Why do you say that whoever speaks first in love loses?

Because the person who speaks first is the buyer of an emotional game, he is responsible for chasing, and the other party holds the decision. To put it bluntly, he has fallen and is in a state of being led by the nose.

Feelings are a chase. Two people fell in love at first sight. There are not many such feelings. Most of them have a pursuit process. Who speaks first often determines the position in this relationship. So you speak first, you are in charge of the pursuit, and the other party has the initiative. He is responsible for agreeing or disagreeing. The other party has a decisive say in the final direction of your feelings.

The first speaker must pay the bill.

Feelings also have a place, and no one denies it. In fact, most feelings begin with chasing. Whoever speaks first is in charge of chasing. What method you use to pursue is your own business, but this decision is often in the hands of the pursued person. This may also be called arrogance. Anyway, if you start chasing first, you have to pay for this relationship. As for agreeing or not, we have to leave it to fate.

Therefore, the issue of initiative is particularly emphasized here. When two people are in love, their status directly determines their status in marriage. So many girls will not take the initiative here. He will often wait for a boy to confess, and then he will make an offer to the other party. For example, I can't cook. Can you accept such a girl? I can't do housework, will you accept it? If you accept it, we will get married, which means he has the capital to make a deal with you. It is already clear that whoever has the initiative has nothing to hide.

Relationships don't win or lose.

Finally, there is one more thing, that is, don't say who wins or loses in a relationship, even if it is finally separated, it is also the common youth of two people. There is no way to make up for the consumption of youth, so there is no winner in a failed relationship.