The stronger a person is, the gentler he is. Four signs of a person's inner strength.

A person with a strong heart will never be easily defeated.

Some time ago, a friend told me that a girl she knew actually wanted to take her own life.

"Her life is too hard. When she was very young, her mother abandoned them and left. When she was in middle school, her father died of a serious illness. Then the two younger brothers lost their ability to live in a car accident. The reason why she works hard every day is to earn more money to take care of her family. "

I have met this girl. She is outgoing, careless, good at cooking and especially likes reading. She can talk about the philosophy of life from poems and songs, or talk to you about the mysterious outer space and the most popular jokes now.

you can't see anything that can crush a person happening to her.

"After ten years like this, maybe she is really tired. She did something stupid when she couldn't remember. Fortunately, she was saved. Fortunately, "

after listening, I was relieved. Although this is someone else's story, it is not the epitome of life.

People's life is so long, many things come uninvited without saying a word, and many unbearable burdens of life are on our shoulders. Without a strong heart, it is difficult for us to go through this life peacefully.

so what's it like to have a really strong heart in life?

people with strong hearts only live at their own pace

I have a cousin who is 3 years old and single.

Her parents were worried that she could not get married. Many people told her, "It's almost enough. Don't be too picky."

She persisted for a long time, occasionally wavering: "Should we just find someone to marry?"

But last year, she finally met the other half she likes, and he has everything he likes. A year later, they got married. On the wedding day, she said,

"I always believed that I would meet the right person. It's not too late to be 3 Life has just begun. "

yes, when we are 2 to 3 years old, we are always afraid that it will be too late. Friends of the same age have reached the peak of their lives, and you are still working overtime until late at night.

Otherwise, others will get married and have children early and step into the so-called "correct" life track, but you don't even know where the other half is.

it seems that everything is one step behind, and nothing can compare with it.

"It's too late to catch up!"

So, when you see someone else signing up for class, you also immediately rush to register for fear of falling behind; Seeing that others have found a good job, you also want to quit and find a better one; Seeing others travel around the world, you are also wondering whether to quit your job and become a travel blogger.

However, blindly following other people's life path will not usher in your ideal life. When the world panics, so does your heart.

People with strong hearts never judge themselves by external standards. They have their own rhythm and know when to do something.

They know exactly what they want and will face many choices and variables, so every choice they make follows their own heart. They just need to work hard and wait quietly, and everything will come naturally.

A person with a strong heart dares to step out of the comfort zone

In the recently hit movie Dying to Survive, Eric Wang, the actor of Lu Huizhong, impressed the audience. After leaving the cinema, everyone was moved by his performance and said, "Eric Wang is no longer Sekitani Kamiki."

But what we didn't know was that Eric Wang ate 44 steamed buns in a row, vomited twice, and then ate five bowls of noodles that night.

In order to play the role of leukemia patient, he insisted on skipping rope 8 times a day and stayed in the hospital for two whole nights, losing 2 pounds.

It's easy to make money in the sequel to ipartment, but why did Eric Wang choose Lu Yi to play such a hard role?

The reason is simple: He doesn't want to be "Sekitani Kamiki" anymore, he wants to be a better Eric Wang.

So he went to the drama studio to help people read the script for free and reported it to the director's class.

Later, everyone remembered the nameless horse on the beach in Romance: Eric Wang, with long hair and beard, who spoke standard Shanghainese dialect, fierce and human.

but many fans don't buy it. They missed Sekitani Kamiki and even left him a message: > "Can you give us an explanation after filming" Love Apartment 5 "? ..... shave your beard, cut your hair short, and continue to be our valley. "

Eric Wang has his own insistence: "Be what you want to be, not what they want."

It's certainly comfortable to be stable in this world, but there are always many people like Eric Wang who prefer uneven roads.

Because they know that the comfort zone in life is like one comfortable pigsty after another. Once you fall into it, it looks good. You eat, drink and wallow in mud, but you have to pay for all the comfort.

Life is changing all the time. When the change comes, people who never dare to step out of their comfort zone will slowly lose their fighting power and have to wait quietly to be eliminated.

The reason why people with strong inner feelings will never encounter the moment of being at a loss, collapse and hesitation is because they deeply understand the principle of survival of the fittest. Even if they know that they will suffer pain and doubt, they will stride forward and never look back.

People with strong hearts are good at subtraction.

I am a typical woman who likes to chop hands.

For example, I wanted to spend a few minutes cooking breakfast, so I bought a bread machine and a coffee machine, but I used them only a handful of times.

For example, I wanted to learn how to make snacks and bought an oven, but so far I have failed to make one.

For example, when you go to the supermarket and see beautiful plates and bowls, you find that there is no chance for them to appear.

For another example, "There is always a piece of clothing in the closet", so I want to buy it no matter whether it is suitable or not, as long as it looks good. As a result, I still can't find clothes to wear every day.

Those things that I thought would improve my quality of life have made my life more and more crowded and messy.

Liu Yu wrote in A Bullet for You:

"Every identity of a person is a kind of self-kidnapping, and only loss is the way to freedom."

The reason why people with strong hearts know how to give up and subtract from life is because they accept themselves from their hearts, and they understand that their sense of security depends on themselves, not on things.

The stronger the person, the gentler

In the movie "Love each other", my favorite character is Joe, who fell victim to an arranged marriage.

Before her husband died, she guarded her hometown alone, and after her death, she guarded his grave, and even made a coffin early to be buried with him. She planned everything, but she didn't expect that her husband had reorganized his family in the city before his death.

Yue Huiying is the daughter born after the reorganization of the family. She insists on moving her father's grave to the city and being buried with her mother.

Azu didn't agree to move the grave. She decided that her husband loved her, and she stubbornly resisted the grave-moving team that flooded into the village without fear.

Until the end of the movie, she finally saw a photo of her husband living with another woman, which was full of happiness that she had never had. She was relieved and agreed to move the grave.

On the day of moving the grave, Azu said to her husband's remains, "I don't want you", which made people burst into tears.

Azu, who has been strong all her life, has the courage to face the world and the perseverance to face a lonely life, but she still gives in before love. Rather than giving in before love, this concession makes her stronger, and this strength is still love in the final analysis.

does a person's inner strength mean that his heart becomes hard? That's not true.

Nothing is more magical than gentleness. The stronger a person is, the gentler he is.

People with strong inner feelings have experienced the baptism of life and seen all kinds of life. They know that tears and anger are useless to solve things, but bared their teeth and exposed their vulnerability. Only gentleness and peace are the power to resolve contradictions and sorrows.

I always believe that the strength of human beings never depends on the body and matter, but on the heart.

Only when a person is strong inside, external things can no longer easily shake you and knock you down.

I wish you to be a man with a strong heart and bravely resist the torrent of life.