Chatting skills for boys to chase girls, what chat mistakes should not be made

1 Straightforward

Are you free to have dinner together today? "(Too anxious, no foreshadowing, girls generally don't like it, but of course there are some very masculine ones who are willing.)

2. Household registration management type

"Hello, my name is x, works in yyy, is from zzz, nice to meet you. "(This is not like a human being, but a computer program.) 3. Asking for help

"Tomorrow's minimum temperature is 1 degree, and the maximum temperature is 13 degrees. If you care about the weather, you care about yourself. Don't forget to add an extra layer of clothes.

Yo. "(Do we know each other that well?)

4. Live joke type

"The chimpanzee accidentally stepped on the poop of the gibbon, and the gibbon gently and carefully helped it clean it. They fell in love. When others asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape dung! It’s all ape dung! "(Forwarding humorous text messages is a low-level performance of making people laugh)

5. Self-absorbed type

"If one day you feel tired, just turn around and my blessings will come to you. By your side, no matter how far away you are, no matter how many years, this blessing turns into little blue stars, shining in the morning light, shining in the sunset, and shining in every inch of your life. "(Crazy!) 6. The endless questioning type

"What to do? " (Watching TV) "What program are you watching

? "(If You Are the One) "Is it interesting? "(Okay) "What are you going to do after reading this? "Fang finally stopped replying to text messages)

7. What's more, he even used English

＂ "hi, what are you doing now, close your

eyes, i will be here by your side, miss you day and night! "

If you have done any of the above stupid things, please read on.

Conversation is the most common, but often the most skillful way of communication between people.< /p>

Speak slowly, think quickly, and decide decisively.

Many times, we know that striking up a conversation is the easiest way to find true love.

Whether it is a chat in real life or a social software, the sense of security will not be very high, so it is not suitable to enter the pursuit process immediately after getting acquainted.

After we add the other party’s WeChat, then it is time. How to correctly start a chat with a girl you don’t know well?

First of all, you need to understand the differences in thinking between the sexes. Seeking common ground while reserving differences is the most basic thing.

For example, it’s millions of years old. Most of the time, the men quietly waited for prey in the grass, and the women chatted while taking care of their children in the cave.

The men cooperated with each other because of their clear goals. After the discussion, they started in silence. Action;

Women and women get together because of the same situation, and it is their normal state to talk about each other's status and feelings.

So, men are projective thinking-purposes. Orientation, women are reflective thinking-sharing orientation.

To this day, we will also see that two men can spend an entire afternoon squatting by the pond without saying a word;

Two women go shopping, even if they don’t buy anything, they will chat for the whole day.

Let’s re-watch the chat between the girls, let’s call them Little A and Little. B

Little A: "Yesterday I saw a skirt in Vientiane City. It was very beautiful. "(Seeing something somewhere is a state; being particularly beautiful is a feeling.)

Little B: "I saw a windbreaker in Yintai the day before yesterday, and I really liked it. "(The women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact they are all talking about their own things

Little A is with her boyfriend.

Little A: "Yesterday I saw a skirt in Vientiane City. Extremely beautiful

Boyfriend: "How much?" (Go directly to the problem-solving process)

Men talk to solve problems, and women talk to describe themselves in the problem.

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Men don’t know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because they are influenced by rational thinking.

He will think: Anyway, that is what we are for, or just meet directly; or "give her a gift", which is the so-called showing concern; or "let her know my hunting ability" "How strong is it?" is the so-called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors.

For a woman, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, she will resist the male's purposeful sexual behavior.

However, it is not suitable to pursue a relationship that is initially familiar, so this is the fundamental reason why many strike-ups are unfavorable in the future.

Smooth interactions between the sexes have such a phenomenon: the active party will adapt to the passive party's way of thinking.

As a man, if a woman takes the initiative to throw herself into your arms, then of course you can act according to your own thinking, and she will definitely obey you.

But if you are not very attracted to her yet, you must learn to talk to women in a woman's language.

For example, first understand the other party's status. Common opening remarks:

"What are you doing?" or "Are you busy, how are you doing lately, etc."

Then comprehensively judge the other party’s status based on the speed, content, and tone of the other party’s answer.

Whether she is busy and in the mood to chat.

If you feel that the other party is not in the state, then do not continue to send WeChat messages.

This will ensure that you don’t make mistakes, don’t make people annoying, and you’ll still have a chance in the future.

If you are not sure whether the other party is in the state, for example, the other party replies: "At work."

You can answer like this: "Me too, I am not busy at the moment, and suddenly I remembered If you are interested, just send a WeChat message.

(Introduce your status, add some feelings, and find out your connection.)

Answering like this is both communication and testing. If It doesn't matter if the other party doesn't reply, you didn't make any mistakes.

But as long as the other party is not busy and doesn't hate you, it is usually easy to continue. The girl will usually talk about her situation or tell you. You ask some questions.

For example: "We are always busy and have a business trip next week. "(Describe the status)

You can answer: "I'm envious. I haven't been on a business trip for a long time. It feels boring to stay in one place all the time.

(Status + Feelings)

Maybe she will continue to reply, "Why are you envious? We have a hard time on business trips and have no time to play at all.

(She I also joined in and felt it, which is a good sign of increased communication

)

In short, it’s just a matter of words and trivial matters.

After chatting for a long time, it will become natural, and then the invitation will come naturally.

Remember, always grasp the "state" + "feeling" and look for the connection between you and her. < /p>

It can be the same or different, these can be topics for chatting.

Final points about asking questions:

Don’t ask questions continuously; Keep your distance, talk and ask questions, and avoid giving the other person a pushy feel.

When the other person asks you questions, answer them carefully.

For example, she asked: "Your work is always very difficult." Leisurely?

Take the opportunity to introduce yourself. (Still situation + feeling)

Don’t forget to add “What about you?”

Being friendly will make it easier for the chat to continue.

The ultimate purpose of chatting is to make an appointment with each other.

After all, if you want more stories to happen, you still need to meet in person.

If you share with each other, you can establish a relationship. If you have enough trust, you can start your invitation.

However, it is easy to be rejected by girls!

This is inevitable. Girls are naturally insecure. It’s hard to accept an invitation from a stranger.