Do you know the subtext behind adults saying "good night"?

I am a person who especially likes quiet and solitude, and I often feel that I am out of place with the excitement.

Before, friends ate together and sang after dinner. I've only been there once, and I haven't been there since.

I told them: I can't stand this noisy environment. I feel very noisy, which gives me a feeling of fear and anxiety.

Later, when my friends have this kind of lively occasion again, they generally won't call me because they know that I can't adapt; But this does not affect our friendship, because this is the understanding between friends.

I was chatting with my friend recently, and my friend also told me one of his habits.

Before going to bed every night, friends have developed the habit of reading books, usually for half an hour to an hour, and then go to bed.

When he is reading, he doesn't like being disturbed by others. He shut himself in his study, while his lover was watching a play in the living room. He is reading in the study, and their lives keep this tacit understanding.

However, when a friend reads a book before going to bed, someone often gives him a voice and sends a message to disturb him; We are all acquaintances, but there is nothing important, and he doesn't want to talk to each other.

So every time friends say to each other: I'm sorry, I'm going to bed and I have to get up early for work tomorrow.

After listening to my friend's story, I suddenly found out: God, I'm not the only one who has had this experience.

In fact, in life, I will also end a conversation with each other with "good night"; Because when they talked to me, it was very late.

I have my own plans, either reading, watching movies or getting ready for bed.

So, in order not to hurt each other's dignity, I chose to end our conversation with a white lie.

There are many similar subtext in adult social interaction.

I'm going to sleep = I don't want to talk to you anymore = I'm going to take a shower and play games = I'm going to be busy with something else.

I'm going to eat = it's time for us to end this conversation.

Many times, when we communicate with others, we don't need to be too straightforward; Speaking too bluntly will hurt each other's self-esteem.

Words just right, but also give each other a step down. This is the most suitable degree.

Children have conflicts and quarrels and often don't play together.

And the isolated one will run to the other side and ask each other: why are you ignoring me? What made you stop playing with me? Did I do something wrong?

When the friendship between adults comes to an end, they just choose to lie on each other's friend list silently and tacitly, without saying a word and without any intersection.

Let time dilute all the connections between two people. At a certain node, it is to see who deleted each other's friends first.

Just like the clouds that gather in the wind, they disperse and gather; The same is true of adult friendship. Your enthusiasm today doesn't mean you understand it. Today's silence may be really silent after tomorrow.

When you find your partner with great interest and send a lot of messages to share your joy and surprise, the other party suddenly replies: I'm going to bed, it's too late, good night.

At this time, you should understand each other's thoughts.

His good night is tantamount to not returning your message.

When we are chatting with others, the other party does not reply to our message, which is a clear refusal.

Good night, my Lord. That's what it means.

There is a joke on the Internet:

Say good night, but everyone meets in the game. At that moment, I just wanted to escape awkwardly.

It looks interesting, but it reflects the real social state of adults.

Everyone should understand that when the water is full, it will overflow, and the profit for one month will be gone.

Some things can't be done too full, too perfect and too close, which will only make the beauty disappear gradually.

When I just graduated from college, I didn't settle down because of my work, so I temporarily stayed at a friend's house. My friend rented a small two-bedroom apartment by himself, and I shared half the rent with him.

At first, everyone really got along well, and there were few contradictions.

However, with the longer we live together, I find that the differences and contradictions between us are manifested. Although everyone was restrained, I noticed some changes.

I cherish our friendship very much, so I choose to move out and rent my own house.

In fact, the contradiction is very small, and the difference is also the difference of lifestyle.

For example: different work and rest habits, different lifestyles, different levels of cleanliness, and so on.

Even if lovers get along, they should leave some space for each other appropriately.

When two people fall in love, we must first understand that everyone is an independent individual, you are you and he is him.

The combination between you is icing on the cake and should not be a psychological burden to each other.

He wants to read quietly for a while, but you let him go to the movies with you; He is willing to accept this opinion in the short term, but if you take up too much of his time every time, he will also feel full of pressure and like to be bound by you.

Therefore, maintaining intimate relationship seems to be no problem, but it is full of hidden contradictions.

Everyone should improve their ability of empathy and affection, and learn to analyze each other's real thoughts through speech and behavior.

Don't say good night to each other.

When others don't reply to your message, you don't have to commit suicide.

What do you think is the subtext of adult social interaction?

(Article with picture source "Listening to the Ear", original)