No matter how hard it is in marriage, why not get divorced easily?

Marriage is never easy. When you start a family and are surrounded by trivial things like daily necessities, your mood is easily affected. In marriage, couples will occasionally quarrel over trivial matters, but no matter how hard married life is, the word "divorce" should never be uttered easily. It is normal for husband and wife to have minor conflicts. If they are made into a fuss, it will lead to big mistakes.

Marriage is not about playing house. When they are happy, the two of them will talk and laugh happily; when they are at odds, they will divorce easily. People who casually say "divorce" do not take marriage as a serious matter. A person who treats marriage as a child's play will naturally not be happy.

After Xiaoyu and Liu Da got married, Liu Da was busy with work all day and rarely took care of his family. As a result, Xiaoyu was mainly responsible for all matters at home and outside the home, including taking care of both parents. Xiaoyu was also responsible for both ends.

As time went by, Xiaoyu felt that such a married life was so tiring. Every time Liu Da went home, Xiao Yu didn't give him a good look and deliberately looked for trouble to quarrel with. Over time, Liu Da also began to annoy Xiao Yu, and his relationship with her became weaker and weaker.

After being married for less than five years, Xiaoyu said "divorce" to Liu Da countless times, but she kept delaying it because Xiaoyu and Liu Da had a three-year-old daughter.

Finally, one time, Liu Da couldn't stand Xiaoyu saying "divorce" every time, so he actually divorced her.

Xiao Yu was worried that her child would not be well taken care of living with Liu Da, so she fought for the custody of the child, and Liu Da was responsible for paying the child support every month.

Xiaoyu discovered that divorced life was not as good as she imagined. She takes care of her children by herself, has to go to work every day, and is exhausted every day.

After the divorce, Xiaoyu and her daughter have been living in her parents’ home. Because I was divorced and had a child, my relatives gossiped a lot. As time passed, her parents began to blame Xiao Yu, saying that she was too impulsive and divorced, which also affected the family's reputation.

So, Xiaoyu was not comfortable living in her parents’ home. The original Xiaoyu family has broken up, and now her parents' family doesn't like her very much, so Xiaoyu's life has become difficult.

In our lives, there are actually many marriages and families like Xiaoyu’s.

When a husband and wife live together, because they have different concepts, their views and ways of handling things will be different, so differences are inevitable.

So, let’s analyze, where are the main marital problems between Xiaoyu and Liu Da? In my opinion, there are three main reasons.

First of all, Liu Da is busy at work. This is an objective fact. Because a man needs to support his family, he has to put in a lot of effort. As a wife, you should understand this. Secondly, although Liu Da cannot change his work, Xiaoyu can communicate with him about the division of family responsibilities. For example, since Liu Da is busy with work, he should not neglect his family life. Xiaoyu should communicate these thoughts to him. Only through communication can there be room for negotiation and the possibility of resolution. Thirdly, Xiaoyu shouldn't keep talking about the word "divorce". There should be more understanding and consideration between husband and wife. You can say more pleasant words; however, it is best not to say hurtful words, such as the word "divorce." Because she did not consider these issues carefully, Xiaoyu eventually divorced. This is a pity. Once a couple divorces, it will have a great impact.

After divorce, the relationship between husband and wife will break down.

The reason why they became husband and wife is because two people who did not know each other happened to meet each other at the right time and in the right place. From lovers to relatives, we have gone through a lot of hard work along the way. Along the way, there was crying, laughter, and joy. If you get divorced because of some trivial things, then the relationship that the two people have worked so hard to build will be like a mirror dropped to the ground. Once it is broken, it can never be restored. What a pity this is!

After divorce, your reputation will be affected.

A divorced person will have an additional label of "divorced". When outsiders see this label, they will make some bad comments and opinions about themselves. Sometimes, it even affects one's own family members. In fact, this is not worthwhile.

Just like Xiaoyu, after the divorce, she returned to her parents’ home with her children. Relatives at home will say some unpleasant things to themselves and even their parents. It is unfair to parents and children to have to endure these bad reputations because of their own impulsiveness.

After divorce, it will also have a bad impact on the children.

Children are actually innocent. There is nothing wrong with him, but he has to bear the many consequences of his parents' divorce.

After divorce, a family will become incomplete. Every child longs for his own home, hoping to have a father and mother at home. However, if the parents divorce, the child's wish cannot be realized. Although after the divorce, your father or mother who does not live with you can visit you occasionally, you can never make up for this regret.

In addition, children may become introverted and have low self-esteem due to their parents’ divorce. This is very detrimental to their growth.

So, even if you encounter difficulties, don't say "divorce" easily. If you make a decision easily without careful consideration, you will not only regret it, but it will also have many negative consequences.

In marriage, it is easy to fall in love but difficult to stay together. There will be difficulties and setbacks in married life. When things happen, couples should communicate more, be more tolerant and understanding. When husband and wife learn to support each other and understand each other, the road to marriage will become wider and wider.