How should you answer children's strange questions skillfully?

They have been asking their parents questions since their children babbled. At the age of 3 or 4, children often have strange questions from their mouths, either "what" or "why"

For example:

Dad, what is this "thing"?

Where do clouds come from? Where does the rain come from? Where is the land I come from?

Why is there an earthquake? Why does the sun always follow me? Why are fish not afraid of cold?

A child who loves to ask questions shows that TA is a thoughtful and intelligent person, which is a valuable quality. Many famous scientists have been particularly curious since childhood. Edison loved science since he was a child and wanted to explore everything. Newton was lost in thought because an apple fell on his head; Grandpa Yuan Longping had a great characteristic when he was a child. He likes thinking and asking questions.

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I remember attending a parent-teacher meeting in Komatsu middle school class. A parent asked the teacher such a difficult problem:

My baby has just celebrated his fourth birthday, and recently he feels like a "curious baby" and "a hundred thousand whys". See something you don't know and ask me what it is. Sometimes I don't know how to answer his strange questions. What should I do?

When children grow up, they often have all kinds of questions to ask us, and they are often asked at a loss. Finally found the answer on Baidu, solved the current problem, and they have new problems waiting for us. There are all kinds of answers and endless questions.

Go ahead. Why do children have so many strange questions?

(1) Children's questions are a sign of curiosity and thirst for knowledge.

3-4-year-old children are very curious, and they will show strong concern and interest in the novel and interesting things they like in daily life. But because of my limited knowledge and experience, I can only ask my parents.

When children ask questions, parents should not make excuses to say, "I'm busy now, I'll talk about it later." Or "do you still need to ask such a question? Isn't this obvious? " Even use rude words to seal the child's mouth.

Because children's questions are blocked by adults, curiosity will be hit. After this process is repeated many times, children's thirst for knowledge will decline.

When a child asks questions, no matter how busy his parents are, they should not be disturbed by him. If possible, they should put down what they are doing, kneel down and think about the child's problems with the height of his eyes.

(2) Children keep asking you questions, hoping that parents will stop listening and communicate with TA.

Do we often find that the busier you are, the more children like to ask questions after your ass? What children need is to listen. Stop listening. Actually, TA wants to play with you and have more company.

One night, I worked overtime in front of the computer to read the information. Komatsu later asked, "Dad, have you seen my toy car?" Then he asked, "Dad, what are you reading in the computer?" Later, he asked, "Why can computers generate these data?" So he circled around me and asked a dozen questions in a row.

I think it may be that he is eager for me to play with his toy car now, but he is embarrassed to affect my work. Then I turned off the computer and played with him for half an hour.

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Children often ask some novel questions and like to ask questions, in fact, in order to let children know and explore the world around them. At this stage, the child's cognitive level is limited, and the answer to the question cannot be thrown directly to the child because the child does not understand.

Then, if we can't answer the questions raised by our children and don't want to dampen their desire to explore, what can parents do at this time?

(1) Pay attention to children's problems

It is actually a good thing that children love to ask questions. If the child suddenly doesn't like to ask him, that is the real problem.

Since children can talk, the process of children knowing the world is a process of constantly asking questions. Parents should pay attention to their children's questions and their words and deeds. Children's problems are his thinking chips.

The first thing to do is to stop what you are doing, so that children will feel that you pay special attention to their problems. When the child asks questions, you should squat down or pick up the child, keeping your eyes at the same height as TA.

Learn to listen and make her feel that you are communicating with her on an equal footing. Subconsciously, she is more likely to accept the information you give her and establish effective communication with her children. This is an effective way to stimulate TA's thirst for knowledge and curiosity.

(2) Don't answer questions perfunctory, let alone give wrong explanations.

Sometimes when you are too busy or in a bad mood, you will feel super impatient when facing your child's questions, and you will casually perfunctory your child's questions.

In the morning, on the way to send Komatsu to school, I overheard a conversation between a child and his mother:

Child: Mom, why do we never have an earthquake here?

Mom: There are so many earthquakes, how can we live?

Child: Then why are there frequent earthquakes in some places?

Mom: Go, go, we'll be late.

Children's questions are actually a chip of thinking. I was thinking at that time that children must have been thinking about this question since last night or even longer when they asked such a question early in the morning, but perfunctory parents stifled their thinking and curiosity.

(3) Don't rush to give an answer, use rhetorical questions to guide children to think.

Child: Mom, why do I shrink when I touch mimosa?

Mom: I think it must be good.

Child: Don't let the bugs see it?

Mom: It's possible. What else could it be?

Child: It is telling us, "Don't touch me, you will hurt me if you touch me".

Many times, we can deliberately show ignorance, even to cultivate children's exploratory heart. Even if you know the answer, you can pretend not to know, and you can trigger children to think for themselves through a series of rhetorical questions.

TA thought about answering your question, and my brain began to turn. By constantly asking questions, children can be guided to gradually ask more in-depth questions, so that TA can explore the knowledge behind this natural phenomenon.

(4) Find the answer through experimental operation.

Sometimes, the answers obtained from books or online are often not intuitive, and it is not easy to tell children. You can try to practice with children. This process can make children think more deeply. For example, why does a chair have four legs? It is better to give children a stool with only two or three legs, so that they can see that the chair with two or three legs will fall down and make them unable to sit down.

In this way, TA can understand why a chair needs four legs. After the experiment, you can sit down and discuss with your children and explore for yourself, which is far more impressive than obtaining knowledge directly from textbooks.

(5) What if I don't know the answer?

Our parents have encountered such a problem, that is, children can't answer a question. What should we do?

I think, don't hide, tell your child truthfully that you don't know, and then find the answer with your child.

For example, "Dad, why does the sun rise in the east instead of in the south?" If dad doesn't know the answer, he can say to the child, "Dad doesn't know now, so let's find the answer together."

Explore the answers with your children. You can go to museums, flip through encyclopedias, or check online. This exploration process can not only enable parents and children to acquire knowledge together, but also increase their feelings.

Dare to say I don't know in front of children, in fact, it is far more important than maintaining parents' dignity and pride. No one can know all the answers in the world, but there must be many ways to find them.

Asking questions is the first step for children to open their curiosity and the first lesson for TA to grow up. The answer is not the end of asking questions, but a new starting point to inspire thinking. On the road of children's growth, no problem is the biggest problem. The growth of children should not only look at the height, but also look at the height of thought.