you see that there are no worries in this world, you will be happy every day. Life lasts only 30,000 days, who doesn’t have joy and sorrow? When you are disappointed, reading these few words may help you feel relieved.