My mother-in-law asked me to serve my sister-in-law. After being rejected, she slapped me hard. Is it wrong for me to refuse?

It's okay to refuse. It is the mother-in-law who has the problem. Married daughter-in-law and not a nanny, why let daughter-in-law serve sister-in-law confinement? Besides, sister-in-law's husband is not without hands and feet. His daughter-in-law doesn't serve, and she has to trouble her relatives to take care of her. Although it is understandable that postpartum women should be taken care of, they should also be done by their mother-in-law or sister-in-law's family. Relatives are kind-hearted and look at each other's mutual affection. Even if they refuse, it is their duty, and mother-in-law should not hit people.

First, the mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to wait on her sister-in-law. In fact, the biggest problem in the whole incident is this mother-in-law, who asked one daughter-in-law to be a nanny to wait on another daughter-in-law for confinement. Such a request sounds absurd. However, no elder with emotional intelligence will make such unreasonable demands, which not only reflects the preference for this mother-in-law, but also shows that she does not treat this daughter-in-law as a family in her heart from the point of directly hitting people after being rejected by her daughter-in-law.

As an elder, my mother-in-law made two mistakes in the whole incident. On the one hand, she shouldn't have made this request. Sister-in-law should have helped each other, but forcing a working daughter-in-law to wait on others for confinement will make anyone feel that her mother-in-law is real and eccentric, which will lead to family alienation. On the other hand, the way the mother-in-law was rejected was quite inappropriate. Although the daughter-in-law is one of her own when she marries her own family, it is not feasible to slap at will. Is there anything you can't say well, but you have to show it to your majesty?

Second, it is necessary to give appropriate help from the perspective of my aunt, but we should also pay attention to a certain degree. For the requested daughter-in-law, it is understandable to refuse her mother-in-law's request. After all, she has a job, not a full-time nanny. She has done what her sister-in-law should do when she is free on weekdays. If she goes too far, she can only suffer and get hurt.

Comparatively speaking, my mother-in-law probably didn't take this daughter-in-law seriously before making such a request. If you blindly agree to your mother-in-law's request, you will face more unreasonable demands in your later life, but if you do too much, others will not appreciate it, and you will only feel that there is an available servant at home.

Third, the best solution is to hire a nanny. I'm afraid my mother-in-law made such a request because she didn't want to take care of it and wanted to pass on what she didn't want to do to another daughter-in-law through the coercion of her elders. I can only say that her abacus is really good. If she meets a daughter-in-law with a little Microsoft personality, I'm afraid she will agree to this request.

In fact, this matter is very easy to handle. Let my sister-in-law's husband ask the nanny to solve it. Daughter-in-law should find a way to solve it even if she is too busy to work. Taking care of relatives will not only owe people feelings, but also cause many contradictions. It will save a sum of money in the short term, but in the long run, it is not conducive to family harmony.