How to communicate with children about the school bullying incident?

It's normal to feel angry when you learn that your child is being bullied, especially by an adult, but we need to control our emotions and don't explode in front of the child, because it may scare the child and make it difficult for him to tell you frankly about his problems. So, before you start talking about bullying, adjust your emotions.

2. Observe and describe your child's abnormal behavior

You can describe the abnormal things you usually observe about your child to your child, for example, "Mom/Dad found that you seem particularly unwilling to go to school every morning this week, and you also told Mom/Dad that you have a stomachache every day. Can you tell me why?"

3. Communicate in a relaxed environment

Try to share your happy and unhappy things with your children every day. In addition, you can also use painting, writing and other ways to describe the scenes you have experienced in a day, which can help you and your child establish an open and frank communication atmosphere.

4. Tell your child that it is your responsibility to protect him.

Talk with your child about being bullied as a child. What would you do? And make sure that mom and dad will stand by him and support him unconditionally forever.

5. Thank your child

For telling your child, you appreciate his courage to tell you about it, and at the same time help him realize that only when you are willing to talk about it can parents have a chance to help you. A more effective expression is: "I know you need a lot of courage to tell me this. Even though it is so difficult, you are still willing to tell me. Thank you for your trust.

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6. Encourage problem solving

When children start telling stories about bullying, it means that the process of problem solving has begun. It is very helpful for children to have a sense of control over problems and solutions, and adults can also give them encouragement, such as: "You don't have to face these alone, let's find solutions together. However, let the children put forward some specific details of their own thinking first.

7. Talking about other people's affairs

Talking about other people is a good way to chat. Children will talk about who eats the slowest in class, who is punished most often, who has the best homework, who hit whom today and so on. Of course, in the process of chatting, parents can know what position he is in and what he thinks of his classmates' behavior, and then know what kind of physical and mental state his child uses to do things at school.

8. Don't "deny", just "do the same thing"

When adults chat with their children, it is easy to happen that adults often like to deny their children's feelings. Keeping a neutral tone and feeling his feelings in the same way can often let you know more about your child's thoughts, understand his needs, and then help him solve his predicament.

9. Don't "preach". Just "listen" and chat with children. The most taboo is preaching.

Chatting on any topic is meaningless as long as it is reduced to preaching and listening to training. Therefore, chatting can maintain a high degree of interest in children and topics. Ask more questions, comment less, say more "you" and say less "I", and it is easy to keep the topic going.

1. Pay attention to body language

Proper body language will make children feel that you value him and seriously want to chat with him. Children are very sensitive to body language. Never talk to others while perfunctory, or stare at the computer while listening to him.

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"The safe growth of children requires the efforts of both schools and families". If family education is done well, children can better cope with and avoid bullying.

Finally, I hope every parent of ours can gain something.