Love yourself, no rival

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I have been working overtime and missed dinner time. I was very hungry when it was almost 10 o'clock. Those weight loss experts have emphasized thousands of times that you should not eat after noon, and you should control your mouth after 5 o'clock in the evening to avoid the intake of all starches and sugars.

But I still went into the kitchen and cooked myself a bowl of noodles.

Life is already so difficult, why should we treat ourselves badly? Having a good figure and good looks are important, but if you do it just to please others, then you will lose more than you gain by treating yourself badly. In the final analysis, pleasing others is just to find appreciation in the eyes of others to please yourself.

Boil water and put a bunch of noodles in. After three minutes, the noodles will become soft. Quickly scoop them up and pour them into cold water. When the heat dissipates, pour them into a bowl and stir together with the prepared soup. Picking up a chopstick, it was so delicious that I cried. Although the seasoning prepared by the store in advance accounts for 90% of the deliciousness, it still makes me very satisfied with cooking noodles late at night.

(2)

I went out to play a few days ago and passed by a temple. As soon as I walked past, I was surrounded by at least 5 aunts, all saying the same thing: "Come on, girl, aunt." Let me show you a picture."

I told my friend about this as a joke, and he said: "Looking at faces is secondary, you should let them show you a partner."

This reminds me of the night conversations in the girls’ dormitory when I was in college. The girls with boyfriends would always worry about the girls who didn’t have a partner, and finally ended up saying: “Oh, I need to find a boyfriend.” I'll take good care of you!"

It's like living like a second-class cripple without a boyfriend for the first twenty years of my life.

The society’s criteria for rating men are mostly: “house, car, money. It is a little easier for girls. The first thing they look at is their boyfriend and husband. Only those who have plans for her will get more entangled. Family background, education, figure, appearance, but this is actually unfair to girls. Finding a good partner is like betting on the right thing. It is said that it is entrusted to you for life, and it really binds you completely. When it comes to the other party, many highly educated girls willingly become housewives after getting married, completely failing their hard work in the first half of their lives.

Those who are not married are even more pitiful, no matter what. No matter how hard you work and how much you earn, there will still be people poking you in the back, telling you that women should strive for self-improvement, and that self-improvement is not as good as marrying well. If you have so much energy working for your boss, why not spend some time on yourself? Find a good husband.

It seems that a girl lives in this world just to complete the routine of "taking care of her husband and raising children"

But as a girl, she wants to lose weight. It’s just to put myself into better-looking clothes. It’s just to have financial freedom. I want to travel when I want, and I don’t have to worry about shopping. I want to be able to be on equal terms with someone when they ask. : "Are you thinking of me?" You don't have to feel inferior, and you don't have to think you are superior. Instead, you can say back confidently: "Yes, you are also thinking of me."

There is a special sentence. It is easy for people to misunderstand the saying "women dress up to please themselves", and many people will interpret it as "girls dress up to make others happy", but the correct translation is actually "girls dress up to make themselves happy".

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I have always felt that you don’t have to please anyone in life, let alone do stupid things to make yourself wronged by others. Your temperament hides the path you have traveled and what you have read. Books, and people you love. It is never better to please yourself than to please others. Girls who love themselves will always be satisfied and exude confidence.

I met a girl when I went out before. She had two tattoos on her arms that were particularly beautiful. We were living in a mixed dormitory at that time, and there were six people in one room, and they all expressed envy of her tattooed arms. That was also the first time I understood that a girl, no matter how simple she looks on the outside, is actually deep in her heart. There will also be a tattoo dream

But not everyone can muster up the courage like the flower-armed girl. Often what frustrates our inner desires is external resistance, but more often than not it is external resistance. Self-uncertainty.

I thought the flower-armed girl was engaged in the art industry. You know the reason: we always like to associate wild and unruly souls with equally eclectic art.

But the flower-armed girl's answer surprised me. She actually teaches English to young children, and the class is full of children who are two or three years old. The oldest is only just four years old.

I asked the flower-armed girl: "Then how dare you get a tattoo on such a large area. Won't your student's parents have any objections?"

The flower-armed girl finished listening. Laughing loudly, she said: "I was worried when I first got the tattoo, so at first I only dared to get tattoos in places that wouldn't be exposed even if I was wearing a half-sleeve. I also asked my boyfriend for his opinion, for fear that he would disagree."

But the boyfriend of the flower-armed girl did not rush to confirm or deny, but asked her: "Have you thought about it clearly? I have no objection, and as long as you really like it, You don’t have to worry about what other people think. You can make your own decisions about your own body, so just have no regrets.”

After hearing this, the flower-armed girl thought about it carefully and considered all the good and bad consequences. The next day, she went to the tattoo place and had the entire flower-arm tattooed intermittently.

Many people think that people with tattoos are not gangsters and are certainly not good people. But as the times become more and more open, more and more people are exposed to this area. Everyone has moments in their life that they want to remember forever, and some people choose to remember them through tattoos.

The flower-armed girl used tattoos to celebrate her graduation from college, her first job, her admission to graduate school, and her third anniversary with her boyfriend. She said that she might get her children's names tattooed on her body in the future. The first time she wore a camisole to work, she still felt a little uneasy. But when she got there, she realized that she had thought too much about her students. They all came over to touch her arm and said, "Teacher, you are so cool." Most of the parents of her students expressed kind admiration for her tattoos because they were beautiful, not only exquisite patterns, but also gorgeous. Color, but also the courage and self-recognition of a flower-armed girl who loves herself.

The flower-armed girl said: "If I really cared about other people's thoughts, I might never try to get a tattoo in my life, but it would also leave me with a lifetime of regrets. This regret is not worth it, but fortunately..." .

If you love others, you may be afraid of falling out of love or having a love rival compete with you, so you worry about gains and losses. Love yourself, just be afraid of not having enough love, not be afraid of having too much love. The more no one loves you, the more you love yourself, the more you love yourself. This is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

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Love yourself first before you can feel others love you.

If a person has low self-esteem, her intake of external information will also be negative energy. If you feel that you are not good enough, you will magnify your shortcomings a hundred times by secretly speculating on others. If a girl thinks she is fat and someone calls her cute, she will murmur in her heart, "Only those who are not beautiful are called cute." For a person who thinks she is short, if someone stands next to her, she will feel that the other person is trying to use her shortness to make her taller. This creates a vicious cycle. The less you love yourself, the worse you feel.

If you also want to love others, you also need to love yourself.

For someone who does not love herself, her love will be full of doubt, suspicion, inferiority, paranoia and unreasonableness. Because you are not confident in yourself, you will have no confidence in love and insecurity in your partner. I often question: "How could he fall in love with such a good-for-nothing self?" When problems are raised, negative emotions surge up, which will inevitably be accompanied by quarrels and misunderstandings. Such a relationship is bound to be unhappy.

The happy relationships or marriages I know all involve both parties seriously loving themselves, their lives, their careers, their looks, and even their own edges and personalities. When they are together, they can warm each other and add beauty to each other's lives. But when you are alone, you can overcome obstacles and become invincible.

I once had a male friend describe her girlfriend like this: "Because she can live well by herself, so as a boyfriend, I want to be twice as happy when we are with her." Be good to her. Otherwise, you will lose the meaning of being a boyfriend!”

I think what he said is very reasonable. Girls love themselves to make your partner love you more. You said so. no!