Listen to the short notes of Zeng Qifeng and Wu Zhihong’s conversation about “How to feel at ease during the epidemic”

Three basic points:

1. Think about "it". Think clearly about the problem in front of you, or even see it through. Thinking hard can activate your reason, awaken your subconscious, and allow your inner and outer to collide, instead of being paralyzed by external information and building a wall between self-awareness and the outside world. I think writing is a very good intellectual process. There is also a process of thinking and making choices when recording casually.

2. Look for certainty. For example, how long will the food last at home? Our house is very strong, there are no problems with the doors and windows, and we have electricity, water, gas, and the Internet.

3. Attention shift. "Psychological problems are actually problems of attention!" For example, Teacher Zeng began to feel a little depressed and irritable after a few days of isolation, so he returned to the work of proofreading translated books. Think about ways to make three meals a day so that your attention does not always stay on the epidemic.

The psychological characteristics of those who are desperate to go out are analyzed:

1. Death anxiety is aroused. Some people subconsciously choose to "actively create death" because they cannot bear the psychological pressure of waiting for death to come to them. They are too uncomfortable and anxious. It seems that they are subconsciously saying, "I am looking for your virus, not your virus looking for me!"

2. Show off one's strength and amplify narcissistic behavior. Timid people often show their strength by going out without wearing a mask. So I think if someone around you does this, you should affirm his strength and remind him of his heroic spirit of thinking about others, instead of criticizing and exposing him to stimulate him to further insist on taking the opportunity to show himself. Here is a psychologically meaningful joke: A father wanted to go fishing during the epidemic, but his daughter couldn't stop him and insisted on going. I packed my things and went out. After a few minutes, I turned back and knocked on the door. The daughter asked why she didn't go, and replied: "Oh, bragging feels much better!" Then she walked in. Pretending to be strong for a while made me mentally addicted.

3. Macrosomia. I hope my needs will be met immediately and unconditionally. Adults can restrain themselves from making judgments, while infantile thinking is self-centered and does what they want to do immediately.

Teacher Zeng made a self-analysis: After the lockdown, he felt mildly depressed, powerless, and felt guilty. For depression, first look at it, let it flow freely, feel it, accept it. The feeling of guilt arises from seeing similar people in misfortune, but oneself is fine. So some people can relieve their guilt by working hard, or not being happy and living a good life, and providing sad information and self-abuse companionship.

Three points for the psychological analysis of people who want to help others in society:

1. Simply help others

2. Relieve the subconscious guilt.

3. Some people have traumatic experiences that are awakened at this moment and need to be released.

In view of the above points of attention: "Don't ask for help, don't help", "Don't persuade people to ask for help", "Don't hint". I believe that nature has a strong ability to heal after the epidemic! Consultants should stop doing what God should do! Human collective subconscious has powerful self-healing power!

Teacher Wu Zhihong reminds people who are too calm: it is not good if the emotions are completely shut down by the mind! Intense emotions are valuable! In this kind of crisis situation, a certain degree of abnormal behavior (such as posting many posts on Moments or Weibo) is normal! But be aware and control your emotions.

Teacher Zeng talks about overly sensitive people: Consciously keep a distance from certain information. Understand that you are sensitive, so consciously do not let things that you know will disturb you affect you! Of course, it’s difficult to deal with close people, such as family members!