If I am taken seriously by jokes and take jokes as an attack, how can I not think seriously? How did you do that?

I used to be like this. I care about what others think of me, because I have high self-esteem and low self-esteem. I don't want to keep getting hurt. I am very sensitive inside, and I care about the insults and slanders of others. But I dare not say that he was completely torn to pieces in speech, directly pointing out his pain points and shortcomings, and making him pay the price of blood for his casual speech. Sometimes people should be really fierce. If they are too weak, it may not be a good thing, that's all. Then, in the long run, you can only bear it.

However, the result is hard to bear, no matter how uncomfortable it is. Otherwise, if you hit a piece, you will become the target of public criticism, one step at a time and one step at a time. So I changed my way of thinking, looked at the problem from another angle, and even looked at the same thing from another angle. Every time I find something unusual, I feel very balanced. I'm really out of breath. Then I really tortured myself and others in the wrong way. It's calm now.

From the point of view of the problem, most people are simple. Looking at this matter from my own standpoint, I always feel that I am right. There is always something inappropriate about others. In the face of other people's accusations, others' accusations against themselves seem to completely deny themselves, and they feel very uncomfortable. If they are angry for a moment, they will be tit for tat with others. Who's afraid of who?

Now my perspective is constantly changing, and I look at the same thing from different angles:

Look at this matter from the other side's point of view and you will understand why he said so. Why do you do this, whether he is in conflict with himself or not. Walking into his inner world and analyzing his personal experience and mental journey, we can understand his words, deeds and reasons.

From others' point of view, you two are very concerned about this matter. Why bother? How big the matter is, what to do if you win, what to do if you lose, and more importantly, if you give in on face, you will get more from other interests. It's really not a loss at all, but many people won't calculate this account. We must fight to the death.

From the three stages of this matter, we can examine the cause and process of this matter, infer the result, and calmly look at the past, present and future trend of this matter.

Seeing this seemingly beautiful thing, analyzing the potential bad things, and vice versa, so that we will not be blindly happy and depressed. Be balanced inside, and then handle it calmly.

Investigate the different aspects of this matter in an all-round way, deeply analyze its internal essence, and tell yourself what to do in order to consider it in the long run. Comprehensive, profound and long-term. Always good.

It's no longer a little thinking. You make a decision as soon as you clap your head, and you can guarantee it when you clap your chest. After blindly investing, if you suffer heavy losses, you will slap your ass and leave. Emotionally, there are ups and downs. Everything is handled according to your own feelings, not by the rules. Many times, in order to pursue absolute freedom and willfulness, all freedom is often lost. Isn't it?

Although not everything is like this. But overall consideration and long-term planning are always right, just get used to it.

When I am in contact with people now, I have different opinions and my heart is unhappy, a word appears in front of me: and. Then, put out your anger and face it frankly.

Generally speaking, the most crucial point is that we must have our own development goals, and gradually achieve this goal as soon as we have time, and achieve the goals at each stage. This is the best choice in life. Don't care about some small gains and losses in human feelings. Moderate concessions are for better progress, and good deeds can be realized. It is always right to save time and energy to do more important things.

Otherwise, the contradictions and entanglements between people always control their emotions and are always in a dilemma. So, if you encounter misunderstanding and mental torture from others, and you can't change it for the time being, put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you look at yourself from his point of view, you think what he said is reasonable, and it's not entirely someone else's fault. You didn't mean to hurt others, just change it yourself. Why add fuel to the fire, intensify contradictions and be at odds? Harmony and win-win is the best policy. Winning on your own is a big mistake. It is impossible for everyone to adapt to themselves, and be careful to make themselves happy. Only by changing one's concept, holding a correct attitude, adapting one's words and deeds to all people, and even thanking all people for reminding themselves by insulting themselves, even if it is meaningless, is it good, because even if they have made some achievements, they dare not get carried away, dare not be complacent, and always be steady. Always thank those who scold themselves, thank them for correcting their mistakes, and thank them for making themselves like this. If a person is always coaxed by everyone, then there will be no pain, no willingness to work hard, and all aspects will disappear. Live in a daze for a lifetime.

Therefore, everything turns the bad side into the good side, makes the good side better, and makes the good side better. This matter developed as I hoped, and so did other aspects. While achieving their goals, they improve their comprehensive strength, do what they should and like to do, and wealth and recognition follow one after another, and face the right and wrong of the world frankly. Forget it.

Thank God, thank you all, thank you for being scolded, insulted and slandered, and let me move forward steadily. Keep your feet on the ground and dare not get carried away.