Taiwanese writer’s parenting guide: Applaud the person sitting on the roadside applauding

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"Why can other children take the first place in the exam?"

When their son was just born, Liu Jirong and her husband, like all parents in the world, expected that their children would get God's special favor: outstanding appearance, extraordinary intelligence, preferably a child prodigy. Although they named their son "Yifan", they sincerely hoped that he would become an "extraordinary" person.

However, their son did not bring them any surprises. Whenever relatives and friends get together, competing with each other's children seems to have become an unspoken secret war between parents. Seeing other people's children singing well, dancing well, or speaking authentic and fluent English... Liu Jirong was both envious and disappointed. Once she couldn't help but said to Yifan resentfully: "Son, why aren't you a child prodigy?" Yifan, who was squatting on the ground playing with toys, heard this and replied without raising his head: "But my dad is not Father." His son's wise answer made Liu Jirong laugh. Yes, we are just mortals. Why should we expect to give birth to an extraordinary son?

However, Liu Jirong has not given up her dream of raising her son to become an elite. She and her husband have the same idea: congenital deficiencies can be made up for by acquired diligence.

After entering elementary school, Yifan’s happy childhood came to an end. He lived under various constraints every day, such as: listening to English twice a day, writing a diary every day, You must read an article and memorize an ancient poem every day...

Grandma strictly supervises Yifan's diet and daily life: you must eat in moderation, neither too much nor too little. And pay attention to nutrition. The words that my grandma often talks about when eating every day are: "This can supplement vitamins. My neighbor's brother who went to Harvard often eats it." "That one can supplement calcium and blood. The scientist on TV likes to eat it."... .However, Yifan made everyone very worried. He always looked at the nutritious meal carefully cooked by his grandma with a sad face and refused to move his chopsticks, or he would finish his meal slowly as if swallowing medicine amidst the constant urging of adults. Eating tasks.

The school organized an outing, and Yifan happily packed his belongings. At this moment, grandpa came over with a serious face, called him to his side and said: "Remember, don't just play during the spring outing, listen to the teacher's explanations, remember the historical knowledge related to those scenic spots, and come back I need to take notes when traveling and write a travel report. "Hearing this, Yifan's expression suddenly became depressed.

After returning from the spring outing, his father took the travel notes written by his son and complained to Liu Jirong: "You are a writer, how come your son can't even write the most ordinary travel notes?"

Liu Jirong More than once, I had a heart-to-heart talk with Yifan, telling him that the amount of hardship endured in life is fixed. If you endure more hardship when you are young, you will be able to enjoy happiness in the future. On the contrary, if you are unwilling to endure hardship now, you will have to endure more hardship when you grow up. bitter. She often loses her patience and says fiercely, "If you don't get into the top 10, I won't let you go!" Or, "Why can others get the first place? You can't?" Whenever this time, Yifan Like a wounded little bird, he watched in dismay as his usually gentle and lovely mother transformed into a terrifying tiger.

But Liu Jirong's scolding did not bring the results she expected. Yifan's mathematical operations were still careless, his Chinese writing was always irregular, and he memorized and forgot English words... Moreover, let What made her most helpless and dumbfounded was that Yifan's grades were surprisingly "stable". He was always ranked around 23rd every time, making him a standard middle-class student.

"Aren't you happy under the pyramid?"

"Yifan, when can you get 15th place in the exam, your mother will reward you with a thousand yuan, and you can buy There are a lot of comic books he likes. "After his son got 24th place in the exam again, Liu Jirong reluctantly started using money. But Yifan was indifferent and curled his lips without interest and said, "Even if I bought those books, I wouldn't have time to read them.

"Indeed, now his spare time has been occupied by various tutoring classes and tutoring, and there is no time at his disposal.

Why doesn't Liu Jirong hope that Yifan will have a happy childhood? She gently hugged her son and said softly: "Mom, I know you are working hard, but in the future..." Yifan immediately broke away from her arms and said impatiently: "I know, I know, those words of yours" I've said it a thousand times. But mom, why do I have to climb to the top of the pyramid? Aren't you happy down there? "The son's words left Liu Jirong speechless for a moment. Yes, can you get real happiness by climbing to the top of the pyramid at the expense of childhood joy? She really couldn't give a definite answer.

Although grandma She has been adhering to her nutritious diet year after day, but obviously, those beneficial things cannot stimulate the child's appetite. Eating is a painful thing for Yifan, and his body is not stronger than other children. He was smaller than other children of his age. After entering elementary school, Yifan's body became overwhelmed by the pressure of study. He had anorexia, insomnia, and colds. The family sat together and began to reflect. Yifan is only seven years old, but we greedily yearn for him to have the mind of a seventeen-year-old, the ambition of a twenty-seven-year-old, and wish he could become a talented person overnight. Are we too eager for quick success and quick gain? "

Grandma also reflected on herself and said that yesterday she made Yifan his favorite braised pig's feet regardless of the nutritional mix. Yifan actually ate four of them at once. It turns out that he is not anorexic. , but the usual nutritious meals were too unpalatable to him.

After careful discussion, the family decided not to put pressure on Yifan, "Let the average student be the average student. There must be more in this world." As long as he is happy, he will be the base of the pyramid. "They canceled Yifan's tutoring class, restored his normal schedule, and gave him the right to watch TV and comic books... But to be honest, Liu Jirong still couldn't help but feel a little bit in his heart. It was a small regret. If possible, she still hoped that Yifan could become a great person.

Not long after her childhood freedom was restored, Yifan's school organized another exam. She was originally worried that her son would lose his strictness. However, Liu Jirong and his wife lamented that their son scored 23rd in the exam as usual this time. "It seems that our son is destined to be mediocre in his life." "Liu Jirong felt helpless.

That night, she unexpectedly received a call from her son's teacher. The teacher said in a confused tone: "There is a strange thing I want to tell you. I have been teaching for thirty years. Years ago, this is the first time I've seen this happen. There is an additional question on the Chinese language test paper: Which classmate in the class do you admire the most? Please tell me why. Except for your son, all the classmates in the class unexpectedly wrote Zhang Yifan's name. There are many reasons: eager to help others, trustworthy, easy to get along with, etc. The most commonly written one is optimism and humor. Many classmates even suggested that he should be the monitor. Although your son has mediocre grades, he is really an outstanding person! "

At that moment, Liu Jirong on the other end of the phone felt an unprecedented pride and pride. Only then did she realize that when she no longer focused on the test papers paranoidly, every child could find his or her past.

Liu Jirong began to re-examine his son from other perspectives, and found more and more advantages in Yifan. For example, Yifan was very independent not long ago. At the age of seven, he actually repaired a broken drawer in a decent manner; Yifan is also very humorous and always has endless jokes in his belly, so everyone likes to play with him; Yifan is willing to help others, and the elders do When things happen, he will take the initiative to help. When he meets children younger than himself, he will take care of them like a little adult. When crossing the road with his mother, Yifan will act like a little man and let his mother walk on his right. And said: "Mom is short-sighted, I am clairvoyant, I will protect you!" "What moved Liu Jirong the most was when she and her son went to the hospital for a blood test together. When the doctor announced that the mother and son had the same blood type, Yifan actually cheered with joy: "Great, if my mother gets sick and needs a blood transfusion in the future, she can Smoke me! "This casual expression of love moved Liu Jirong to tears. Even the doctors and nurses nearby praised her enviously for giving birth to a good son. At this point, Liu Jirong finally accepted the fact that his son was just an ordinary child.

At the same time, she discovered that many children, like Yifan, did not want to become the "geniuses" expected by their parents.

Once, at a gathering of friends, when the little daughter of an elder was asked what she wanted to do when she grew up, she innocently said that she wanted to be a mother and a kindergarten teacher when she grew up, which aroused laughter. Her parents scolded their daughter in embarrassment for how she could be so unambitious. The little girl had no choice but to shyly change her ideal to get a "Ph.D." degree and become a "star" in order to gain praise. Liu Jirong was deeply touched by this. After returning home, he wrote a blog post titled "People Sitting on the Roadside Applauding" and posted it online. The "Girl No. 23" in the article is the little girl who wants to be a mother and the girl who doesn't want to crawl. The combination of Zhang Yifan, the son at the top of the pyramid.

"Those who applaud heroes are also happy"

Liu Jirong was originally worried that her son would go downhill after being completely liberated, but she was pleasantly surprised to find that things were not as bad as she thought.

First of all, grandma no longer feeds Yifan according to the genius recipe, but arranges the diet to accommodate the child's taste. Yifan no longer takes Xiaoshi tablets and does not need anyone to urge him to eat. He has gained one kilogram in just one month and has not been sick for a long time.

Without extra tutoring and extracurricular homework, Yifan became more attentive and interested in class. As a result, in the final exam, I got an unprecedented 17th place. Liu Jirong and her husband took the report card and couldn't help but sigh: Sometimes, if you give up something, you will get more. But now their focus is no longer on scores, but on a relaxed family atmosphere that has abandoned discipline and oppression.

One morning, while Liu Jirong was cleaning the room, he played a piano piece. It turned out that Yifan, who was jumping up and down in the house just now, suddenly became very quiet. He put his chin in his hands and listened intently until the song ended. Liu Jirong was very curious about his son's rare silence, and couldn't help but jokingly asked: "What did you hear?"

Yifan thought about it and replied seriously: "I feel like the sun is skipping rope." , and in the campus, the leaves of the holly trees were illuminated red, as if they had a fever. The wind whistled across the playground and ran past the windows..."

Liu Jirong was shocked by her son's answer. She did not expect that Xiao Yifan would hear such delicate feelings from music. Before that, she had forced her son to learn music and carefully cultivated his His musical talent wanted him to become the future Mozart and Beethoven, but he always played the piano to others. This is really in line with the saying: if you plant flowers with intention, they will not bloom, but if you do not intend to plant willows, they will create shade. Liu Jirong had mixed feelings.

After falling in love with music sincerely, Yifan actually offered to go to a tutoring class to learn piano. While Liu Jirong was very pleased, he also warned his son: Music is wonderful and can turn a person's heart into a garden. Learning music requires you to spend a lot of time and sweat like a gardener. Yifan listened carefully and nodded. After that, he started learning the piano. No matter how difficult the arpeggios, tones and apparitions were, he never complained, but enjoyed them.

In addition to music, Liu Jirong also always hoped that his son could write good articles. But Yifan, who was once forced by his grandfather to write travel notes and his experiences, was never interested in writing, and he never got the hang of it. Liu Jirong kept forcing his son to write more and practice more, but the results were not satisfactory. Most of the articles Yifan submitted were perfunctory.

Liu Jirong no longer forced Yifan to keep a diary and read, but suddenly found that his son secretly wrote articles and continued to contribute online. One day, Yifan excitedly announced to them that one of his articles had been retained by a children's publication!

"The editor said that the writing is wonderful and I am very optimistic about it." Yifan said proudly that he saw that his mother often published articles, so he made up his mind to compete with her. It’s just that at the beginning, I was afraid that I would be laughed at if I didn’t write well, so I didn’t dare to speak out about it.

From then on, Yifan looked forward to the magazine sending sample issues every day, but there was still no news. Finally, I saw a message from the editor online saying that his manuscript had not passed the final review. Yifan was so shocked that he hid in his room and cried secretly. Liu Jirong knocked on his door with a box of comic books that his son had coveted, and told him that this was a prize, a prize for failure. Yifan immediately stopped feeling sad and opened his eyes in surprise. At this time, Liu Jirong said to Yifan sincerely: "I want to reward you because you bravely challenged your mother, practiced writing diligently, and made such great progress in your composition. Son, I am really proud of you!" Yifan The clouded face suddenly cleared up.

After school the next day, Yifan happily told Liu Jirong that everyone envied him for having such a cool mother who actually gave failure prizes to her children. From then on, Yifan wrote more seriously and diligently, and soon published his first novel.

In 2012, Liu Jirong and his son teamed up to publish a book called "We Must Be Obedient to Each Other", which collected 22 true stories between mothers and children. They put aside the original roles of mother and son. Baggage, sincerely talk about study, ambition, friends, love and life. By listening to his children's true words, Liu Jirong rediscovered the connotation of his mother's role in his son's love and tolerance, and learned to treat children from a new perspective. Before writing this book, Yifan once asked his mother worriedly: "Will I drag you down, will I disappoint everyone, will I..." Liu Jirong did not answer his son's question, "Will I drag you down, will I disappoint everyone, will I..." Liu Jirong did not answer his son's question: Just hold his hand gently.

In the opening chapter of the book, Zhang Yifan wrote: Maybe everyone will not read the writing of a middle-level student. What I mean is that people may want to see the experience of a young genius, such as being able to go to college at the age of five, writing programs at the age of nine, and already being globally famous at the age of twelve. Everyone wants to know the secret of Superman's formation and then clone them. But I still want to have the courage to tell everyone that someone needs to be a hero and someone needs to applaud the hero. And I want to be the person sitting on the roadside and applauding the hero, because the person who applauds is also important.

As soon as the book was published, it immediately caused a sensation in Taiwan. At the same time, the article "People Sitting on the Roadside Applauding" that Liu Jirong originally posted on his blog was also found, and it became famous at the same time, causing countless parents to think about family education. Reporters swarmed in. During the interview, Liu Jirong told reporters that the two prototypes in the story are still middle school students. They go to the school they like and have friends with whom they can share their joys and sorrows. Although they are occasionally lazy when studying, But he never loses interest; he is kind to people and things. What is gratifying is that sometimes, they will applaud others enthusiastically, and sometimes, they will also receive everyone's applause. Just like Liu Jirong said in his blog post, how many people in this world longed to be heroes when they were young, but ended up becoming ordinary people in the world of fireworks. If they are healthy, if they are happy, if they do not go against their own will, then our children might as well be kind-hearted ordinary people.

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