How to face people who are cold and distant from themselves?

Many people don't have enough social restrictions, or because of personality reasons, they are very concerned that others don't like themselves.

Therefore, people who ignore themselves will feel very uncomfortable. But in fact, in interpersonal relationships, everyone will meet such a few people who ignore themselves and even hate themselves. We just need to treat them with the same attitude, not too flattering.

Of course, for such a situation, we should also divide it into specific occasions and scenes.

First, if it is a person who needs to communicate at work.

In fact, the company is also a small Jianghu. Although the communication between people looks harmonious on the surface, they dislike and repel each other in private. If you meet someone who is not in harmony with you at work, but needs to communicate at work. Then, you should separate the company. If you need a job, be friendly and please if necessary. But in private, there is no need to pay special attention to each other.

Because at work, you need to get along well with him to finish the work better. In private, you don't need his help.

Second, if there is no need to communicate with people.

There is no need to pay too much attention to the thoughts and eyes of people who chat or not. After all, nothing is perfect, and it is impossible for everyone to like it. People who like to get along with you, even if you don't take the initiative to show kindness, will throw an olive branch to you, while people who don't like to get along with you, even if you show kindness frequently, may just leave a bully impression on others.

Therefore, you should do the same to those who neglect you. He ignores you, you ignore him, he alienates you and you alienate him.

Finally, although the days with friends around will be more lively and rich, people should also learn to enjoy the space of being alone. Giving friends a proper rest can make your life more comfortable and your daily communication more relaxed and comfortable. Instead of pandering to yourself, it is better to be yourself and find like-minded people.

Personally, I think that since I left you cold and alienated you, it means that someone has replaced you, and people who don't want to talk to you mean that you are not in their hearts.

Don't ask why, don't stay, because demanding is too humble. Remember, people who care about you can never leave you.

Between people is a love, a fate, you cherish me, I will double the return, you don't care about me, let everything go to zero!

What is left is the scenery, and what is left is the life.

There is too much helplessness in life. Only by learning to adapt to this ever-changing world, only by being able to bear, let go and open up can we understand the true meaning of life.

It is said that meeting is prosperous and the ending is a sigh. But I think, if life doesn't meet a blooming flower, how can we enjoy the picturesque mountains surrounded by clear water?

In this life, people will meet different people, some become friends, some become passers-by, some can accompany them all their lives, and some only accompany them for a journey. Life is impermanent, so why tie them up.

Let everything follow the fate, even if one day, alienated and unfamiliar, at least there are good memories and real processes. Even if I am old, I will smile when I think of you. You have been to my world, and I have been to yours.

The famous British novelist Austin once said: Love is too easy and it is too difficult to last a lifetime.

Yes, there are too many things in the world that have been lost in the long years, so when someone treats you coldly and alienates you, remember not to ask why.

Because it is only when he (she) should go, you just need to accept it, whether it is a friend or a lover.

The so-called maturity is knowing that some things can't be done after all! ! !

Just think of him as an ordinary person, not too enthusiastic and not too cold.

To tell the truth, it is obviously stupid and undoubtedly naive to alienate a person. Real adults will never obviously reject or alienate a person. Adults who do this are often naive and stupid, which will make people feel that his emotional intelligence is very low and he will not get along with others. In fact, ordinary people tend to be less enthusiastic about people they don't like, rather than alienating them. That's all. People who will alienate you are either naive or really hate you.

If it is because of the latter, you need to think about why you are so annoying and unlovable. After all, there must be two reasons for being alienated, not only because of him personally, but also because of your large proportion.

As for you, you don't need to show too much. After all, it is he who alienates others, not you. You can pretend that you don't know all this, live your own life, live your own little life, don't worry about being alienated, and don't think about making up with him or making peace. Because those are unnecessary, the first thing you need to know is that you are not wrong, you have never bullied others, you have never done anything that harms others' interests, you have never hurt others behind their backs, and you have never spoken ill of others, so you are not wrong. Being alienated can only be that person's personal problem. You can live a confident and bright life without anxiety, sadness and troubles.

It's not that the world can't live without anyone. You can still live happily without others.

How to face people who are cold and distant from themselves?

People in society follow the principle that birds of a feather flock together. If people deliberately neglect you and alienate you, it means that you are not their type. In line with the principle of equal communication, you should not flatter him deliberately, otherwise the taste of hot face and cold ass is really good.

Secondly, there is always a reason why others are cold to you. Although you should not deliberately accept him and please him, you should always reflect on yourself and change yourself. If you can leave your job for three days, people will be impressed, that is to improve yourself and change others' attitudes towards you. People always grow up in setbacks, provided that you are good at summing up. If you have your own shortcomings, correct them; if you don't, encourage them.

Third, if you have an unusual relationship with that person, such as Party A and Party B, such as a superior-subordinate relationship, in short, you may have to do yourself a favor. You should smile at others without involving personal personality and dignity. Here, a bad word is talking to people, not ghosts. As long as he doesn't embarrass you, you can live by yourself.

Anyway, don't be suspicious and jealous. Although an upright man is open and poised is a narrow-minded person, he is anxious and worried ... Only by being humble and being himself can the society be harmonious.

If it is a general relationship, even a strange relationship, then the attitude is equal, unless it involves compelling interests. You don't have to be condescending when others ignore you. People's feelings are limited and precious. The so-called good old man's life is self-deception, typical hypocrisy, but he ignores the people who are really good to you.

And if the other person was kind to you before, he suddenly became indifferent. From friendship, mainly from cherishing fate, we must make it clear. Ask or explain why. Because there may be a misunderstanding. Many people's relationships deteriorate, often only through the mouth of a third party. So we still need a recovery process.

Once the other person doesn't listen to your explanation at all or remains indifferent after listening to it, and you really haven't done anything wrong, it means that fate has arrived, so don't condescend. He is likely to alienate you because of professional interests, business interests or pure jealousy. You are not the same person at all. In fact, if you are really good friends, sisters and partners, after you have differences, the other party will ask you directly instead of not talking. Your positive explanation has provided the last chance to make up for this fate. Since we haven't had a chance yet, don't force it. Maybe people laugh at you behind your back.

The heart is open and bright, and naturally there is no guilt. Birds of a feather flock together, and naturally others will appreciate you. You don't have to worry too much about passers-by in life, especially the social scope of the workplace and classmates. Don't think about the face problem, it's all floating clouds. In this life, it is a blessing to have two or three really good brothers and good confidants. Be yourself, especially cherish those who are really good to you, that's enough!

Treat ordinary people and ordinary things with a normal heart.

The clouds in the sky and the people on the ground are in a hurry, wandering in front of you when you don't care, and there is no trace when you care. ...

In a hurry, I came. It is duckweed in the water. I went quietly. It's the moon shadow in the snow. It may surprise you, hurt you, meet you in laughter, or see the flickering candlelight shadow in tears. ...

It doesn't matter, approaching is fate, leaving is fate, not to mention no reason, only people, that face, once, this voice, are all in the past, passers-by who come and go have become your relatives and friends, the ship series you met has made your marriage in which year, fate has gone, but dreams are empty.

Fate is over, he is the wind, chasing the clouds, not giving you a chance to wave, pulling your skirts, touching the corners of your eyes, tears are empty, caring for you, unintentionally going, like the figure of the deceased floating in the horizon, a hundred years old, famous and unknown. ...

Instead of caring about the fate of the Millennium, it is better to cry in the arms of the person you love for one night …

The affection between people is good, and communication is mutual, not unilateral. If I am kind to you, but you are indifferent to me, maybe I can accept it for a short time, but no one can endure it for a long time. This is a very clear truth, and I believe everyone thinks so. In real life, how should we face people who are cold and distant from ourselves?

The first thing to do is to calm yourself down. I know that you have paid a lot and are sincere to her, but you find that he is indifferent to you. In other words, you stick your passion on someone else's cold ass. Face this reality and let it go. So don't get angry, take it lightly and calm down. Since others are indifferent to you, it means that they have no feelings for you and don't care about you, so even if they are angry, there is nothing they can do. The most important thing is to calm your mind and let yourself not be sad.

The second is to make yourself strong. There is a reason why others alienate you and leave you cold. Maybe you don't have the same language, so it's normal to be left out and alienated. Then you have to reflect on yourself and find out why. What is the reason why others alienate you? If it's because of your own lack of one aspect, then you should charge yourself more and learn more to make yourself stronger. In fact, when you are strong enough, others will come to you.

The third is to face it calmly. Sometimes people alienate you and ignore you, not because of you, but because of each other. At this time, you can do nothing, don't pursue it, and let time prove everything. Facing the reality frankly may be a good choice!

Deal with a man as he deals with you. The easiest way to repay him is to understand that whoever leaves the earth will keep turning. Why care about someone who ignores you? He ignores you, has no language with you, and has no expression to warm your heart. To put it bluntly, he just doesn't have you in his heart. Any introversion is false. Everyone who meets true love has endless words and endless love. Since he doesn't have you in his heart, why should you fall in love?

The premise of being left out and alienated is that you have always been warm and close, just like from the realization of love to the final breakup. Why are you left out and alienated? This is the crux of the problem, so that you can understand and face the coldness and alienation of others more objectively and actively.

Interpersonal intimacy is a two-way choice, not a unilateral wishful thinking. Some people we must live together, and some people we must stay away from. If you choose to get along with others, you must have a calm heart. If both parties or one party blindly pursue interests and have a strong purpose, this relationship will inevitably alienate after intimacy. The so-called "an upright man is open and poised, villains are often in the same boat" is the truth.

I was alone when I was studying. At work, alone outside the circle. When you fall in love, you will look up at the sky alone. ...

Sometimes I get hurt because I care. Sometimes I am comforted by hatred.

It is the hardest for people to find their own shortcomings. They always put the wrong hat on others' heads and ignore or escape their own limitations. Sometimes, being left out or alienated is often because of their own lack of personality or improper behavior. It is a happy thing to correct your mistakes and dare to apologize for each other's understanding. People often lose face, and their relationships become more and more rigid and alienated. Of course, there is another factor. You can't tolerate the other person's personality and way of doing things, or the other person infringes on your rights and interests for a certain purpose and interest and then ignores you and alienates you. This kind of person is not worth approaching, and it is a kind of happiness to stay away.

It's difficult to be a man, it's difficult to be a man, and it's difficult to cover everything! People's hearts are unpredictable, and their desires are hard to fill. After taking off the mask, everything is beyond recognition!

Birds of a feather flock together. Some people get along with each other day and night, but they are still so strange that they will never get close to their hearts. Some people meet only once at the ends of the earth, and if God helps each other, they have a heart in mind. Don't waste your feelings for unimportant people and don't disturb your life for unimportant things!

Tolerance is a panacea for life trauma!

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Answer: There are people who like you and people who bother you! Don't be discouraged and complain when facing people who are distant and indifferent. It's no big deal, just let nature take its course and just be yourself! Once: I have experienced many things, cried, laughed, quarreled, embarrassed, happy, and played with some people for many years ... just because of "an unintentional word", I blacked out the other party and never crossed again! Really helpless, speechless! Is it because the other person doesn't understand or just doesn't want the other person to reintegrate into her life! I feel a little puzzled. Really a "plastic" friendship! Fragile friendship, let it be! Fate is over. If people have a good relationship, get along well, don't haggle over every ounce, and cherish the hard-won feelings! People's hearts are mutual. You treat others with indifference and alienation, and others will treat you with the same performance! Everyone who leaves can live, but they don't want to talk about each other anymore! You can't be like this! It is not easy for everyone to live! Just understand each other! Don't be a person who turns his face faster than turning pages! This is life! What kind of taste must be tasted! Be a happy person! Infect people around you with a happy and good mood every day! Cherish all the people and things you have! Love new friends, don't forget old friends! Wish: the friendship between people will last forever! Forever and ever!