The awakening of a post-70 s man: not being able to marry a wife is not short of money, but what is missing?

In love, many men often complain: "It's really hard to get a wife now, not only to have a house and a car, but also to have a deposit, but without it, women won't look at you." There are even men who say, "Nowadays, women are materialistic, and their eyes are only on money." .

But in fact, is this really the case? That may not be true.

Lao Zhang, a 42-year-old middle-aged single man, talked about Lao Wang's first half of his life. He described it in four words, that is, "lazy".

Lao Zhang said that he was a group of people standing on the tail of the post-70s. Although his generation did not catch up with the era of big pot rice, it experienced a series of times of not having enough to eat and not wearing warm clothes. At that time, his family was particularly poor, and it was common for him not to eat enough and wear warm clothes. At that time, it was not easy to study, and there was no money to read for him at home, so he was uneducated.

Lao Zhang said that at that time, it was difficult to find a job, even if you had studied it, because at that time, the country had abolished the distribution system, and it was difficult to find a job without intermediary companies and talent institutions. So when he didn't find a job, Lao Zhang just hung around at home. When he is in a good mood, he helps his parents with farm work. When he is in a bad mood, he stays at home and sleeps, or goes out for a stroll.

Lao Zhang told me that at that time, they were already in free love. He once liked two girls, but even if he liked them again, the other party rejected him and told him, "He can't give women happiness." At that time, he began to give up on himself, thinking that he couldn't marry his wife because his parents were incompetent, his parents had no money and the other party didn't like his family. So in order to get back at his parents, his attitude at work is to fish for three days and surf the Internet for two days. 30 years old, he doesn't have a girlfriend yet.

At that time, in Lao Zhang's eyes, women were not good things, because they were realistic and only had money in their eyes. Otherwise, they won't despise him. At that time, he always thought that he couldn't get a wife because of lack of money and because of the reality of women now.

But as his parents grew older, Lao Zhang matured day by day. Also 40 years old, his father scolded him and said he was unfilial and worthless. In the village, his peers and grandchildren can play soy sauce, but he is not married.

It was also at that moment that Lao Zhang suddenly realized that he was wrong. He can't get a wife, not because he is short of money, but because he lacks the word "hard". Because at that time, he was not the only poor person in the village. Everyone is poor, why don't others marry their daughters-in-law? The only difference between him and other peers may be that he is lazy and doesn't look for a job.

It was also at that moment that Lao Zhang really understood that the first criterion for a woman to get married was not the amount of money, but whether the man was reliable or not. Women get married to find a support for themselves, not a burden for themselves. If a woman can't see any hope in a man at all, how can a woman dare to marry?

Bian Xiao has something to say:

You may find it ridiculous to read Lao Zhang's story, but there are still many men like Lao Zhang. They may be too old to understand why they can't get a wife.

In reality, many men often say: "Nowadays, women are particularly realistic in worshipping money, because they either need a house, a car or a deposit, so even if they are single, they will never marry such a woman."

From the words of these people, maybe you can see why some men can't get married, because they don't know themselves, obviously they are incompetent, not as lazy and have no capital as other men, but insist on saying that women are realistic and worship money.

I often warn men around me that a man can be short of everything, but he can't be short of "hard work", because three minutes of life is destined, and seven minutes of hard work. Dreams are not only words, but also actions, because only in this way can you get everything you want, otherwise, even if you talk more, if you don't make any efforts, it will only become a joke in the eyes of others.

In marriage, whatever women ask for is their right. They are responsible for their marriage, just as men can choose a more beautiful and better-built woman as their wife, and women can also choose a better man as their husband. This is a two-way fair choice, and no one is qualified to criticize the other side.

I often warn men around me that what women really need most is not money, but the sense of security that men bring her. A man may have no money, but he must work hard. Even if you can't give women happiness now, you should at least prove yourself as a potential stock. If you can't do this, don't expect women to choose you, because no one is stupid enough to follow a man who can't see any hope at all.

In my opinion, a man who only belittles women, complains and talks nonsense is worthless and can't give women real happiness. And a man who knows how to work hard and make progress, even if he has no money, women won't look down on him, because he has a future, and this is hope.

So most men can't get a wife, not because of lack of money, but because of lack of "hard" word. If you have time to discredit women, won't you use this time to make yourself better? As the saying goes, "When flowers bloom, butterflies come", if you want to change the status quo, then you have to work hard, boy!