Psychology, how to not be annoying

How to not be annoying

(Do these 12 points and you will not be annoying)

1. Get rid of the problem of speaking openly

"When there is a saying that is not appropriate to say," simply don't say it. Think before you speak, especially in front of people who don't understand your personality, and try to be restrained and calm. If it's too cold, warm it up a bit before saying it; if it's too extreme, say it in a calmer way. Before you make a joke, think about whether others will feel comfortable hearing it and whether they can laugh. Otherwise, you will be a joke in the eyes of others.

2. Control the desire to show off

The more you like to show off in front of others, the more you tend to make people unhappy. Facts have proven that showing off does no good except making enemies, causing trouble, and drawing hatred. You must believe that if a person is awesome enough, others will definitely see it. The fault of people is that they like to be teachers. The more they talk unforgivingly all day long and behave in various high-profile and competitive ways, they will not have much future.

3. Don’t make promises easily, and do what you say.

Don’t make promises easily, and don’t agree to others’ requests easily. When someone asks you for help, think about it first and then discuss it before agreeing. Don't agree without even hearing the words, only to screw up in the end. It is easy not to borrow money, and it is easy not to lend it to others. Borrowing money is very emotional. If you must borrow, be sure to agree in advance when you will pay it back, take the initiative to pay it back when it is due, and add some compensation to others, or buy a gift as a gift.

4. Don’t be arrogant and learn to think from other people’s perspective

A girl who is arrogant and wants others to put her first in everything, but has no empathy, is really likeable. Can't get up. Putting yourself in others’ shoes and understanding others is the most important thing. This does not mean that you should become self-sacrificing, but that you should think about the problem from the other person's perspective and understand and consider the other person's difficulties. In short, if you treat others gently, others will also give you spring breeze.

5. Don’t tell your difficulties and experiences to everyone you meet

Crying about poverty, misery, and a glassy heart will not solve any problems. They will only spread your troubles and negative energy to others. people around. You must know that only sunny and cheerful people can attract the favor and closeness of others. Just know and digest your own misfortunes. Many people are too busy to take care of themselves, and there is no reason to help you solve your problems.

6. Don’t gossip behind your back

Many people like to talk trash and gossip. Don’t do this! Especially if you are in the same circle, after you finish speaking, the other person’s ears will be spread. When there are many people, there is also a lot of right and wrong. Take care of your mouth, don't talk nonsense, and know what kind of words to say on what occasion. If you don't worry about yourself, others will never worry about you.

7. Beautiful and self-aware but not revealing

A lovely woman must be natural, true and sincere. She is beautiful and self-aware, but does not deliberately show off her edge. She will not use her beauty to gain a sense of presence in her circle of friends, nor will she use her beauty to "find convenience" or "take advantage" for herself. Be frank and sincere, don’t pretend, and show the most authentic and natural version of yourself to those around you.

8. Dress appropriately and behave appropriately

The way a person dresses determines the first visual impression he leaves on others. If you are slovenly, don’t blame others for having a bad impression of you. Don't wear clothes that others think are weird just to attract attention. Words and deeds are the expression of a person's temperament. Don't shake your head when speaking, sit crookedly and squint your eyes, don't swear, and don't tell dirty jokes to the opposite sex. The most important thing is to be polite and polite when communicating with others.

9. Gentleness has edges, kindness has edge

Gentle and kind girls are never disliked, but gentleness does not mean obedience, and kindness does not mean tolerance without boundaries. This will make you Become a bad guy. When interacting with others, your kindness and gentleness should grow teeth, with a bit of edge and edge. After all, not everyone in this world knows how to be grateful. The better you talk, the more arrogant they will be, and your kindness and gentleness will become their serious responsibility.

10. Accept yourself as an ordinary person

Accepting yourself as an ordinary person is the first step to becoming extraordinary. Some people are afraid of being ordinary in life, so they try their best to disguise themselves. As everyone knows, growing up with heart is to shake hands with this increasingly dull life. Accept the fact that you are an ordinary person, and you will not become eager for quick success because of your slow pace. In the world of people, everyone supports each other and moves forward, which is the real world.

11. Admit that you are not that important to others

Perhaps you have been timid because of standing on the podium and depressed because of a certain speech, but in the end you found that you were not that important. Not many people care about your performance. Don’t be afraid to let others see your flaws, edges, and darkness, and don’t be distracted by an audience that doesn’t exist. Act out the script of your life that doesn’t fit you. When you let go of this self-imposed psychological pressure, you will live more calmly and freely.

12. No matter what happens, control your emotions first

Don’t turn the first step to solving a problem into venting your emotions. Don’t panic when something happens, stabilize your emotions first, and then deal with the problem. For things that have become a foregone conclusion, do not complain or entangle too much, accept the reality and immediately think of countermeasures to solve it. Who can hate a girl who is emotionally stable and focused on solving problems?