If you don't want to be an older woman, what four attitudes should you learn about love?

Zhang Ailing said: "I want you to know that there is always someone waiting for you in this world. No matter when and where, you know, there is always such a person."

Do you believe that there is always someone waiting for you in this world?

I used to hear people say that everyone who should come is on the way and has to wait. Later, a little sister said to me, "I have been waiting for 30 years, from a little girl to an old girl, and he hasn't come."

Although this is a joke, it just shows a big problem for girls now, that is, the problem of older women.

I think for girls, no one wants to be an older woman. Every girl is especially looking forward to the day when she wears white gauze, but marriage is not a child's play, so many people would rather be arrogant and single than make do with it.

Many girls are lamenting that love is not easy, even considering that they want to die alone. In fact, it's not that serious, maybe it's just that your thoughts and attitudes towards love have deviated.

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So, what four kinds of mentality should girls have to take off their bills? If you don't want to be an older woman, you should learn to treat love with these four attitudes.

First: initiative will lead to stories.

The Book of Songs says, "My Fair Lady, please help yourself." It means meeting a beautiful girl, and the boy wants to pursue this girl day and night. In many people's traditional thinking, boys should actively pursue girls, and girls should be reserved.

But according to the present situation, girls can't continue to be passive, and sometimes they have to take the initiative, just like that sentence: if you take the initiative, you will have a story.

There are many examples of women chasing men now, such as Nana. Nana is now the winner of life, twin mother, successful career and happy marriage.

Some people will say that girls' initiative will not be taken seriously, which is a wrong idea. The reason why girls' initiative is not taken seriously is because girls give their sincerity to the wrong person. If you give your initiative and sincerity to the right person, maybe you are happier than Nana.

What is the right person? When you take the initiative to take ninety-nine steps to him, he only takes one step, but he will hug you and say, "You are finally here."

Girls are not ashamed to take the initiative, but they are ashamed to post backwards. It is cool for girls to take the initiative for their own happiness. So when you meet someone you like, take the initiative. Maybe you won't succeed if you take the initiative, but you will regret if you don't.

Failure is nothing compared with regret. At least you have a story with him. What if it succeeds?

Second: Self-confidence is the greatest charm of girls.

I found that many friends and classmates around me were not confident enough and even a little inferior.

Because when chatting, they will say, "I'm nothing special, and those excellent boys don't like me at all." In fact, for a girl, self-confidence is very important, and confident girls are more attractive.

Many girls have never taken off their orders because they are not confident enough or feel too inferior. Girls must not feel inferior, no boy will like timid girls.

If you like someone, you will perfect this person. This is a person's normal psychology. Maybe a good boy is nothing special in your eyes. He is just an ordinary man. So, don't think too badly of yourself, in fact, you are also very good.

As a girl, we must have confidence and be sure of ourselves. If you don't take yourself seriously, who do you expect to take you seriously? Therefore, the premise for girls to meet love is self-confidence and always believe that I am good enough.

Third: know how to cherish and don't be too picky.

This sentence is one of the reasons why older women are left behind. Some girls are like this. Those with particularly good conditions will not like her, and those with ordinary conditions will not like her, so she has always been dissatisfied with herself. In the end, she has to be a leftover woman.

For girls, married people must satisfy themselves, so as to be happy. I also agree with this sentence. But what is contentment? He must be rich, handsome, kind to you, successful in his career and so on.

Maybe the person you marry can have some of them, but you can never have them all, because no one is perfect. Many girls are also overconfident, that is, conceited, and she will feel that those boys are not worthy of her.

If you don't want to die alone, you should change your requirements for your future partner and don't be too picky. There is a saying that contentment is always a joy. People who know how to be content will live happily, and they also know how to cherish and cherish those who really treat you well and love you.

If you are always too picky, you will find that the people behind you are getting worse and worse. The saying that the best is left at the end will really hurt you.

Fourth: Maybe appropriateness is more important than love.

Many girls have had the dream of Prince Charming. In fact, everyone is eager for love, hoping to meet true love and spend the rest of their lives together.

However, Prince Charming is written in a fairy tale book. When I grow up, I find that many marriages and happiness in real life are not because of love at first, but because of suitability.

It is said that as long as two people really love each other, all external conditions will not be resistance, because we often ignore the essence of marriage. Marriage is the combination of two families, and it is no longer just a matter for two people.

So in a relationship or marriage, appropriateness is more important than love.

Men and women in Korean dramas are always very sweet, and their love is really enviable. If you can have that kind of love, it's really good. It can be said that this life is worthwhile. However, TV plays are TV plays after all. We are all people in real life. After fantasy, we should return to reality and live a good life.

So, don't have the psychology that I will die alone without love. The person you once fell in love with, didn't you fall in love? You love each other very much, but it's over, and it's not over yet, is it

Because you always have a lot of differences that cannot be eliminated, in fact, in the process of finding the other half, appropriateness is more important than love.

So, don't continue the love theory, find a suitable person, and then walk hand in hand, you will find that being with the right person is happier than being with the wrong person. It is only a matter of time before two suitable people come together, and there will always be love slowly.

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Maybe you think it doesn't matter if you die alone now, because you are still young.

Although you say it doesn't matter whether you are married or not, you must still have expectations for love or marriage in your heart.

People always get old, and no one likes loneliness. It would be a tragedy to die alone. So believe in love while you are young, meet love, and protect love, so as not to waste this life.