To talk about others is to talk about yourself.

There is something wrong with girls, but they never miss it. When I was a child, no matter what mistakes I made or what happened, such as breaking a cup, soiling my clothes or losing something, I would make excuses, saying that my mother asked me to take it, that someone else did it, and so on. Anyway, it is someone else's fault, not her responsibility. Every time she says it's someone else's fault, I always say that she is "talking about others means talking about herself".

The result and consequence is that for so many years, she always remembers this sentence, but basically forgets what I taught her to grow up.

Later, if she is said to be stupid, lazy, stupid, bad-tempered, and unwilling to study, she will calmly reply that "talking about others means talking about herself." I suddenly feel that this sentence has infinite power. If it's like a shield, keep back what I spilled to myself.

Think for yourself, really, talking about others means talking about yourself.

For example, a prostitute is lazy, but she is actually lazier. Going home is like Ge You lying down. My daughter doesn't like to take the initiative to find friends to play, and so do I. I usually read and write at home and seldom take the initiative to invite friends to dinner and chat. My daughter sometimes loses her temper, and sometimes I can't control the power of the wild in my body. When I am angry, I have a heart to scold my mother.

To talk about others is to talk about yourself. What's more, this "other person" has too many shadows of himself.

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When I was a child, I read the martial arts novel "Dragon Eight Branches" by Mr. Jin Yong. I admire "North Qiao Feng" very much, but I envy "South Murong" Mu Rongfu even more. Mu Rongfu of Gusu has a family background, and his martial arts are unparalleled. He is knowledgeable and versatile. With a set of ancestral martial arts, he can compete with Ding Chunqiu and others who have been roaming the rivers and lakes for decades. The purpose of his "changing stars" kung fu is to "deal with a man as he deals with you". When an opponent attacks himself with a unique stunt, he will turn his tricks around and use the skill of "changing stars" to hit him back, so that he will be defeated by his own tricks, and sometimes even let his opponent die under his famous stunt.

At that time, if I had thought, I would have dominated the Wulin and dominated the world.

Now that I think about it, when I say others, I mean myself, that is, "I gave my last turn to others", that is, "Gan Kun made a big move" and "changed stars", that is, "give me another hand."

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Su Shi, a super network celebrity in Song Dynasty, even the emperor and empress were his fans. There are many folk versions of funny stories about him and Song Xiaomei.

There is also a story about him and Fo Yin. He later preferred to talk about Buddhism and Taoism, and maintained a good relationship with Jackson Fo Yin. In today's words, these two people are a pair of bad friends who love each other and kill each other.

One day, Su Shi visited Fo Yin and asked, "What do you think I am?" Fo Yin said, "I think you are a Buddha." When Su Shi listened, Fo Yin asked Su Shi again, "What do you think I am?" Su Shi wanted to have a hard time with Fo Yin and said, "I think you are a piece of shit." Fo Yin remained silent after hearing this. So Su Shi proudly ran home to see Su Xiaomei and boasted to her how she was choked by Jackson Fo Yin today. Su Xiaomei listened to keep shake head, said, "brother, your realm is too low. Fo Yin has a Buddha in his heart, and everything is a Buddha. You have shit in your heart, so watching others is shit. "

Haha, talking about others means talking about yourself.

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Because of my work, I have to edit magazines at the end of each month and read so many contributions from my mailbox. Some manuscripts are very happy and absolutely angry after reading them. I think this little guy writes well. Sometimes there is no desire to look at the title and go in to see the specific content. Some manuscripts have good titles, but when they go in, they find that the subtitles are not clear, and the text coherence and logic are not enough. It's too difficult to change, which means you have to help him rewrite it. If you don't change it, the idea is quite novel. It's a pity to lose it. It's really chicken ribs After reading it, I was still sulking there alone. Do you want to change it?

Looking back on the past, many years ago, I just wrote materials, slowly contributed to newspapers and periodicals, and also published some small tofu pieces, and gradually felt a little self-expanding. After one submission, the editor of Procuratorate Daily contacted me and said that she had been transferred. She gave the manuscript to her colleagues. Before leaving, she suggested that I should write in a simpler style and not be so wordy. At that time, I didn't understand it very well, but I felt that my writing was ok, so that the problem of talking too much persisted and was not eradicated.

Later, I changed jobs and started studying from scratch. The materials written are basically running for half a day in the Fourth Ring Road and Fifth Ring Road. It seems to say a lot, but it is of little use. Now evaluate your own materials. To put it mildly, it is not reliable; To put it mildly, it's rubbish. How can you write a good manuscript if you are unfamiliar with business, have a poor understanding of work and are innovative? When leaders take it, they often start a new stove and leave headlines at last. Every time I write a manuscript, it is a process of letting brain cells charge and die in the battlefield again and again. Looking back now, at that time, the leaders put the manuscript aside without criticism, which was enough to save face and attach importance to the enthusiasm of protection work. Only at that time, I couldn't understand the difficulties of the leaders, and I couldn't understand the growth and tempering in the revision.

So, if you change someone else's manuscript now, the scene will be the same as in the past. Change it if you can, or tell others how to change it.

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To talk about others is to talk about yourself.

Why talk about others? There are many reasons, or kind reminders, to hope that others will get better; Or malicious reminders, watching people laugh; Or hide your shortcomings and publicize your strengths. Because the flashlight of Marxism shines on others but not on itself. It's easy to talk about others, but it's also easy to find their shortcomings. It is difficult to find your own shortcomings, and it is also difficult to say that you are.

Why are you talking about yourself? Because others are mirrors, which can reflect our shortcomings and sufferings, and make us "dress up and take a bath to cure diseases". Criticism and self-criticism, praise and self-praise, others are mirrors, in which you can see yourself. But I am a javelin, and if I say a lot of things I shouldn't say, it will easily hurt others and eventually hurt myself. So, remember people's good, forget people's mistakes, remember people's strengths, forget people's shortcomings, and respect others is to respect yourself.

To talk about others is to talk about yourself. If translated into ancient Chinese, there are many tall sentences. For example, Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching said, "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear. The winner is strong and the loser is strong. " Mozi did not attack: "A gentleman looks at people rather than water. Mirror in the water, meet each other late; Look at people and you will know good or bad. " In the Biography of Wei Zhi in the Old Tang Dynasty, Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, commented on Wei Zhi: "With copper as a mirror, you can dress your clothes; Taking history as a mirror, we can know the rise and fall; Taking people as a mirror, you can understand the gains and losses. " In "Caigen Tan", "Think about your mistakes behind closed doors and talk about the rights and wrongs of people".

To borrow the words of Carnegie, a famous western man, "discover yourself". It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others. People's life has always been a process of discovering themselves, their own advantages and disadvantages, discovering themselves and changing themselves. Especially in the case of birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups. In fact, evaluating the people around you is your own mark.

So, talking about others means talking about yourself. We should adhere to the combination of criticism and self-criticism, praise and self-praise, and benefit others at the expense of others. Only in this way can we make everyone happy and make life better.

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