* * * Always thinking about yourself and talking about others.

Grandpa and grandson bought a donkey. When grandpa let his grandson ride away, others said that his grandson didn't know filial piety. Grandson let grandpa ride away, and some people accused him of not loving his grandson; The grandparents and grandchildren simply stopped riding, and some people laughed that they were fools not to ride donkeys; Grandparents and grandchildren are riding on the donkey's back at the same time, and some people accuse them of not caring for animals. As a result, the helpless grandfather and grandson had to tie up the donkey and carry it away.

Indeed, the so-called "right and wrong" itself is extremely boring and meaningless. Those who like to gossip behind others' backs are often the most hateful people. It is not a gentleman's wind to talk about others behind their backs. You should be aboveboard, say something to your face, and don't do anything behind your back. You know, gossiping blindly not only harms others, but also harms yourself, which is not good for yourself, but makes people look down upon it.

Some people talk about others behind their backs out of boredom, regard talking about others as a pastime, and never consider what consequences their remarks will bring to others. In fact, such people sometimes have no bad intentions, just want to speak quickly. But the speaker is unintentional, but the listener may be interested. Inadvertently said words are likely to be taken out of context by the intentional person, used as a weapon to attack the person being discussed, or even bite back and accuse the unintentional person. In the end, unintentional became intentional, and I can't tell with my mouth. What's more, everything should be treated dialectically, and the taste of being discussed is unpleasant. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." Why impose what you don't want to accept on others?

There is a saying in China: "It's better to curse before people than to say after them." If someone else has shortcomings and deficiencies, you can point them out to his face and ask him to correct them, but never say them to his face and talk endlessly behind his back. We should always remember: "Take care of yourself and don't blame others" and be an upright person. The remembrance of the past is the teacher of the future

According to legend, there is a "fairy house" on the top of the mountain in the deep forest. One day, a young man came from far away to visit the sage of "Xianrenju", hoping to worship him as a teacher and get good results. The young man walked into the deep mountains for a long time. He's confused. There are three forks leading to different places. The young man doesn't know which way can lead to the top of the mountain.

Suddenly, the young man saw an old monk taking a nap by the roadside, so he stepped forward, quietly woke the old monk and asked the way to the top of the mountain. The old monk bleakly muttered "Left" and fell asleep again. The young man walked to the top of the mountain from the path on the left. After walking for a long time, the road suddenly disappeared into a forest, so the young man had to go back the same way. Back at the fork in the road, I saw the old monk still sleeping, and the young man went forward to ask for directions. The old monk stretched himself comfortably, said "left" and ignored him again. The young man was about to tell, but on second thought, maybe the old monk said "left" from the angle of going down the mountain. So he walked up the hill along the road on the right. After walking for a long time, the road in front of me disappeared again, leaving only a forest. The young man had to retrace his steps.

Back at the fork in the road, I saw the old monk asleep again, and the young man didn't fight. So I pushed the old monk forward and woke him up. I asked, "You are an old man, why did you lie to me? I left the road on the left, and I left the road on the right. Neither road can lead to the top of the mountain. Which way can I take to the top of the mountain? " The old monk smiled and said, "The road on the left is impassable, and neither is the road on the right. Which way do you think you can go? " ? Do you still need to ask such a simple question? "

The young man realized that he should take the middle road. But he always wondered why the old monk always said "Left". With full of doubts, the young man came to the "fairy residence". He knelt down and kowtowed devoutly, and the saint looked at him with a smile. It turns out that the sage is the old monk at the fork in the road.

The story is simple, but rich in connotation. What we have experienced before should be used as a guide for our current actions, and we should take the past as a mirror to show success or failure. We shouldn't spend our lives in confusion and confusion.

In Du Mu's Gong Fang Fu, "Qin people have no time to mourn for themselves, and later people mourn for them; Later generations mourn for it without learning lessons, and also make later generations mourn for future generations. " This sentence tells the truth that "the past is not forgotten, and the future is a teacher." The ancients said: "With copper as a mirror, you can dress your clothes;" Take man as a mirror, you can know the gains and losses; take history as a mirror, you can know the rise and fall. "Taking history as a mirror, we can find the criteria for doing things, see the gains and losses of the past, and plan the future direction.