Xu Zhimo, I never thought you were such a person. ...

Xu zhimo is not a good husband? That's for Zhang Youyi.

As for Lu Xiaoman, he satisfied all my imagination of a good man.

Don't believe it? Let's see. ...

Xu Zhimo is not bad-looking, with pictures and truth, and he will never fall behind when he takes it out.

I remember that the weather was extremely cold that day. The poet wore a gray silk cotton robe, a dark gray coat and wide-brimmed glasses, and was graceful.

Not only looks, but also manners. Liang Shiqiu once commented on Xu Zhimo:

He doesn't drink enough; He is quick-witted and non-aggressive: he likes joking and never hurts others; he drinks and entertains others and never misses anyone.

Liang Shiqiu has a high spirit, but he admires Xu Zhimo. It is in the details of communication that his demeanor is seen.

Xu Zhimo is a typical rich second generation. His father Xu Shenru is an industrialist and the richest man in Haining, Shi Xia.

However, since Xu Zhimo insisted on marrying Lu Xiaoman, which made them resentful, the Xu family cut off all financial support for the newlyweds.

But the point is that, despite this, a young artist supported Lu Xiaoman's huge economic expenditure and maintained her extremely luxurious life as a rich woman by her own efforts.

How luxurious is life in Lu Xiaoman? She rents a garden villa, has a private car and needs 14 servants to be busy; Besides, she is in poor health and smoking opium is a huge expense.

How does Xu Zhimo maintain it? He shuttled through Beijing, Shanghai and Nanjing like a tent in the wind, and taught part-time in four colleges and universities at the same time. He worked hard to write manuscripts in the rest of the time, and then gave all his income.

Xu Zhimo's talent as a poet is world-famous. But despite the label of poet, this person is actually quite informative.

Xu Zhimo was a super scholar since he was a child. 13 years old, graduated from Shixia Kaizhi School with the best results in the whole school, was admitted to the famous Hangfu, and has always been the best student in Hangfu.

He studied in the United States, studied banking and sociology, and graduated from Clark University with first-class honors. Then transfer to Columbia College, study for a master's degree in political science, and graduate with honors. ...

What's good for women if men are talented? I mentioned a point in an article before: the ideal state of a man and a woman is that he is one head ahead of you, with wider knowledge, wider mind and deeper thoughts ... You can always look up at him with admiration, and he can always tolerate you with condescension.

Xu Zhimo is such a man who can let you look around and take you to grow up in minutes in daily communication.

Someone once commented on Xu Zhimo's love choice: he likes a well-educated woman, who is charming and intelligent and can ignite his romantic and poetic heart and passion.

Similarly, his poetic heart and romance also nourish a woman's appearance and soul.

From knowing Lu Xiaoman to getting married for five years, even if he quarrels and leaves angrily, he will write her a long letter, telling her about his life, his heart and his care as long as he is not with her.

And at the beginning of each letter, he will use the most intimate and sweet names: "I love eyebrows", "I love eyebrows", "I love dragons" and "I love eyebrows" ... without reservation, he will pour his affection.

Men should never think that there is no need for vanity in real life. This kind of warmth is like a dose of natural caffeine peptide, which can make women feel loved for one second, thus making them more confident, happier and younger.

Besides, Xu Zhimo's little romance and affection are not only expressed by words and letters.

Once he went south, he sent Lu Xiaoman a "plum blossom letter without words" and a jasper sachet, thinking about how pure and happy she would be when she received it.

Knowing that Xiaoman likes exquisite little things, he often makes friends go to great trouble to buy silk handkerchiefs, purses and other things from abroad.

He likes to light up their lives with surprises and romantic makeup.

However, as we all know, their marriage soon approached the limit of patience from the confliction when they met, to the rift when they were together, and then to the increasing embarrassment.

At first, Xiaoman loved spending money, but Zhimo just complained softly, "How nice that you emptied Zhimo's pocket."

Xiaoman likes go to the opera, and Zhimo likes quiet. Reluctantly, I tried my best to cooperate and accompany her.

There are rumors about Xiaoman and Weng Wurui, and only he always believes them. He said, "The opium couch, seemingly close, is actually the most disciplined and innocent."

A letter may provide a glimpse of their problems and attitudes at that time. 23:

? ..... you can't throw the letter away. I thought of your embarrassment, so I didn't have the courage to write you a good letter. When I went to Europe, America and India three years ago, where did all those 90 letters go? That was the only gain from my trip, and now it's gone. You must improve your temper, my wife, or you will lose your master in the future.

? Don't you miss me at all when I leave? Letting me be with you now is an exception. You just eat all day, from getting up to sleeping to sleeping. Maybe you want mango or foreign ginkgo more deeply and urgently than you want the owner. The master is a cow, and his only use is to earn money by working, which is also somewhat pitiful: the cow has to attend classes to make up lessons in the past two weeks, and no one can be there at night. There is no Shu Tai in my heart.

? -(Xu Zhimo to Lu Xiaoman)

What you say, you can't just look at Zhimo's one-sided story, it depends on what Xiaoman says. However, Zhimo mentioned in a letter with Hu Shi, "Xiaoman said that short messages are boring, and long letters are not strong enough to write, which is not cool." It turns out that in the past five years, there have been countless letters, mostly yellow cranes, which are rare in Yan State.

When Shima came back, he saw Xiaoman lying in the same bed with another man, drunk as mud, dreaming of life and death. He left home in anger and traveled abroad.

The ship is sailing in the Pacific Ocean, and the stone horse is writing letters on the ship. His heart still didn't let her go:

Being on the boat is an excellent opportunity for reflection. The more I think about it, the more I think it is necessary for us to realize this. This rambling life in Shanghai is really unacceptable. I have to cure your body first, and then set a standard to open up a new world and do something that others can't do.

-(Xu Zhimo to Lu Xiaoman)

In fact, from the beginning, he had the heart to inspire her to make progress. In his eyes, Xiaoman is not only beautiful and charming, but also more talented. He believes that as long as she works hard, she will certainly achieve good artistic achievements. At that time, this criticized extramarital affair will have positive significance.

Although Xiaoman is not what he expected, he still tries his best to encourage her to calm down and reflect on her consciousness, read and learn painting every day, and her mental outlook is brand-new.

In fact, Mozi's painstaking efforts to Xiaoman didn't fail, but it was too late ... He was naturally pampered like her and didn't live the life he wanted until his lover died.

When their home became half an opium den, Weng Wurui became a master.

When friends suggested that Xu Zhimo leave Lu Xiaoman, even traditionalists who had always believed that "it is better to tear down a temple than ruin a marriage" echoed this suggestion, but Xu Zhimo was unwilling to adopt it.

From beginning to end, he never gave up.

Someone will surely say: If Xu Zhimo is so good, why is he so mean to Zhang Youyi?

The answer is actually very simple. In the explosive articles about love, there is a common sentence: he doesn't deserve you because he doesn't love you.

Someone will surely ask: Since he loves Lu Xiaoman deeply, why is he still thinking about Lin?

Zhang Ailing, who has the best insight into human nature, once said: Every man has two roses in his heart, a red rose and a white rose ... The reason why this sentence is regarded as a classic naturally has profound truth that cannot be answered in human nature, but it is widely recognized.

Someone will definitely jump out and say: In fact, Xu Zhimo also has many shortcomings. For example, it is not enough to live in the clouds, for example, you should not hurt the original match, for example, you should be suspected of being a playboy, for example, your talent is negative. ...

Yes, maybe both are true.

However, since you like his romance, don't blame him for being childish and willful; Since you like his poems, don't blame him for always drifting with the flow; Since you like his enthusiasm, don't blame him for his enthusiasm for everyone. ...

Wen | Xiaofupo

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