13 1- Three Theories on Sexology

The second part of "Three Theories of Sexology" is about sexual consciousness and sexual behavior in childhood.

I am ashamed to say that my first reaction when I saw the word childhood was Gorky's autobiographical trilogy Childhood, On Earth and My University. I don't seem to have read many books (I haven't read any of these three), but I have memorized a lot. After all, as a common sense question in the school routine exam, it will still be catchy after 20 years.

Then I thought of Tayu Lo's Childhood, under the banyan tree by the pond, cicadas were shouting summer. Ah, full of memories, but I didn't think of my childhood. This is a kind of luck and misfortune. We were born ordinary and lived an ordinary life. Our life doesn't seem to have suffered any major trauma or joy.

Think about it carefully, everyone has his own childhood, or at that time, it surprised you. No one else remembers the events that the sky fell, but you didn't expect that things that you didn't have a deep experience were still fresh in the memory of your parents or people around you.

However, sex is private. In the eyes of parents and family, you didn't feel ashamed to run around naked when you were a child. Everything you said was included in the category of childlike innocence, so you wouldn't have the consciousness and feeling in this respect.

After all, most people don't have any sexual feelings until the second sexual organ matures again in adolescence. They enjoy the harassment of hormonal impulses, sometimes happy and sometimes depressed, and the deer in their hearts bump into each other, which makes men masculine and girls pay more attention to their physical changes. So for children who are still children, they just don't know what sex is.

Indeed, no child will explain these feelings clearly, and will not be associated with love through sex and pure physical pleasure. At that time, it is estimated that there will not be too much gender awareness.

In the movie Everything Looks Beautiful, adapted from Wang Shuo's novel of the same name, children go to the toilet, sleep and eat together, regardless of gender, and the little boy takes off the little girl's pants to see the difference. This is also in line with the physical and psychological conditions of children in that era, at least in line with the views of adult society on them.

Is that really the case? Freud said, no, children's perception of sex is beyond your imagination.

He divided human sexual desire into five periods, and this book talked about the oral desire period, anal desire period and Oedipus period.

The craving period comes from the fact that newborn children also need to find milk to eat and contact the world through their mouths. Wu Zhihong later explained that adults love snacks mostly because their psychology stays in the period of appetite, and they use appetite as an excuse to express their psychological spirit.

When the baby enters the anal desire period after several months of development, he can produce pleasure from excrement, which is the first time in his life that he makes it himself. By controlling excrement and stimulating mucosal neurons around the anus, he feels very cool. He also explained why babies like to play with the feces he created.

Then came the more controversial Oedipus period. He said that every man is burdened with the complex of killing his father and marrying his mother. This is the Oedipus plot. King Oedipus is a famous tragedy in ancient Greece. The Greek tragedy lies in the helplessness of human life being controlled by fate. No matter how people try to change it, they still fall into the trajectory of fate. King Oedipus is cursed by fate and will kill his father and marry his mother.

Freud said that when a boy grows up, he will have the psychology of resisting patriarchy, and his attachment to his mother in his childhood will affect his life like a brand. This is also the reason why there are still a large number of horse-haired men in today's society. Their thoughts remained in the Oedipus period, and they could not get rid of their attachment to their mothers and hatred of patriarchy. There are also girls looking for husbands to refer to their fathers' looks, and there are also plots that love their fathers.

This view is really disgusting, because it attacks interpersonal relationships, and interpersonal relationships have always been an important factor in social stability. Incest and ethical confusion will affect the stability of a political party, a region and a country.

From then on, the father looked at his son. The boy tried to rob my wife. Mother looked at her daughter, who secretly loved her father. Breast-feeding is no longer a simple nature, but a pleasure to enjoy sucking, and the sacred glory of mother's breast-feeding is also stained with some eroticism.

It is mentioned in the book that childhood sex is self-behavior and pure pleasure. For example, she can feel excited by rubbing her lower body occasionally, so she can't help repeating this action. Sometimes a little girl can feel strangeness when she pinches her legs, and she will repeat it intentionally or unintentionally.

After a while, they will be curious about the genitals of the opposite sex and why they are different.

I remember reading a dirty joke before. Xiaohong ran home and asked her mother, crying why Xiaoming had an extra tail and I didn't. Mom said, son, when you grow up, you can have as much as you want.

Aside from this joke, when girls notice that their figure is less than that of men, they feel that they are flawed and imperfect. This topic has also aroused the research and discussion of countless experts and scholars. Some of them hold the view that girls are inferior and try to stand and pee to prove that they can do something.

Boys also make fun of girls who don't have little brothers. They know that more is better than nothing, and the big one is better than the small one. Later, they will find some new games, such as peeing farther than who. Prove your strength. It seems that sex has always been a show-off capital. Otherwise, how can many animals' genitals be completely out of touch with their body shape in the process of evolution, and even become a burden?

It seems that human childhood is really cute, and buying animals is also cute.